The Sweet Ride: Can You Really Be Just a Guest?

Remember when I told you that my friend Pri was getting married and I made her a small gift for her bachelorette party? Well, she got married, and Mr. Scooter and I were so honored that she thought enough of us to invite us. Since she married an American guy, they had two ceremonies: Indian and American. This was my first Indian wedding, so it was a fun experience for me.

What I thought was awesome and amazing about this wedding was the merging of the two cultures. This was an occasion of firsts for me. My first time getting henna and first time going to an Indian ceremony, first time going to a wedding as an engaged couple.

Before the wedding, my friend Fallon and I decided that we were going to get henna! We took off work early on a Thursday and headed 30 minutes out of town to get it done by a tattoo artist named Deanna.




I let it dry overnight and went to work on Friday. On Saturday, we headed to the wedding venue. I borrowed a saree from a friend at work (thanks Shipra—you’re awesome), and the only problem was I had NO IDEA on how to take the beautiful piece of fabric and make something that would cover my body. Fortunately, the bride provided saree-tying for $15. It was money well spent and it gave my friends and me a time to just relax before the Indian ceremony.


This is my friend Fallon’s “say hi to the hive” face.

While we were waiting to get our sarees tied, the bride walks in! She looked so pretty. Keep in mind, I have known Pri for years, but I hadn’t seen her dressed up. She allowed me to sneak a few pictures, and I promised I wouldn’t post to any social media before her groom got to see her. So now, it is safe to share.


The bride getting prepped for the Indian ceremony


The bridal henna


The bridal foot henna


The finishing touches”¦so pretty

She was simply stunning. Everything was so meticulously put together. I loved it! I absolutely loved it. Unfortunately, we took longer than expected with our saree-tying and missed a bit of the beginning of the ceremony where the groom isn’t admitted entrance until he gets past her mother. And her mother tries to grab Pat’s nose! No pictures of that. And I didn’t feel comfortable snapping pictures during the ceremony because I was too busy being intrigued by what was going on. There were so many things going on. It wasn’t as long as the traditional Indian ceremony; it was about two hours long. Afterward, the group got together for a few pictures outside.




After the Indian ceremony we grabbed lunch, wrapped our gift, and returned to the hotel to get ready for the American ceremony.


Mr. Scooter and me on our way to the American ceremony. Don’t you just love his bald head?!?


The bridal party waiting for the bride to come


The bride arrived and the ceremony began.

The American ceremony and reception both occurred in the ballroom. Seating was reserved for the immediate family, and the rest of the guests stood and watched. I didn’t think that I would get emotional. I did just see her get married a couple hours earlier, but when she came in, I got a little misty! Seeing your friend go from a single woman to a married woman and recognizing all that comes with it—good and bad!—is moving. After the ceremony, the dinner was served. You had a choice between an Indian meal or an American meal. Mr. Scooter and I opted to get one of each for us to try. I hate to admit it, but that was my first time having Indian food. It was sooooooooooo good! I literally have had Indian cuisine four times since the wedding.


Photo taken by the talented Cory Nguyen

Let the dancing begin!!!!


Photo taken by the talented Cory Nguyen


Photo taken by the talented Cory Nguyen

This is my favorite dance shot! Check out Mr. Scooter in the back. He was concentrating on whatever it was. And my friend Adele on the left is loving the song! (My arms are not that long—it was the lens.)

It was an amazing time, but this was just the first of three weddings that I will attend as an engaged woman. All three of the weddings we have to attend, the couples were engaged after us and will be married before us. For those brides-to-be out there with long engagements like me, were you able to attend as a “guest” and not a bride?



Mrs. Scooter

Wedding Date:
September 2013

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    Miss Wellies 1425 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:56 am

    I have four weddings in the next three months, so I’ll let you know. ;)
    I love that they had two ceremonies and made the wedding an all-day event!

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    amandaleaou 202 posts, Helper bee @ 11:25 am

    I’ll be going to 2 weddings during our 20 month engagement… the first is coming up next month — my cousin proposed exactly one week after my FI did & they’re getting married 8 months before us, then next February my FI’s co-worker is getting married… they met 6 months after we got engaged, got engaged 6 months later & will be married 3 months before us. I’m so glad we have weddings to go to during this period of our life, because I definitely pay attention to wedding details that I never would have noticed before. It gives me a chance to really appreciate how much hard work they’ve put into the events!

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    lac125 100 posts, Blushing bee @ 11:46 am

    We went to one wedding 4 days after we got engaged and will have a total of 3 this year (including my sister’s), plus one more two weeks before our wedding next year. Having a long engagement lets you get lots of ideas (and also makes you want the time to just hurry up so it can be your turn)!

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    Mrs. Camera 274 posts, Helper bee @ 2:31 pm

    I’ve been to 4 weddings since being engaged.. 2 of which I was a bridesmaid in.. it was difficult not to say “at my wedding…” but I had to think – would I want a bridesmaid saying that during my big day? Probably not. So I held my tongue. But it really made it sink in that hey – this is going to be us really soon!

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    Mrs. Camera 274 posts, Helper bee @ 2:32 pm

    Oh – and I have ANOTHER wedding 3 weeks after we get married. I think that will be the best one of all! When I can just… be a guest!

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    ecjohnson 106 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:31 pm

    I went to a wedding a week before our wedding. It was really bizarre to be so close to our big day and be at a wedding. Like, OMG, that is going to be me next weekend (not next month, year, etc.!) Because of that, I felt more emotional than normal about the goings-on of a wedding.

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    s_hall925 25 posts, Newbee @ 8:02 am

    My fiance and I are having a long engagement (2 years) and we also run a wedding DJ business so we have been to a lot of weddings since I became a “bride”. Our best friends are also getting married in this time period and we are both part of their bridal party. It’s been fun going to other weddings and getting ideas and seeing how things work, but it hasn’t helped the budget for the wedding. I tend to find new things pretty much every weekend that I think are just amazing and “must-have” for our special day, lol.

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    Mrs. Waterfall 1299 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:31 pm

    I went to two weddings while engaged and it’s really hard to not look at everything through bride eyes!

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