When Your Priest Cancels Two Weeks Before Your Wedding…

Do not allow yourself to panic.

Yes, you may have worked with him months ago to perfect every detail of your ceremony. Yes, you may have really connected with him as a person and his style. Yes, he may have been an integral part of your fiance’s conversion to the faith.

But do not panic.

Better yet, go turn on the news and see all the crazy things that are happening in the world. It will help keep things in perspective. Know that, luckily, you still have two whole weeks to figure things out. Just think, it could have happened the day before and then you may just have had to panic.

How could this possibly happen, you may ask?

It turns out the Archbishop and Papal Nuncio of Haiti (I just learned this is kind of like an ambassador) is coming to Tampa the day of our wedding. This honored guest is Filipino and our lovely priest happens to be the only Filipino priest in the city. The Archbishop is leading a huge fiesta celebration for the Filipino community and our priest is essentially obligated to assist him in the celebration and with translation. They were also contemporaries in the seminary, so it would be an even bigger slight if he were absent.

Does this totally suck? Yes. We still don’t know what we are going to do. Should this have been addressed months ago? Absolutely. One would think that when an international archbishop comes to town, folks would have some warning. But alas, I refuse to panic, because our wedding will be be wonderful. I will need to adjust my expectations and know that the perfect sermon our priest previewed for us is not going to happen. We may be less comfortable with the celebrant and he may even be a stranger.

I will say our priest feels terrible about this. He has watched Mr. Squirrel’s RCIA process and has become invested in us as a couple. He said he will work hard to find us a replacement. We said the Archbishop was welcome to cocelebrate with him…hah, I wish.

I’m sorry for the vent, but I am bummed. It’s a little hiccup in the final hour and I will survive. More hiccups will come over the next two weeks. Ultimately as long I am married to my favorite guy in the world, it doesn’t really matter who does it.

squirrel

Celebrating our last weeks being single!

Did anyone cancel on you at the final hour?  Did you stay calm or did bridezilla come out to play?

BLOGGER

Mrs. Squirrel

Location:
Tampa, FL
Wedding Date:
May 2013
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  1. Guest
    dcgirl655, Guest @ 1:08 pm

    Oh man!!!! That is rough!!! You have a great attitude though, and I have no doubt that whatever you work out will be perfect!

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    dragonlover 578 posts, Busy bee @ 1:10 pm

    Oh my….

    Well you have a good attitude, and hopefully your priest will really pass along as much as possible to his replacement.

    My wedding is only 30 days away, and I only pray, when something goes wron g(not if) that I handle it half as gracefully.

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    Anon, Guest @ 1:20 pm

    You two are handling this hiccup with grace! An example to all bridzillas out there. You may never see your priest again but you two will have each other forever! Here’s to NO MORE HICCUPS!

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    ladymegbeth 227 posts, Helper bee @ 2:04 pm

    Awww…..I feel horrible for you! I must say though…you’re being (at least on the outside) really wonderful about it. Even if you’re screaming on the inside, you’re an inspiration and example to wanna-be Bridezillas everywhere. Kudos, hon. *HUGS*

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    Mrs. Bracelet 1409 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:41 pm

    Oh yikes! I hope everything works out okay!

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    Mrs. Toadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 2:41 pm

    Wow, this is though. I hope you get to spend a bit of time with your new priest so things won’t be awkward.

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    Mrs. Hyena 2537 posts, Sugar bee @ 2:43 pm

    Sucky situation, but you’re handling it with such grace! I hope you find someone else soon!

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    lovebirds08 320 posts, Helper bee @ 2:54 pm

    You are handling this so well! Our officiant actually just cancelled on us… 2 weeks before… but has an “associate”… I wasn’t the most pleasant that day to say the least but I am sure it will end up fine as well.

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    FOMOTB, Guest @ 3:31 pm

    You have such a wonderful and positive attitude. I am hoping that the perfect replacement is found. Remember to focus on each other and your friends and family that will be there to witness the beginning of your lives together.

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    Mrs. Pony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 4:03 pm

    I’m hoping everything works out for the best for you! Your attitude and focus is are incredible and truly inspiring!

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    Mrs. Rubber Stamps 791 posts, Busy bee @ 5:01 pm

    Yikes, that is rough. I hope your priest can find you a suitable replacement. Kudos to you for holding it together!

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    TMar, Guest @ 6:01 pm

    Ohhhh no!!!! Book him now for the first Baptism ;)

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    Mrs. Sword 1019 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:03 pm

    OH wow, that would be pretty stressful, but what a great outlook you have though!

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    Anna, Guest @ 6:34 pm

    Wow! That is so shocking! I am sure the priest you find will exceed your expectations!

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    Mrs. Squirrel 276 posts, Helper bee @ 7:19 pm

    Thanks everyone!!! It sure is crazy and stressful but we know it will all work out!

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    dommiakpore2014 6 posts, Newbee @ 7:54 pm

    FI and I just had our meeting with my priest two weeks ago. Can’t imagine how you must be feeling. You have such a great attitude. Prayers to you and your FI that God will send you the priest you need. :)

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    Mrs. Road Trip 726 posts, Busy bee @ 6:33 am

    Yikes! That would have thrown me into a tizzy, I’m sure. Not panicking is a good way to be, though, and hopefully the replacement will be able to pull off the plan your original officiant has put together flawlessly.

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    Mrs. Wallaby 2806 posts, Sugar bee @ 9:26 am

    Aww sweetie I’m sorry! I hope you find a new officiant you guys are comfortable with and that it all works out well… You have a great attitude :)

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    Mrs. Gloves 190 posts, Blushing bee @ 1:23 pm

    This is the exact situation that made me cry, for the first time, two weeks before our wedding- our priest was called to Rome. You have great perspective, though, even though it really does suck. And maybe, if you’re lucky, you’ll have another wonderful priest who works really hard to fill the shoes of the original {ours went above and beyond to make our wedding great} and ensures that the ceremony will be just as meaningful and wonderful :)

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    Lindsay, Guest @ 10:50 am

    Oh no! I was married a few weeks ago in St. Petersburg at St. Paul’s- Msgr. Gibbons married us and he was amazing. Maybe you could reach out to him to see if he could fill in!

    Wishing you the best!

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