A Highland Fairy Tale: We Fake Out Our Guests

From the second we got engaged I KNEW what our first dance song would be—”Raise Your Glass” by Pink. I know, I know, its super mainstream and popular and oh wait, it’s not a slow song!


That didn’t bother us in the slightest. Instead of starting with Pink’s song, we would begin by slow dancing to another favorite song (“A Thousand Years” by Christina Perri) for about 45 seconds before having the DJ cut off the music completely. At which point we’d look around confused until he started playing “Raise Your Glass” and then of course we were gonna bust a move. But how did Pink’s song become our song? For that story we have to go back to when we first started dating.


At the beginning of our relationship, Mr. Sword and I lived on separate sides of Chicago. If you know Chicago you will understand that on a good day it took me 35 minutes to get there by car, and an hour on bad days, and since he didn’t have a vehicle, Mr. Sword relied on the CTA which meant an hour and a half minimum. Needless to say, we spent our entire weekends together, usually staying at his place in Wicker Park. Unless one of us had a friend in town.


This particular weekend, honor attendant and bestie H was in town to visit me. This meant no crashing with Mr. Sword and to my then boyfriend this also meant going out drinking with his buddies till the wee hours of the morning.


Late that night, after H and I were settled in and sleeping, I got a call on my cell phone from Mr. Sword. It was something like 3:00 AM and I felt bad that he had woken up H, but she encouraged me to answer to make sure everything was OK. Well he was drunk and told me he just wanted to leave me a message. So, after a quick goodnight, I hung up and let him call back and then promptly fell back asleep.



I woke up the next morning and listened to his message but there was nothing there. It sounded all muffled and weird. I’m thinking, “what the hell is going on?” This static noise goes on for a minute or so and then I hear “raise your glass” being whispered by Mr. Sword and then later I hear him say, “Oh Shit.” It’s the part of “Raise Your Glass” where Pink says her glass is empty. I finally realize what he was doing and I start laughing hysterically. I explain to H that whenever we would go out together and Mr. Sword would come home too wired to sleep, we would listen to music while laying in bed sharing one ear bud. Well, this time, Mr, Sword had drunkenly put the ear bud up to his cell phone in the hopes that I would be able to hear it and share a song with him before bed even though we weren’t in the same place. Awww!


Too bad it didn’t quite work out that way!


“My glass is empty! That sucks.”

Now whenever H hears “Raise Your Glass,” she thinks of us and that night and when I thought of dancing with my husband at our wedding, I knew our favorite Pink song would be perfect! Because, hey, we’re all wrong in the right ways sometimes.


Dirty little freaks.


We invited our bridal party to join us for the last chorus and it was such a rush to have them invade the dance floor. I wish I could relive that moment over and over again!



Such a great way to start the party. Raise your glass!

All photos by Crystal Liepa Photography.

Is anyone else planning a more unique first dance, maybe a fake out, maybe choreographed?


Skipped some of the Sword saga? It’s OK, catch up today!

Teaser video!
Final preparations, snow, and tears!
Ladies’ Luncheon!
Elevators of anxiety!
Rehearsing and screaming!
Burgers and surprises!
Kisses at midnight!

The Big Day
Bacon for bridal baby!
Hair and makeup!
Men in kilts!
Tiara and bouquet!
Becoming a bride!
Champagne toasts!
First look!
Cold couple portraits!
The Swords with swords!
The men pose!
The women pose!
Altogether now!
Elevator madness!
Big reveal!
Family photos!
Posing with our flower girl!
True Scotsman indeed!

People processing!
Bridal cry/laugh walk!
Ceremony readings!
Vows and handfasting!
Receiving line!

Cocktail hour!
The pretty details!
Grand entrances!
We get roasted!
Parent dances!


Mrs. Sword

Wedding Date:
March 2013
A Daffodil Deja Vu
Gallery of the Day: August 20, 2013
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    lealorali 4827 posts, Honey bee @ 7:11 am

    What a fun first dance!!!

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    jessc4343 219 posts, Helper bee @ 7:23 am

    I don’t know if it’s just one of those days but I got emotional when you said “…it was such a rush to have them invade the dance floor. I wish I could relive that moment over and over again!”

    So perfect!

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    MsGinkgo 8827 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 7:32 am

    Our song (I Caught Fire – The Used) came about pretty much the same way. We’re still debating if we should play it at the wedding as it’s not completely appropriate for all ages.

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    wellies 1425 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:47 am

    I love the story behind your song! 😀

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    LK, Guest @ 8:07 am

    Our first dance was a very similar scenario! We danced for 1-2 minutes to “This Year’s Love”, pretended to be confused when the music changed, and had our bridal party bust onto the dance floor to do the Harlem Shake with us. Many of our guests thought it was unplanned/a surprise on us as the bride and groom. Definitely a fun moment of the day :)

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    Mrs. Waterfall 1403 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:26 am

    What an unusual first song choice, it’s great that it’s meaningful to your relationship!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 10:04 am

    What a fun story, it looks like it was such a fun dance!

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    ItalianTraveler 57 posts, Worker bee @ 10:07 am

    That is hilarious! I literally laughed out loud.

    We did kind of the same thing at our wedding, though my husband had no idea it was happening! When chosing our wedding song, I wanted something mainstream just so that I would randomly hear it on the radio and be reminded on our wedding day. Mr. IT wanted “Pour Some Sugar on Me” by Def Lepard. It was the first song we ever REMEMBER dancing to at the first wedding we ever went to as gf/bf. I won, and we agreed to go with Hunter Hayes’s song “Wanted”. But I had a secret conversation with our DJ, and after the first verse/chorus of “Wanted”, the Def Lepard song mixed in before taking over! Mr. IT was COMPLETELY surprised, and the picture of his face when he realized what was going on is one of my favorites from the day :-)

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    CoCo, Guest @ 2:52 pm

    Love it!!!

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    sword 1029 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:17 pm

    @lealorali: Such a blast!

    @jessc4343: that sounds like me! I get randomly overcome with emotion too! So sweet.

    @bibbleskip: Probably depends on the average age of your guests and how your family would feel about it. Then again, it’s your wedding, play whatever you like!

    @Miss Wellies: Thanks girl.

    @LK: That sounds fantastic! That’s awesome that your guests were confused too. Nice surprise!

    @Mrs. Waterfall: Yea super bizarre choice, so worth it though!

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    sword 1029 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:28 pm

    @Mrs. Pony: Thank you, it really was a blast!

    @ItalianTraveler: Ahh, what an amazing surprise for your hubby, love it!

    @CoCo: thank :)

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