Hey there, hive! Remember me? It’s been a while. I wanted to pop by with an update on one very important thing: my name.
Last time we left off, I had decided I was going to change my name when Mr. T and I got married. I always knew I would change my name when I got married. I like the idea of having a family name, and it was important to Mr. T that I take his name. Plus, I was never very attached to my maiden name. But as the saying goes, you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone.
I decided early on in our engagement that I would change my name to Molly Middle Married. Four months after the wedding, I officially changed my name. When I looked at the little pieces of plastic in my wallet, it felt odd to see a new name. Who was this new person? She looked like me, but I didn’t recognize her name.
I told myself that I would adjust, that I would grow accustomed to that new combination of letters, but I felt uneasy with my decision. After a few months, that uneasiness turned into regret. I wished I could take back my name. I wished I hadn’t callously thrown it away with little thought. Despite what I thought, I was attached to it. That name was me for two-and-a-half decades. That name was printed at the top of college newspaper articles and in high school yearbooks. It was on trophies, diplomas, and the dean’s list for several semesters. It was announced when I walked across the stage at my high school, college and law school graduations. That name is a major part of who I am, and I wanted it back.
Originally, I considered keeping my maiden name as a second middle name. I decided against it because I thought that would be too cumbersome and confusing. Now, though, it felt like the perfect solution. I could still keep my beloved middle name, share a family name with Mr. T, and retain my pre-marriage identity.
Last week, I returned to the Social Security office for the second time in seven months and refiled the paperwork to have my name changed to Molly Middle Maiden Married. This time, those little pieces of plastic look just right.
Has anyone else had second thoughts about their name change?