Gloves in Love: We Vow

OK, when we last met, the priest had just finished delivering a really lovely homily (that I’m glad to have recorded, because I didn’t remember that most of it had taken place). When he finished, he invited McGlovin and me, and the wedding party, up to the altar. He asked if I was ready, and you can see on the video that my eyes got really wide and I froze for a second—it’s good to know that I’m incredibly awkward, even on such a happy day in my life.

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“My dear friends, you have come together in this cathedral so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of the Church’s minister, and this community of family and friends. Christ abundantly blesses this love. He has already consecrated you in baptism and now he enriches and strengthens you by this special sacrament, so that you may assume the duties of marriage in mutual and lasting fidelity. And so in the presence of the Church, I ask you to state your intentions.”

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“McGlovin and Miss Gloves, have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage?

“Will you love and honor each other as husband and wife for the rest of your lives?

“Will you accept children, lovingly, from God and bring them up according to Christ and his church?

“Since it is your intention to enter into marriage, join your hands and declare your consent before God and his church.”

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(Now, I’d like to interject. To be married in the Catholic church, you must accept and use the traditional marriage vows. That’s fine with me—I love that so many of our loved ones have spoken the same words before us. Hell, my grandparents took those vows almost 60 years ago, and they’re still going strong! What I object to, though, is being fed them, small bits at a time, by the priest, and just blindly repeating without having any idea of what you’re even saying. To that end, I insisted that McGlovin and I memorize them and recite them to one another, without needing the priest to lead us through them. I’m so glad we did that! It really gave us the opportunity to reflect on what we were promising to one another. It also meant, though, that I had to pause several times in the middle to collect myself, because I turned into a hot sobbing mess.)

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He went first:

“I, McGlovin, take you, Miss Gloves, to be my wife. I promise to be true to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you, all the days of my life.”

And then”¦and then I had to pause to organize myself, long enough for the priest and McGlovin to laugh at me, and then start to whisper my lines to me because he thought I forgot them. :)

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“You have declared your consent before the church. May the Lord in his goodness strengthen your love and fill you both with his blessings. What God has joined we must not divide, Amen.”

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Immediately after we said our vows, the priest invited Colin to step up with the rings.

“May the Lord bless these rings with you give to each other as a sign of your love and fidelity, Amen.”

McGlovin was up first:

“Miss Gloves, take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.”

Then my turn:

“McGlovin, take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.”

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“God has given us these promises in the words of sacred scripture, Erin and Evan have given their promises to each other in their marriage. This time of promise is also a time of prayer—to each prayer petition, respond ”˜Lord, hear our prayer.’”

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Now, our intercessory prayers were pretty standard—one of my best friends, Kerry, read them, the priest chose them, and I didn’t particularly object to anything. There were a few interesting ones—when we prayed for the sick, lonely, and depressed, you can see McGlovin looking at me like he had no idea what was going on, and I just raised my eyebrows and shrugged. (Normal behavior, but on the altar in front of everyone??? Good heavens, Miss Gloves”¦get it together.) When we prayed for our deceased grandparents, my eyes leaked so many tears and Mr. G had to lean in a wipe them away, and when Kerry read the prayer of McGlovin’s and my eternal happiness, she looked directly into my eyes as she was reading it, and I laughed and cried at the same time”¦it was touching.

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OK, Catholic ceremonies are long, I know”¦and my posts about them are just as long! There will be one more ceremony post, so stay tuned!

Also, I’ve just shared with you two of my most (unexpectedly) memorable ceremony moments—when McGlovin started reciting my part of the vows, because he thought I forgot them, and when Ker made me cry by praying directly at me. So, what was your most unexpectedly memorable moment in your wedding—good or bad?

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Mrs. Gloves

Location:
Columbus, Ohio
Wedding Date:
January 2013
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    BulldogBride 277 posts, Helper bee @ 12:32 pm

    1. Our vows. Our priest didn’t do the vows like we had put down on our preference sheet. We wanted him to phrase the vows as a question and we would answer “I do.” I wanted this because I thought I would be crying like a baby and wouldn’t be able to speak. At rehearsal he had us repeat the vows after him. Ok, that’s fine. I can live with that. But during our ceremony he handed us a sheet of paper to read the vows from. This was a little disappointing because we couldn’t look each other in the eyes as we were saying our vows. I didn’t look at DH until the last line.
    2. Me and the girls were late. DH is still upset about it. My family is notoriously late for everything and I am always the one early. I was telling DH for two weeks, if we’re late I’m not standing you up. I had everyone get their hair done and get dressed at my house so we could travel together and everyone would be on time. We were doing awesome for time and had half hour before the ceremony started. It only takes 10 minutes to get to the church so we went outside to take some photos with the girls. Well, we got stuck behind some tractors on the way and we were about 15 minutes late. A couple people told me DH looked panicked when I wasn’t there at 1pm.

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    Mrs. Waterfall 1299 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:54 pm

    I still cannot get over that cathedral! Wowza!

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    nowdontletsbesilly 1426 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:41 pm

    I love those moments that surprise you by how memorable they are! For me, it was when our officiant/my FIL started to lose it during his message – every single person started crying at that point, I think! And when my husband didn’t say his vows quite right (he vowed to be the best husband I deserve rather than to do his best to be the husband I deserve!). Also, at the very beginning of the ceremony, a fly/bee/insect was buzzing around his boutonnière, and then my bouquet, so I started giggling a little and people noticed that I was laughing and commented on it later!

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    Mrs. Bracelet 1410 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:24 pm

    That cathedral is an amazing place to hold your wedding!

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    Mrs. Pony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 7:06 pm

    I love that you memorized the vows and that McGlovin tried to recite them to you!

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