I can’t quite believe it’s been eight months since I joined the hive as a blogger. I wrote my first post in back in February and the time has seriously flown by since then.
I disappeared for a little while and really wished I hadn’t. I always told myself I’d post frequently and then…bam—I didn’t have anything wedding related to talk about.
My wedding day is tomorrow. I’m finally getting married. And that’s so weird, because the bees who started around the same time as me—Lemur and Palm Tree—got married aaaaaaages ago and I was just left there like *Um, hello? Is it my turn yet?*
And now it is.
Ladies and gentlemen, A Bee’s Life: Jackrabbit Edition.
How did I find Weddingbee?
Honestly? I have no idea. It was definitely when a friend of mine got engaged, but I’m not exactly sure which friend. I did lurk for a long time before getting engaged but, funnily enough, I think I spent more time reading things from here before I got engaged than I did after!
My application story.
I knew I was going to be a blogger. I get this feeling when I just know something is going to happen—and this was one of those things. I don’t know why I got so fixated about it—but I did. I read all the blogs asking myself if I were as good as the girls before me. Why would they pick me? My wedding isn’t going to be as good as these girls’ weddings, so why should I even bother applying? I can spare my own humiliation, thanks.
But Jack pushed me to do it. He is the most overly ambitious person I’ve ever met in my entire life, and he said that if I wanted it, I should go for it.
I’ve had a blog in some form or another for 10 years now and writing so publicly seemed like the next step. Who would have thought that a stupid little blog called “Whoa, Dude, Ace” (don’t bother searching for it—it isn’t there anymore) would eventually turn into doing this?
Anyway—I’m rambling. I submitted my application just over eight months before my wedding date and painfully stalked my blog’s statcounter. Nothing. For a couple of weeks I didn’t get any activity out of the ordinary. I figured one of the girls had seen it, thought no, and just not passed it on. Bummer. But then my traffic went higher than normal and I realised…this was it. Ahhhh those next two days were torture (again, why did this mean so much to me??), but then one evening I got my acceptance email. Woohoo!
Jack and Chatty Man were with me that evening. They just laughed at me. Typical.
What’s it like blogging for Weddingbee?
You know when you get post come through your door and it’s not a load of bills? That’s what it feels like when a blog post goes up and I check my email. I love getting comments. Although due to the time differences, I seem to get a lot whilst I’m asleep!
Blogging has made me appreciate planning more. It’s made me document more and take photos of what’s going on. I love that. I love that I have a million photos of felt and bunting and other weird things that I wouldn’t have otherwise documented.
I love that I’m able to give other people inspiration, and I love that there are people who have given me words of comfort when I’ve needed it the most. Seriously guys, thank you. You’ve helped me so much this past week.
Advice for potential bloggers
Have a story.
Whenever I write a post, I try to put something in there that shows me and my real life. Watching Breaking Bad, my obsession with Doctor Who, eating beans for breakfast (loved how many people thought that was weird)—these are all things that make me who I am so why not put a bit of personality in there? But I also try not to overdo it—and by that I mean I try and keep my posts to the point and pretty concise.
And another thing—listen to the negative feedback. Of your own posts and of others’. Yes, there are some people out there who like to be nasty for the hell of it—but sometimes I think some of their points are pretty valid. You have to have a thick skin, but it makes things a lot easier if you see it from the eyes of the reader, too. Whether that be explaining your reasoning behind doing something so that people can see you have thought about it, or trying not to offend by making a bold statement that could hurt the feelings of those who think the opposite. Remember, you’re mainly here for inspiration—not to tell people why you’re right and they’re wrong.
This isn’t to say you shouldn’t be yourself—because you really need to. I’ve read a lot of wannabee blogs (some that even made it to bee status!) and the ones that really stand out are the ones that feel like they are talking to me, you know?
If you’re thinking of applying—go for it! It’s definitely worth being a member of the hive if you can get the gig.