Wedding Vendors: Who to Tip?

The “who to tip” question is age old around these wedding parts, with couples asking constantly: who should we tip? Tipping is such an interesting subject: the reality is that most people are inclined to tip anyone that does a fabulous job helping you with your wedding day. The reality is that most of us feel pressured, not just in weddings, but in our daily lives, to tip even when service has not been so exemplary. I’ve tipped countless waiters that were simply terrible. I was a waitress in college and understand that tips constitute wait staff’s bread and butter (additionally, tips are often shared through the kitchen and back house…and I definitely would hate to punish an entire kitchen for bad service!). All this said, weddings are an oft one-time event, and due to the volume of service, obviously tips are costly.

We thought it’d be interesting to run a few quick polls here to ask our hive members about your tipping practices when it comes to your wedding! Participate in the polls below (and if you didn’t hire a particular vendor, feel free to skip that question!).

















Now that you’ve participated, are you surprised by any of the results? Do you believe there are certain vendors that you MUST TIP?


Mrs. Penguin

Northern California
Wedding Date:
June 2008
I Carry Your Heart: The Day Before We Said "I Do"
DIY Friday: September 13, 2013
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    chigirl27 2 posts, Wannabee @ 7:34 pm

    We are planning to tip our officiant (who is not charging for his services), the servers at the reception, the bartenders, and the valet guys. All of the other vendors we’re working with are the owners of the businesses, so we don’t really see the need to give them any tips.

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    mrscam24 114 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:41 pm

    I’m not really surprised… I was happy to see the results as it made me validate that the vendors I was planning to tip were similar to others. I was planning on transportation, hair/makeup, my caterer/reception coordinator (they’re personal friends and gave us a GREAT deal–price and help-wise) and possibly my officiant. The others will be determined if they have gone above and beyond their usual work.

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    soontobeMrsBoo 812 posts, Busy bee @ 7:44 pm

    I think this poll should include an option for DIY/friend who you wouldn’t tip and for ‘didn’t have one.’ I said yes to all, but IE our officiant was a friend, but we gave her a special gift at the rehearsal dinner so I counted that as a tip, but it’s not the same as for a secular nor religious officiant.

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    pixiestix6089 60 posts, Worker bee @ 7:10 am

    I was not surprised by most of the poll results, I think nowadays there are just certain vendors that it is more common place to tip than others. I am going with the rule that if the person providing the service is the owner/operator then I will not be tipping (ie, my dj), but if they are “additional” staff (ie, photo booth attendants) I will be tipping.

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    cakeyp 2562 posts, Sugar bee @ 6:03 am

    So many services overcharge for a “wedding” item anyway that it makes a tip almost wasted money. The bakery making your wedding cake most certainly upcharged you by at least double, I don’t see why a tip on top of that is required. Same thing with the florist, the stationary designer, etc.
    I think if you’re paying for a more consumable item (flowers, favors, cake, rentals, venue space, etc.) that a tip shouldn’t really be considered. The vendors most likely built the profit/markup into their original price.

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