The Sweet Ride: The Perfect Words for an Awesome Lady

Hive, I need your help. There was no question that we would honor my mother somehow in the ceremony. Oftentimes, my ideas crossed the line of memorial and went into shrine-like territory. For example, one idea that I had was to have a candle burning next to a margarita and a picture of her the WHOLE NIGHT! Typing that makes me feel really creepy. Mr. Scooter (bless his heart) had to bring it to my attention that we are planning our WEDDING not a memorial service for my mother. I know that had to be a tough conversation to plan to have with your grieving fiancée, but he did an excellent job on his presentation. Knowing my mother, she wouldn’t want this day to be about her.

So I am going to honor her a few ways during the ceremony and the reception. During the ceremony, we will have an empty seat open and will place a rose on it in her honor.


Image via provided pretty neat options for those who wish to honor their loved ones who are no longer with us. I am also considering adding something symbolic to my floral arrangement.

During the cocktail hour we will have an AMAZING signature drink called the grapefruit margarita. I think that we will name it The Scooter. An ode to my wonderful support community **pointing at you** and to my mother! WOOT WOOOT”¦how awesome is that?!?

Here is where I get stuck”¦I want a passage to be read before they place a rose on my mother’s seat. It doesn’t have to be religious, but I would like it to be fitting for the occasion. Any suggestions? How did you honor your loved ones?

Can’t wait to hear from you!


Mrs. Scooter

Wedding Date:
September 2013
Classifieds: September 11, 2013
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    missaliam 209 posts, Helper bee @ 6:28 pm

    That first poem brought tears to my eyes! Simple, but beautiful!

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    Mrs. Waterfall 1403 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:39 pm

    Miss Scooter, my heart goes out to you. While I am fortunate enough to have both of my parents still with me, I did struggle with acknowledging my grandparents who have passed and were very important to me. However, I did not want to dampen the mood and have the ceremony turn into a memorial, not only for our guests’ sake, but for our own.

    If I may, the one piece of advice I would give to you is to not go with something overly sad or funeral like. Your emotions will already be running quite high on that day, and your mom’s absence will already be very apparent to you without putting too much of a spot light on it. From what you have written about Mama Scooter, she sounds like she was a very vibrant and joyful woman, who would not want you to be sad on your wedding day on her account. Maybe celebrate her memory by playing her favorite song or reading her favorite poem as the rose is being placed?

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    jylart38 27 posts, Newbee @ 3:15 pm

    Miss Scooter, I am sorry for your loss. Special events like these sometimes amplify grief and the feeling of loss especially. I’m aware of this because I’ve lost my Dad. It brings me to tears at the weddings of friends when they do the father/daughter dance.

    I really like the idea of placing a rose on a chair. The first poem, “Don’t Cry For Me”, was wonderful. If your Mom had a favorite poem or passage, reading that would also be a wonderful way to honor her without it becoming “a memorial”.

    Miss Scooter, I lost my Dad the day before my 19th birthday. That was 19 years ago. Since then I have learned a lot about the loss of a parent. They really never leave you – I feel my Dad’s presence often. Like the poem said, your Mom WILL be “right by your side”.

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    birdsinthetrees 3 posts, Wannabee @ 11:55 pm

    I went to the wedding of a very close friend who had lost her mother about a year before the wedding. It was not just the bride and her family who were emotional about the loss at the wedding, but all of us who knew and loved her mom. Everything did feel extra-emotionally charged because of this painful loss. The way they dealt with this was by having people speak at the rehearsal dinner – anyone was welcome to speak (although you could do speeches) – and anyone who was moved mentioned her mother in their words if they wished to. (Of course, there were many other lighthearted stories told as well!) This allowed for the free flow of tears and pent-up emotions to be released at the rehearsal, taking the edge and pressure off of the wedding, for everyone, and for the bride and her family. I wish you a wonderful wedding day and the feeling of your mother’s spirit by your side!

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