After my mehndi dried, I was whisked away to get dolled up for the gaye holud. Mr. Genie arrived sometime during this, but everyone kept him downstairs.
All my female cousins escorted me down the stairs to Mr. Genie. I walked between them as they held up a canopy improvised with a shawl/veil from a red salwar khammeez. And I was finally joined with Mr. Genie, who was looking great in his red punjabi set.
Before us sat the traditional holud spread:
Lots of Bengali sweets and puddings to feed the bride and groom.
The turmeric paste is the orange mixture on the left. The other dishes contained a lime paste, and a mixture of seeds, which can be used as palate cleansers.
My uncle served as the master of ceremonies. He announced each person or couple as they came up to give blessings. He started with my parents, who tied the rakhi onto our hands, establishing that we were forming a new bond in our lives.
From there, everyone came up to give us the holud blessing and feed us sweets. There were a lot of people there! Thankfully everyone just gave us a teeny spoonful so that we wouldn’t get too full on sweets.
There were a lot of people there, and it was so nice to have a little moment with everyone, but I especially enjoyed sharing this special tradition and ceremony with Mr. Genie, my friends, and Mr. Genie’s family.
The picture above is each holud step as demonstrated by MOH Wino, MIL Genie, my childhood friend S, and a Genie family friend. This is my favorite part of the Bengali wedding ceremony, and it meant a lot to me that they were able to make it on a week night to celebrate with us.
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- Los Angeles
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- Wedding Date:
- July 2012
- Agoura Hills/Calabasas Community Center