After I reached Mr. Toadstool at the end of the aisle, he kissed my forehead and took my hand, and we turned to face the judge who was surprisingly tearing up. I was surprised when I realized she wasn’t the only one; some of our guests got emotional during the entrance. While I never planned to make people cry, I always dreamed with an emotional, more than just paperwork ceremony, so I was pleased.
Good afternoon, everyone. We are here today on this beautiful afternoon, which seems to be custom made for this lovely occasion, to celebrate the marriage of Miss Toadstool and Mr. Toadstool. We are here to celebrate love, that love that took you to make the decision of joining your lives, starting a family, and continuing this love story.
Today you’re starting a new life together, a life that will bring marvelous things, and will present you with difficulties, but as long as you go like this, hand in hand, as long as you feed that love and the commitment you make today, all difficulties can be overcome.
Luis, is it your free and conscious will to join Claudia in marriage? Do you give yourself to her as her husband? Do you take her as your wife?
He responded: I do
Claudia, is it your free and conscious will to join Luis in marriage? Do you give yourself to him as his wife? Do you take him as your husband?
I responded: I do
Then we proceeded with the legal stuff. We each signed and imprinted our thumbs (on blue ink) in four copies of the marriage license.
After that our four parents signed them.
Followed by our witnesses, BM A and my sister for me.
And GM P and Mr. Toadstool’s sister for him.
Then it was time to read our vows. Which we call vows, but were really just words to each other.
Miss Toadstool: We’ve grown together these nine years. I am who I am now because of your presence in my life. You make me a better person, you make me want to be better, you make me stronger, you’ve made me smarter. I can’t imagine a life without you. I love you.
Mr. Toadstool: In those nine years, those two kids grew up together. They were friends, companions, teachers, and apprentices to each other; they were guides and supports and even partners in crime. I want to promise you to always love you and respect you, and make the impossible possible; to make you happy.
Look at Daddy all emotional.
Now Claudia and Luis will handfast their hands.
I shamelessly took this from Mrs. Pain au Chocolat’s ceremony post—copied it, pasted it, translated it, printed it on beautiful ivory colored paper, and…lost it. Luckily, the original translation (still with Mrs. PaC’s pics) was still on my tablet, which I just gave to our officiant.
Claudia, take Luis’s hands palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you. These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to love you all the days of his life.
Now Luis, take Claudia’s hands, palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you. These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young, and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she promises to love you all the days of her life.
MIL gets emotional too
Now, please join hands so that they may be fasted. Remember then as your hands are fasted, that ties are not the ones that bind…
The love already shared by your hearts has been strengthened by the vows you have taken. You will be bound by your love as you are bound by your clasped hands from now until the end of your days.
We decided that our moms would tie the cord. We instructed them in the “how to” before the ceremony and trusted they’d remember it.
These are the hands that will love you with passion, cherish you with tenderness, and lift you up when you fall.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief would overwhelm you.
These are the hands that will wipe tears from your eyes, be they tears of sorrow or joy.
These are the hands that will hold your children and help you to hold your family as one.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
And finally, these are the hands that, even when wrinkled with age, will reach for your own still offering the same sweet tenderness as they do today.
Treasure these hands that you see before you this day. May they always reach out with love, gentleness, and respect. May they build a loving relationship that lasts a lifetime, may they always be held by one another.
If you follow these words and heed this sacred binding, your hands will heal, protect, shelter, and guide. Now, you may remove the cords, but remember the knot as a lasting symbol of your binding and commitment.
Now, with the power vested in me by the state of Sonora, from this moment on, you are legally married.
Congratulations. Luis, you might kiss your bride.
And as simple as that, we were married.
*All photos by Alberto Alcorta Photography