Now, This Is the Story All About How My Wedding Got Flipped, Turned Upside Down

And I’d like to tell a story just sit right there…

I’ll tell you how our wedding changed about a million times before we finally settled on an idea that made sense and cost many less cents than our original plan(s).

There’s a very good reason I don’t write lyrics, and probably a good reason that I don’t plan weddings either.

You see, our wedding has changed direction about a hundred times since we first started planning. It’s not that we didn’t have good ideas. It’s that we had sooo many good ideas. I’ve been planning my $100,000 wedding for the past 10 years, faithfully reading Weddingbee and poring over bridal magazines and blogs for inspiration. My wedding PowerPoint presentation (from the pre-Pinterest days) is 273 pages long and takes five minutes to load. My Pinterest has 25 wedding boards, all dedicated to different themes from “Gatsby” to “vintage seaside” to “vineyard.”

When Mr. Rucksack and I got engaged, I figured all of my extensive research would go a long way in our planning process. I was Wrong with a capital W. It turns out we were in for a lot of sticker shock (wouldn’t you know, my dream $100,000 budget was cut down to $15,000 in the real world) and venue woes. Also, with so many ideas out there it was hard to figure out what exactly was “us.”

We felt a little like this (and even ended up with a semi-nautical theme, ha):

But after months of “planning” we finally have a real vision and real vendors! Whew! Now I just have to keep reeling myself in when I start adding on a million projects and “must have” decorations. I blame Pinterest.

Did you have a hard time paring down your wedding ideas, too?


Mrs. Rucksack

Branford, CT
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    Mrs. Camel 703 posts, Busy bee @ 8:47 am

    I love that video. That is totally Mr. C and me — what exactly does “US” mean when we are super dorky teachers who love cats? Yeah, let’s not have THAT wedding. I think most weddings go through changes. I think ours changed a few times too before I had a very set vision and proceeded from there. The hardest thing for us is that I wanted to do a lot of DIY crafting (it’s something I really enjoy) but eventually our “theme” kind of disallowed it. A lot of the things I was seeing wouldn’t really flow with my other ideas. That was the hard part, otherwise I wanted to have it all!

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    adventurer 209 posts, Helper bee @ 8:49 am

    LOL, I love all those videos – they have one with invitations, too, HILARIOUS. :) Can’t wait to hear more about your wedding, Miss Rucksack!

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    Mrs. Waterfall 1299 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:13 am

    Hahaha, love the Fresh Prince reference :D and I love those engaged videos. Can’t wait to see the final draft of the rucksack wedding, it sounds lovely :)

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    Mrs. Rucksack 494 posts, Helper bee @ 12:06 pm

    Aren’t those Engaged videos the best? Every wedding invitation we’ve opened since watching the invitation episode now consists of us mimicking them – “Is that vellum? Oh my god. An envelope inside of an envelope?”

    @Mrs. Camel – I would have been totally into your dorky cat wedding! I don’t even want to think about what our real “us” wedding would be! Something along the lines of “let’s all eat dinner in front of the tv and pass out in bed by 10pm” (I’m still wondering how I’ll be awake for our whole wedding reception btw)

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    mrsmeyers84 587 posts, Busy bee @ 5:28 pm

    I actually read this blog purely because the title was awesome.

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    Mrs. Pony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 5:45 pm

    Best. Title. Ever.

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    luluvohn 1063 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:03 am

    @Miss Rucksack: Are you sure you’re not me? I have *no clue* how I’m going to stay awake for the reception. I’m in bed by 9:30 most nights, 10 on a weekend.

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    Mrs. Rucksack 494 posts, Helper bee @ 5:38 am

    @luluvohn: I know, right? I’m hoping caffeine+adrenaline will do the trick. Fingers crossed!

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    Mrs. Genie 709 posts, Busy bee @ 9:58 am

    We had a long engagement, and our wedding vision changed tons before we made a decision, after a Year of waffling back and forth and up and down! I totally feel ya, Miss R!

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    MaryRachel 307 posts, Helper bee @ 12:41 pm

    I’m all over the place too–and totally with you on not being able to stay up. Our reception will end at 10:30 but who knows if I can stay awake long enough to get to the hotel!

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