I get a surprising amount of emails asking me if I know how Mrs.-so-and-so is doing since “graduating” from Weddingbee. The blogging bees typically stay active through their recaps on Weddingbee, but once the pro pics are blogged and the tulle is packed away, most move on to the next phase of their lives. Their archives live on forever, and weddings planned years ago are still very much relevant and read here on Weddingbee each day! So, we thought it would be fun to kick off a new series, calling upon our bees of yore to check back in with all of us. We hope it’ll give planning bees a chance to re-discover some great blogs and ideas!
So, we’re kicking it off today, and I’m the first on the chopping block
For those of you newer to Weddingbee, I’m Mrs. Penguin—I came to Weddingbee as a bee blogger in 2007. Shortly before my wedding, Mrs. Bee, the founder of the site, was looking for someone to help her with the day-to-day on the site: reviewing applications, copy editing, and scheduling blogs. Weddingbee grew and grew, and so did my role here! I became Editor in Chief of the site in 2009 (read about a day in my life working on the site here) and spend my days communicating with Mrs. Mouse, our editor and community liaison, and our tech, sales, and product team to keep everything running as smoothly as possible ’round these parts.
Mr. Peng and I got married in Amador County near Sacramento (where I’m from), at a heavily DIY winery wedding. Our recaps start here. Our colors were gray, white, and teal, and we tried to keep everything minimal (read: too lazy to source/buy a bunch of stuff).
Here we are, then (2008) and now. It’s been five years since our wedding day.
The best thing that’s happened to us as a couple since we got married is:
Our careers and the Bay Area have treated us well! We haven’t hit any notable milestones (we already bought our condo prior to getting married, and we don’t have children—yet!) but it’s been a great five years of growing older with each other (and Billie Jean, our pup!). We’re ready to take the next step in our lives, hopefully moving into a home…one of these days! Really, we’re not in a rush to do anything except ENJOY IT.
How blogging about my wedding shaped my wedding day:
I think it’s pretty obvious—I suppose I’m the poster child for hobby-turned-career. I started blogging specifically in hopes to become a bee on Weddingbee, and since then have enjoyed almost six years of being the Editor in Chief here! The blogging landscape has changed a lot over the past six years; the wedding blog world, in particular, is quite saturated now! Back when I was planning my wedding, I remember only a handful of full-fledged dedicated wedding blogs: Snippet and Ink, Style Me Pretty, and a couple others. Mrs. Bee was really a pioneer in the space, paving the way for wedding blogging as a business, and it’s been really great to stay closely in touch with her as she continues her career in blogging as well at Hellobee. Learning the business of blogging has been a real eye-opener. I used to think that bloggers could simply run ads on their sites and start generating a decent income—that’s so far from the truth. “Success” in blogging is really hard—forming partnerships, working with the ad sales team, keeping the community happy, delivering great content, squashing bugs, mapping out new features and the road map for the year…it’s a balance and a real team effort. I’m grateful for everyone that works so hard to keep this site up and running!
Why I chose my icon and how my icon has become a part of my identity (if it has):
Why I chose my icon and how my icon has become a part of my identity: I had an early pick of the bird generation. I was choosing between Penguin and Flamingo but ultimately chose the penguin because I’m pretty “penguin-y”…a little roly poly, slow moving, but fun. Nowadays I’m awash in penguin gifts. Most of the greeting cards I get feature a penguin, and I’ve gotten so many surprise gifts in the mail from friends and fellow bees saying that they “saw this and thought of me”¦” It’s so sweet!
My favorite post ever published on Weddingbee:
Wife: Fail—I look back to 2009 and laugh at this post because every day it rings more and more true. I came into our domestic relationship thinking (and behaving) as if it were my job to take care of the domestic household “things”—cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. Nowadays our roles are pretty fluid. I’m truly grateful to be in a relationship with no expectations outside of peace and happiness. We’re just committed to getting through each day however it needs to get done. It’s not “my job” to do this and “his job” to do that. The phrase “whatever makes you happy” is uttered a lot around here.
Pop Quiz! In one sentence or less:
- The best thing about being married is: stability, and having somewhat of an understanding of what the next year, five years, 10 years will possibly look like.
- The worst thing about being married is: apathy; I feel like I’m less hungry for…everything. A great, steady marriage is a blessing and a curse in that way!
- The best thing we registered for was: high-end knives—we use them every day!
- The worst thing we registered for: Essential dinnerware from Crate and Barrel—it’s all chipped and most have gone into the trash well within two years of use.
- When we fight, we make up by: walking away and remembering the bigger picture.
- The biggest challenge we’ve faced since getting married has been: sharing a bathroom (small space living arghhh%&%$$Y^&).
- The way my SO and I reconnect when we both get busy is: hike with the dog.
- When I have a disagreement with my in laws, we resolve it by: conceding to them—life’s too short to fight with parents…and the only people we can change are ourselves!
- If we could do our wedding all over again, the one thing we’d change is: hiring more help, and doing less on our own.
- In five years, I hope that we: live in a house with a yard for Billie Jean to run around in!
We can’t wait to catch up with fellow bees over the next couple months! Follow all the posts (this is the first) in this series in the “Catching-Up” tag!
- Northern California
- Weddingbee Editor in Chief
- Wedding Date:
- June 2008
- Winery in the Gold Country