(Ah…the last of my recaps…yikes!) I know that there is a lot of debate surrounding the tosses. Some people absolutely hate the idea, while other people love the tradition. Many a bee has dedicated a post explaining her reasoning against the tradition (Mrs. Lemur) or for the tradition (Mrs. Dalmation)—and some ended up with spontaneous tosses (Mrs. Genie). And since I’m writing about it, I’m obviously in the pro-toss camp.
Our wedding was the first among my group of friends, and I wanted to have my friends experience this typical wedding tradition. None of them was against it, as it was all done in good sport.
Sometime during the dancing portion of the evening, I asked the DJ to call the single ladies to the floor. I didn’t designate a special song, but I think that Marek might have played Beyonce’s “Single Ladies.” We had seven ladies of “marriageable age”: four bridesmaids, two friends, and one of Mr. B’s cousins.
Excuse my weird face—I was trying to gauge out how high I could throw the bouquet.
Another thing that gets discussed when talking about bouquet tosses: toss bouquet vs. your bouquet. I chose not to have our florist make a special toss bouquet. My wedding bouquet was lovely, but after that night…I didn’t see myself keeping it or using some of its flowers in a shadowbox. *
BM K caught the bouquet much to her surprise—just look at her face. Everybody is cheering for her.
And we had a good laugh about her catching it.
As I mentioned above, I was pro-toss from the start. Mr. Bracelet was raised in a conservative environment and wasn’t too fond of the idea of a garter toss—he thought it was this outrageous and raunchy thing (think heads underneath skirts) which he felt wasn’t what he wanted for his wedding. I, however, had been raised on stories of the dainty garter toss my parents did (replete with my dad aiming the garter at his best man like a sling shot). After arguing my point—that garter tosses by nature aren’t raunchy, that they can be very civilized and decent—Mr. Bracelet acceded to my plans.
Later in the evening we called all the bachelors onto the dance floor: three German boyfriends, one of Mr. B’s cousins, and two groomsmen. Again, I have no recollection of what song our DJ picked (I didn’t care enough to designate a special song), but it was fun anyhow!
The graceful garter removal—no more than a few toes visible
I love Mr. B’s facial expression—”Wow, look what I found!”
Some people obviously put more effort into it than others.
The winner of the garter toss? None other than BM K’s boyfriend J! As he went to sit back down, he put the garter around BM K’s head like a crown. She continued to party like this for a while.
All in all, the bouquet and garter toss were a lot of fun and great entertainment for those involved as well as those watching. And for those of you on the fence about the tosses, I recommend to look at all variations of the tradition to pinpoint what makes you feel uncomfortable. If you’re concerned about raunchy garter tosses, I hope that my post can demonstrate that they can be a quite civilized affair.
Why did you decide to have or not have tosses at your wedding? Have you ever caught the bouquet?
All photos by Legacy Photo + Design
*At this point my dad would probably love to contradict me. I still have all the bouquets I received at the balls during my ballroom dancing era in my dad’s shed and refuse to throw them away. In case you’re reading this: Don’t you dare!!
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