Mishaps, Bungles, and Changes

“Do you want me to pour you a glass of wine?” This was Mr. G’s go-to question whenever I got off the phone and had an “Oh no! The wedding is going to fall apart” look on my face. During this past year I’ve had a few things go wrong during my wedding planning: I lost our American venue, coordinators quit, an MC canceled, and our cake baker went out of business. I had quite a few sleepless nights trying to figure out how to fix all of these messes. At first, I resented all of those sleepless nights because I wanted wedding planning to be fun and easy, but I’m so glad that things went wrong because every single change or mishap has led to something better. If there is anyone out there who is stressing over a planning mishap, don’t worry. Things can work themselves out for the best.

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Losing our American venue was my biggest mishap. I booked our venue 13 months in advance from our planned wedding date in November. Nine months before the wedding I received a phone call saying the owners had decided to move to New York. When I got the news, I didn’t feel rage or anger—I was just numb and in shock. I hung up the phone and sent out a few emails to other venues and tried to sleep, but I’m ashamed to say I cried for a bit. I had this image in my head of what our wedding was going to look like for months and now it was just over. It was hard to change my vision into something completely different, but in the end, the Hollywood Beach Golf Resort where we will be having the wedding is a much better choice. The owners are good friends with my mother and the venue is much larger than the previous venue. The previous venue was so small that there was a chance we wouldn’t be able to have a DJ and dance. The change in venue meant a more fun party vibe for our guests. We also have free rein to decorate and have event lightning, which the previous venue didn’t offer.

My second major mishap was that our Japanese wedding after-party coordinator suddenly quit and didn’t pass any information along about the party to her replacement. My friend, Tomomi, who is helping me coordinate the after-party gave the venue a call to go over a few details and they were like, “Who is this?” “What after-party?” Needless to say, Tomomi had a mini freak-out. Fortunately, the date was still available, but we had to start the process of going over all of our special requests and programs. The upside to this is that I didn’t like our original after-party coordinator in the first place, and now I won’t have to work with her. Mr. G, Tomomi, and I went to meet with her one day and she basically ignored me and only spoke to my Japanese friend. I understand that people may not think I understand Japanese and initially speak to the Japanese person with me, but once it’s established that I can understand most people start talking to me. Our event coordinator did not. She posed all of her questions to Tomomi even though I would answer. For example, 20 minutes into our meeting we had this exchange:

Event Coordinator (looking at Tomomi): How many people do you think you will have at the after-party?

Tomomi: I think you should ask the bride.

Me: About 50

Event Coordinator (looking at Tomomi again): When can you give me the final headcount?

Tomomi: ”¦

Me: I can give it to you by October.

Event Coordinator (looking at Tomomi again): Blah, blah, blah”¦

This went on and on.

Tomomi and I left feeling very dissatisfied, but we liked the venue so we stuck with it. We were upset to hear that she quit, but we are so glad we won’t have to work with her anymore. Our new coordinator, Ono-san, is amazing, and he looks at me when he asks questions!

I’ve had a few other mishaps too. Our American cake baker went out of business (with her attitude I’m not surprised). Fortunately, I was able to find a better cake baker named Jen who is super communicative and makes beautiful cakes. I am actually looking forward to our wedding cake now!

When you start wedding planning it is easy to get wrapped up in a world where your wedding is the most important thing and any change that doesn’t go with your vision is going to ruin everything. I say take a deep breath and move on. Things can work out even better than what you expect if you open you yourself up to change.

Has there been any major mishap or change in your wedding planning? How did you handle it? Did it all work out for the best?

BLOGGER

Mrs. Gondola

Location:
Kyoto
Wedding Date:
October and November 2013
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    Mrs. Rucksack 494 posts, Helper bee @ 10:25 am

    Oh smart Mr. G offering you wine! I’m so happy things are turning out better because of your mishaps – Blessings in disguise!

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    alzell02 44 posts, Newbee @ 11:35 am

    My hairstylist forgot about my wedding and couldn’t get off work. She didn’t tell me until a few weeks before and only after I had asked her if she was wanting to stay for the wedding. But the fiancé of one of the groomsmen came through, was super organized and found a second girl to help with the bridal party and gave us a deal too! I couldn’t have been happier and now I have an awesome new hairstylist. Sorry about all the stress it initially put you through. It really is hard when you first hear the bad news.

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    veggie_rachel 575 posts, Busy bee @ 12:04 pm

    I think you and I are in the same boat! Take Mr. G up on that offer and relax knowing that you’re having a better wedding than before!

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    MrsFutureG 1696 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:13 pm

    You’re right about things going wrong being a blessing in disguise! Our (silk) flower person was a nightmare to work with and took our money and left us with absolute garbage. This led me in a panic to the amazing woman at our local AC Moore who not only saved my bacon, but made us some BEAUTIFUL bouquets that I cannot wait to use.

    Stay tuned for a brutal review of the original florist on the review section once I can. No one steals my money and walks away unscathed.

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    Mrs. Camel 703 posts, Busy bee @ 2:11 pm

    Holy cow, that’s a lot to deal with when planning a wedding! We lost our venue too and I know what you mean about completely changing your vision. In the end though, I’m so glad we got married at Cloverleaf Farm and not our original venue. So I guess, as they say, everything does happen for a reason. But I can’t imagine all the extra stress you endured after the cake and coordinator incidents as well! And to have to plan everything via the time differences and everything — ugh. I feel for you! But you seem to have handled everything so well!

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    Mrs. Gondola 970 posts, Busy bee @ 5:02 am

    @Mrs. Rucksack: I’ve been so lucky!! I just hope things work out at the wedding. @alzell02: I’m do glad things worked out for you! Hair at the wedding is such s big deal!
    @veggie_rachel: Os everything okay with you and your planning? I’ve taken Mr.G on his offer many times. I want to make something out of all the empty wind bottles I’ve created. Haha!
    @MrsFutureG: she stole your money?! Awful! I’m glad everything worked out for you in the end. Btw, I love silk flowers.
    @Mrs. Camel: Your venue was so beautiful. I’m glad it turned out that way so I could see your amazing photos. Seriously, the time difference thing is so hard, but I’m hanging in there!

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    Mrs. Rubber Stamps 791 posts, Busy bee @ 8:07 pm

    I’m glad everything worked out in the end. I would have had some crying sessions too!

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