The top table is one thing that I’m really struggling with.
I’ve been looking through some of the bees’ posts and found that I’m not the only one! Mrs. Seal had this problem, and so did Mrs. Pumpkin, Mrs. Snow Cone, Miss Otter—it gave me a lot of reading to do!
You see, traditionally, the top table is seated like this (I hear it’s different from US top tables).
Image via Wedding Services 4U
But Chatty Man will know no one at this wedding except for Jack and me, and his wife. So if he sits with us at the top table, then his missus will be on her own, and I don’t think that’s very fair.
I think Chief would have much more fun sitting with our friends rather than next to Jack’s dad, and if Chatty Man isn’t there then it makes sense for her to not be there either.
So that leaves six of us at the top table. Me, Jack, and both our parents. That’s sorted, right?
But here’s another thing to throw into the mix—I don’t have a large family. So if my parents are sitting with me, who will my grandma sit with? She won’t really know anyone else, and if I sit her at the top table with us, would I then have to sit Jack’s grandparents there too? Because he has three!
I like the idea of my parents sitting with their friends (and my grandma). My dad would be less nervous about doing his speech if he’s surrounded by his friends instead of being at that “centre of attention” table. And Jack’s parents have enough family members around so it would be easy to seat them somewhere else.
Which brings me to what I think would be the best thing to do. The sweetheart table.
I really like the idea of a sweetheart table. I like the idea of spending time with Jack, just the two of us, whilst we eat. We are “going out for dinner” people, and this is really “us.’ To be honest, I would prefer it, too. A head table is a lot of looking out at everyone in front of us. I know that we’ll still be looking out from a sweetheart, but I guess I just feel like if it’s only two of us, it would feel more intimate and less formal and we’d “blend in a bit” (we’d be in the middle of everyone if we did it this way). Plus, a top table would have to be put on the dance floor area of the room and would have to be moved once we’d finished eating, and I kinda don’t want that.
Jack doesn’t like it. He’s pretty against the idea of a sweetheart table right now, and it’s the only thing we’ve disagreed on. As much as I would like a sweetheart table, I do actually have a reason as to why it would work best. Whereas Jack just likes the idea of a top table and that is that.
So! Fortunately, we’ve both agreed to sit down and chat about both options. I’m going to put together a “proposal,” complete with pros and cons, and pictures! (Maybe I won’t do a Power Point presentation because that might be a bit much, haha.) And hopefully he’ll either a) agree with me or b) come up with a better solution. I don’t want to just tell him we’re doing it my way, but I also want him to see my thoughts on it in case he’s got an image in his head of something like this and it’s scaring him.
Image via Wedding Decorator Blog
I’ll let you know what we decide on! Were there many things that you disagreed about?
- Brighton, UK
- Office Manager
- Wedding Date:
- September 2013
- Fabrica Gallery, Brighton