While Mr. O and I are very excited about our bridal party, we also wanted to make sure that we took time the day of to honor and acknowledge our families. Mr. O and I decided not to put siblings in our bridal party for a few very simple reasons:
1. There’s a lopsided number. I have two adult brothers and one younger half brother and Mr. O has one sister. We wanted a smaller bridal party and it wouldn’t have been fair to Mr. O to have to give up two spots and me only one.
2. Our siblings are all over the place. Orchard’s sister E travels like, four days out of the week, all over the country and has a home base in Missouri. Orchard Bro A is in Texas. Orchard Bro M1 is back home in Washington.
3. We aren’t having children in the wedding. No ring bearer, no flower girl. Nada. Kids are unpredictable and my type A self just can’t deal with not knowing if things will go smoothly or not.
4. Bridal stuff is expensive and we didn’t want everyone traveling back and forth constantly, spending money on airfare to attend bachelor parties/ bridal showers/ etc. as well as suits and dresses and all of the other expenses of a wedding. While Orchard’s sister is settled in a career, my brothers are just out of college and trying to establish careers and getting everything moving, so while I know they would do it, I also know it would be a lot to ask of them right now.
Still, we love our family and we want them to be acknowledged as a key part of our day. Since there’s a pretty big age range we know everyone will have different roles. Our older siblings have kindly offered to each read a passage at the ceremony. My littlest brother will likely help in passing out goodies for our ceremony exit, along with my aunts and likely, our mamas. All of our parents and siblings will have a proper and amazing entrance into the reception complete with hand picked music and (hopefully) some dancing. There will be the traditional parent dances and toasts. Until recently, everyone was fine with this but as you all know, weddings can bring up some emotions so we’ll see how it all works out in the end!
Anyone else coming up with special roles for family on your wedding day?