The Buzz is a Weddingbee series created by the hive, for the hive! Each week, we’ll head to the boards and ask a series of three questions—one geared toward pre-engaged, one toward engaged, and one for newlyweds. We’ll look to you to quickly provide your expert advice, and compile a selection of great answers into blog posts. Learn more here, and contribute your ideas for future “Buzz” questions you’d like to see answered!
desiree.0615 (wedding date: June 15, 2013)
We switched our photographer the week of the wedding, so I wasn’t able to make a complete list of everything we wanted. Also the timing of everything was never set in stone, so we didn’t get enough time for couple’s portraits…which was a bummer. But I love the picture we did get so I try not to let it upset me too much!
Also in the excitement of our day I forgot to make sure I spoke to everyone that came. We didn’t have a receiving line, and we forgot to go from table to table because people kept coming up to our sweetheart table, so I felt bad the next day when I thought of the people we didn’t get to say hi to and take pictures with. :/
Rubbs (wedding date: July 2012)
I forgot my something borrowed and my something old.
NocturnalNymph (wedding date: August 30, 2008)
I forgot to kiss my dad when he gave me away! I was just too excited to finally be at the other end of the aisle.
And the other thing I regret is forgetting to make my brother his own piece of cake. He’s a coeliac, and I told him I would make him a gluten-free cake, but I completely forgot. I felt so bad when he asked me where it was at the reception.
village_skeptic (wedding date: June 16, 2012)
We didn’t plan tear-down very well. Nearly everyone peaced out at the end of the evening, and my parents, my aunt & uncle, and my new husband & I ended up packing everything up at 1:00 in the morning. And “everything” included a lot of DIY—our hydrangea bowl centerpieces had to be individually dismantled and the bowls repacked, our photo displays and other DIY elements kept safe, etc., etc. Thankfully my mom knew that it would be important to me to save everything, but oh my goodness, I was just dead on my feet and not in a place to think about doing any of it efficiently!
I’m not mad at everyone else for not sticking around—it had been a LONG day for them too—but we should have thought ahead and enumerated what would need to be done and who would do it. We did that for the setup, and it went brilliantly! On the other hand…I will always be grateful to my aunt and uncle for being there to help without being asked. It was one of many unexpectedly sweet memories of that day.
Mrs. Penguin (wedding date: June 7, 2008)
I didn’t pack an after-wedding bag! No pajamas, undies—nothing to change into post-wedding! Not sure why I overlooked that, and I know what you’re thinking…who needs clothes post-wedding …but we wanted to hang out with friends a little bit at the hotel really late night and everyone had changed out of their clothes into their PJs and I didn’t have a single thing to wear other than my wedding dress!
FromPtoD (wedding date: June 22, 2013)
I didn’t plan enough time to get ready before the ceremony. It was supposed to start at 1:00, but getting my hair done took about half an hour longer than it did during the trial run due to a big change in humidity. (We practiced it in the desert town I lived in, but the wedding was close to the ocean.) I showed up at the wedding venue at 12:45, hair up but no makeup and no dress…and people were already arriving. I had to duck behind my guests as fast as I could to get into the bride’s room, where luckily my bridesmaids were ready and waiting. My sister got my makeup done in about 15 minutes, and they all helped me get into my dress and get my veil on, just in time. I was almost late for my own wedding, and didn’t get to spend any time with my sister or the other bridesmaids before the ceremony started, but we still got some great getting-ready photos, and everyone looked wonderful. Oh, I also managed to lose track of my emergency kit, which had the special hair comb I was switching to after I took off my veil…but my cousin found it.
Moral of the story: leave lots of extra time—you don’t need the extra panic of thinking that you’re late and making your future spouse very nervous.
littlemisst08 (wedding date: February 9, 2013)
I forgot the Sharpie pens for the photo guestbook were in my possession, so guests arriving to the reception venue before me signed with ball point pens. The first two or three pages of our guestbook is smeared. Oh well.
Mrs. Mouse (wedding date: September 11, 2009)
This is a pretty “duh” thing, but I completely forgot to try on my dress with my undergarments. I know most brides go through alterations and several rounds of fittings, but I had ordered mine online from an Etsy seller. I tried it on the night before the wedding with my MOH, and we quickly realized that it wasn’t going to stay up on its own! The next day she went off on a mission to find Hollywood tape (double-sided tape that sticks to your skin and your bra) while I was getting my makeup and hair done.
Advice for future brides: For those adventurous online buyers of wedding dresses, try that sh#t on! Multiple times. Especially if there’s a possibility your weight could be fluctuating in the weeks leading up to your wedding.
MrsPaperFlowers (wedding date: May 25, 2013)
We forgot aisle runners! Had to go to Michaels the day of to buy them! (Also, don’t try to NAIL DOWN aisle runners outside when it’s windy.)
sourcandy (wedding date: June 1, 2013)
Don’t forget to pack day-after shoes in your wedding night bag. It looks pretty silly when you’re wearing comfy clothes, have matted hair, and are sporting sparkly shoes…
Always plan for things to take way longer than you anticipate. They just will.
When people offer to help tear down or clean up after your reception, let them help.
Pink Asawa (wedding date: November 2012)
I prepared an emergency kit to have with me and then forget it on my steps before leaving the house! Luckily I didn’t end up needing anything from it!
epalmisano829 (wedding date: August 25, 2012)
Forgot the invitation for the photographer to take pics of, my written thank you speech, and lunch for the ladies…ooops…
lealorali (wedding date: June 21, 2013)
I forgot to tell the photographer to get a shot of the invitation. I had it there all pretty and everything!
Forgot to write my husband a sweet note. Huge fail.
That’s it! That being said, it took me three weeks to pack for the day of!
Mrs. Dragon (wedding date: September 22, 2012)
I planned for the girls and me to have food while getting ready (thanks to my wonderful aunt who set up a great spread!), but I found out MONTHS after the wedding that Mr. D totally failed to feed his groomsmen. As in, they didn’t eat anything at all until cocktail hour. So one of my brothers-in-law was practically passing out at the altar, and when I dragged them all away from the cocktail-hour treats to take pictures, as planned, I had some grumpy groomsmen on my hand. Make sure your partner feeds their people!
lolot (wedding date: August 24, 2013)
Probably a number of things, but what stands out the most is that in the bustle of everything, I left the marriage license in my bridal suite and totally forgot about it. The room then got cleaned out by some family that night and the license, still unsigned, disappeared for several days. We just found it, signed it, and turned it in yesterday.
As our good friend and officiant said, “The wedding went off without a hitch—but there probably should have been at least one hitch!”
I also woke up in our little cabin at the venue on Sunday morning with literally nothing to wear except my wedding dress. I had to wander around in my new husband’s giant shorts and shirt looking for my bag of clothes.
Do you have anything to add to the list? If you’re not married yet, what are you worried about forgetting on your wedding day?
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