Gloves in Love: A Catholic Mass

Hive, hello—I’m back! And ready to recap my ceremony. A few things—first, I had the hardest time finding an outline for our wedding mass, especially since we were doing the full Catholic mass, in the new form. So, if you’re interested, please feel free to use our program, found here. Part two—I’m including most of the text of the mass. It was really lovely, but an hour long, so sorry if this gets to be long winded. Now, onwards and upwards!

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“Good afternoon and welcome, everyone, as we celebrate this beautiful occasion of love. My brothers and sisters, let us begin beautiful celebration of love as we sing ‘Joyful, Joyful We Adore You.’” (Like this, but with slightly less Whoopi Goldberg.)

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“My brothers and sisters, let us pray. In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, Amen. Be attentive to our prayers oh Lord, and in your kindness uphold what you have established for the increase of the human race, so that the union you have created may be kept safe by your assistance. Through our Lord Jesus Christ your son, who lives with and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one god forever and ever, Amen.”

“My dear friends, please be seated as we listen to God’s word.”

For our first reading, we chose Book of Genesis 2:18-24. We asked Jordie, our college friend, to read for us.

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And for the second reading, we chose (incredibly standard, but I love it still) 1 Corinthians 12:31 . Rachael, my college roommate and one of my best friends, read it.

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Then we stood for the Alleluia. Hive, I haven’t discussed it extensively, but I was so irritated with the church coordinator. This is tiny, but I had asked for the Celtic Allaluia, which is lovely. She told me she didn’t care for it and wouldn’t allow it to be played. Irritated, still. Anyway, we stood for the (not Celtic) Alleluia, and the gospel reading—we chose Mark 10:6-9. Then we sat for the (surprisingly extensive) homily. Please feel free to skip through the entire text—although I found it lovely. :)

“My brothers and sisters, once again, welcome. On this beautiful, sunny afternoon, as Evan and Erin pledge their love, their very lives to one another, before you their family and their closest friends. Doesn’t Erin look lovely? Evan, you cleaned up pretty well too—even shaved.” (We only met him a week before our wedding, but our priest was really lovely!)

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“My dear friends, Evan and Erin, you are about to enter into a union that is sacred and serious. It is sacred because it is established by God himself. You truly believe this. And it is serious, because it will bond you two together, for life, in a relationship that is so close and so intimate, it will profoundly affect your future.”

“In a few short moments, Evan and Erin, you’re going to exchange your wedding promises. You will take each other and be true to each other, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. You will love and honor each other as husband and wife the rest of your lives. Truly then, my brothers and sisters, these words are to be taken seriously. It is a beautiful tribute to their undoubted faith, first of all, in God, and then their faith in each other. Because these words involve such solemn obligations, it is most fitting that these promises rest in the security of holy matrimony—the security of your wedded life, built on the principles of self sacrifice.”

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“Evan and Erin, you begin your married life by voluntary giving up your individual lives in the interest of a deeper, more beautiful life together. Just like the sun that’s beating through the stained glass windows this afternoon—that’s how your marriage is to penetrate all the dark shadows that are in the world. As the light is reflected and illuminates many good things, so is your marriage supposed to do that for all the lives that you touch. Henceforth, Erin and Evan, you will belong entirely to each other—one in mind, one in heart, one in affection. And that’s how the sacred covenant, this marriage, brings Jesus’s light into the world. And whatever sacrifices you may have to make for the preservation of this mutual life, make those sacrifices generously. As I told Evan before we came out, forgive, forgive, and forgive.”

“Also you are going to, in a few short moments, exchange your rings. These wedding rings symbolize that the two of you are joined in a relationship that has no end, just as the round rings have no beginning and no end. When you are apart, the rings will remind you that you still have each other. They are a symbol, a symbol to each other that your life, your entire being belongs to one another—body, heart, and soul. And once you take these rings, you can no longer live for yourself, you live for each other. Truly then, my brothers and sisters, these words, these signs, these symbols, that they will soon demonstrate before you are to be taken seriously.”

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“In a world with so many broken relationships, it is this kind of faith that all of us need to witness, but not only witness, but continue to sustain. All of you who are guests that are here are so much a part of this marriage that you not only hold them dear to you on this, their wedding day, but do so for the rest of their lives. Comfort them in their sorrows, rejoice in their joys, remember their anniversary—sustain their love from this day forward. That’s your job, as family, as friends.”

“But Erin and Evan, your vow and and rings are not the only signs and symbols and attributes of your marriage that we celebrate here today. Both of you here together are a symbol and a reminder to all of us that God loves his creation. When we see you two together, witness your care, your love for one another, when you take care of each other in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, you remind us that God loves us. This holy sacrament of marriage, in which you freely enter today, makes us all joyful and want to celebrate this special day with you, just as Jesus our Lord celebrated the wedding of his friends at Cana. He is a witness today of this covenant, of your tender and lasting love.”

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“And so my brothers and sisters, this is an afternoon, a day to rejoice. Continue to support Evan and Erin all their married years. Continue to give them your love. They come from two wonderful families—continue this family. And so, Evan and Erin, even though I didn’t get to spend much time with you, my last thoughts are to become what you symbolize. That you are no longer two, but are of one heart. You no longer take, but you give. Treasure this day always, treasure these moments of love, hold on to this love for the rest of your lives. My God bless you both on this, your wedding day.”

This is getting lengthy, so I’ll cut of here. Next up, vows! And rings! And tears—oh my. :)

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Mrs. Gloves

Location:
Columbus, Ohio
Wedding Date:
January 2013
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    christinamarie980 761 posts, Busy bee @ 2:03 pm

    What a beautiful church! Congratulations! You look so beautiful and happy. May God Bless your marriage :)

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    Mrs. Sword 1020 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:03 pm

    the church is so beautiful! Glad your ceremony was so personal to you guys! And that’s so lame about your church coordinator.

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    spotted_giraffe 312 posts, Helper bee @ 2:04 pm

    That was a really lovely homily! Thanks for including your program and all the text, it’s useful!

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    Mrs. Blue Whale 633 posts, Busy bee @ 2:35 pm

    I get so excited every time I see pictures of your church. My dream wedding in my head was always in a cathedral as dramatic as yours.

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    eradicatereality 136 posts, Blushing bee @ 3:14 pm

    That church is INCREDIBLE and your shots in it are AMAZING!

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    veggie_rachel 575 posts, Busy bee @ 3:21 pm

    “With slightly less Whoopi Goldberg.” HAH!

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    Mrs. Waterfall 1310 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:08 pm

    What a beautiful ceremony! Thanks for sharing, I know I struggled to find a catholic full mass ceremony outline as well, so I’m sure many bees will find it quite useful!

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    gwaihir 17 posts, Newbee @ 8:55 pm

    I used to sing in the choir at my church and at my Catholic school. I love the Celtic Alleluia as well and miss it; I don’t think my parish has used it since the mass changed. Is it no longer allowed, or was it just your music coordinator? I tried to google it and didn’t have much luck.

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    Mrs. Gloves 190 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:25 am

    @christinamarie980: Thank you :)
    @Mrs. Sword: so lame doesn’t even scratch the surface- just wait for the vendor review..it’s abysmal.
    @spotted_giraffe: of course! Anything I can do to help out future brides :)
    @Mrs. Blue Whale: well thank you- I seriously always thought that I would have a super bright and fun wedding…and then we ended up with a black and white cathedral situation!
    @Eradicatereality: right? I cannot handle how ridiculously talented our photogs are!
    @veggie_rachel: McGlovin is, for some reason, addicted to that movie, and I’ve seen it no less than a dozen times…
    @gwaihir: no, it’s totally allowed! Other churches that I go to use it- and my coordinator was just the worst. A destroyer of hopes and dreams :)

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    Mrs. Treasure 1639 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:20 am

    umm The Celtic Alleluia is a classic! How could anyone not like it? We had it at our wedding.

    Also, that song from Sister Act 2 is my JAMMM!!!

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    Mrs. Candy Apple 1877 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:22 am

    We did a full Catholic Nuptial Mass as well :) Beautiful church!

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    Mrs. Airplane 386 posts, Helper bee @ 7:47 am

    I love the photos of you sitting so contently in your sea of tulle! You look so happy and beautiful!

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    Mrs. Gloves 190 posts, Blushing bee @ 4:49 am

    @Miss Airplane: Thank you! It was both ridiculous and awesome to be all wrapped up in tulle like that :)

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    Mrs. Palm Tree 1080 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:39 am

    “In a world with so many broken relationships, it is this kind of faith that all of us need to witness, but not only witness, but continue to sustain. All of you who are guests that are here are so much a part of this marriage that you not only hold them dear to you on this, their wedding day, but do so for the rest of their lives. Comfort them in their sorrows, rejoice in their joys, remember their anniversary—sustain their love from this day forward. That’s your job, as family, as friends.”

    - Oh, how I love this sentiment. Your priest expressed this PERFECTLY. So beautiful.

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