Mr. Wellies and I had been together for two years when I decided I was going to propose to him. We often talked about our future together: buying a house, getting married, and having kids. I knew without a doubt that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.
I started considering the idea of proposing after reading several blog posts on the issue, including these two articles from A Practical Wedding. I thought, Why should I have to wait for him to propose to me? We’re both feminists who don’t always do things the traditional way; after all, we moved in together seven months into our relationship. When I asked him what he would think of me proposing, he said it would be awesome and he’d love it. I brought up the issue of emasculation, as detractors online argued that a man would feel undermined if a woman proposed to him. Mr. Wellies said he wouldn’t feel emasculated at all; rather, it would show how much I care about him. With his blessing, I knew I was going to do it. The question was: How?
After perusing Etsy, I quickly found a ring, made by HeartAndSolDesigns:
Image via HeartAndSolDesigns
It’s hand stamped with Hebrew letters: Ani L’dodi, v’dodi Li, which means “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine.” (During our conversations about the future, Mr. Wellies told me he wanted to convert to Judaism. He knew how important Judaism was to me and wanted to be able to share it with me and with our children. Consequently, I thought the ring was very appropriate.)
On a Friday, I stayed home from work and decorated our apartment with string lights and candles, to surprise Mr. Wellies when he got home. His favorite meal, vegetables Wellington, was cooking in the oven, while “Ho Hey” by The Lumineers was playing in the background. As he walked through the door, my heart was pounding like crazy. Would he like it? Would he say “Yes?”
What do you think of women proposing?