What We Skipped and Didn’t Miss

This post is all about the “typical”, “traditional”, or “trendy” stuff that we chose to skip at our wedding. For the most part, our decisions turned out great. As a disclaimer, I feel the need to say that these decisions made sense for us. They might not make sense for everyone. But if you’re thinking about skipping something and wondering whether you’ll regret it, well then hopefully this will reassure you that some stuff can definitely be skipped.

Of course, there were just a few things that I would have done differently if I knew then what I know now. My next post will be about the few things that I wish I could change, but let’s do the good news first, shall we? So what did we skip and not miss at all?

  • A First Look: This could be the subject of an entire post. But I’ll try to sum it up here. We didn’t have a first look, and I am 100% happy with that choice. However, for those of you out there still unsure, know that I don’t think that having a first look would have a negative impact on the feeling that you have as you walk down the aisle. I know some brides are worried about that. But the aisle moment is just special. I can’t say for sure, but I think it would be just as special whether or not you have a first look. What I’m trying to say is: We had plenty of time for photos after the ceremony. I love the way our day went. But if you want extra photos and you’re worried that you’ll ruin everything by seeing each other before the ceremony, I don’t think you need to be worried.
  • Professional Make-up: Our photographer asked me who did my make-up and was impressed that I’d done it myself. Score!


  • Real flowers: Paper flowers=excellent idea. So light, and I get to keep them forever!


And I certainly don’t regret not having flowers in our centerpieces either.


  • Ceremony decorations: The beautiful scenery was enough for us!


  • Out-of-town bags: Maybe a guest missed them, but I don’t think so.
  • Bathroom baskets: Totally not missed.
  • Bouquet and Garter Toss: I literally didn’t think of these until weeks after the wedding, and no guests ever brought it up. I don’t think a soul noticed that they didn’t happen.
  • Pro-pics of getting my hair and make-up done: If you can’t afford to have these, don’t stress. I don’t mind at all that I don’t have them.
  • A big cake: Our cupcakes were so freaking delicious. And easy to eat”¦And didn’t require serving”¦


  • A Signature Scent: I don’t wear perfume unless I think I smell bad. It seemed weird to start now.
  • A Big Sparkler Exit: Pinterest convinced us all that anyone can have those fabulous sparkler exit photos. But as the big day got closer, I realized most of those photos don’t turn out that great. So we nixed it. We just had a few sparkler pictures taken.


  • A Getaway Car: It just seemed excessive. We had a barn reception and were driving two miles through the country back to our cabin. There didn’t seem to be a point.

Are there any typical, traditional, or trendy things that you skipped that you didn’t miss at all?


Mrs. Blue Whale

College Park, MD
Wedding Date:
May 2013
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  1. rucksack Member
    rucksack 518 posts, Busy bee @ 6:23 am

    I also skipped so many of these things and don’t regret it at all! Also, as someone who did the bouquet and garter toss, I could have done without them. I say do whatever make your life happy and simplest and if that means no OOT bags, then so be it!

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    cosmo_gmr 488 posts, Helper bee @ 6:30 am

    We skipped what’s called here the Crazy Hour when you give your guests hats, sunglasses, balloons and what not and a group of dancers enter the room and throw confetti and stuff like that. It was a decision made on budget but I don’t regret not having it.

    As you said, there comes a moment when you just can’t plan or stress over something anymore XD

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    mstreasure 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:11 am

    We had real flowers (bouquets only), and I did decide to toss my bouquet at the last minute, but we skipped all that other stuff. I’m generally wary of trendy stuff, and that came with the added bonus of not having to plan and pay for extra things! Win-win!

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    camel 703 posts, Busy bee @ 7:14 am

    Wow you DIYed your makeup!? It looks awesome. I’m jealous of your serious skills with the makeup brush. Sadly, I have none! We skipped a lot of these things as well, especially the out-of-town bags and bathroom baskets. I can see the time, effort, and money going into things like that skyrocketing out of control. In the weeks leading to our wedding I felt like I was hemorrhaging money. No way was I about to spend even more on that extra stuff!

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    Miss_Mimosa 190 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:29 am

    I think out of town bags and bathroom baskets are always nice, but I have never been to a wedding and thought wait where are the bathroom baskets, I just forget they are even an option. Often times they don’t even get touches so what a true waste that is. Good call skipping somethings!

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    MrsConnolly2bee 298 posts, Helper bee @ 7:34 am

    everything you said you skipped (except for the bouquet toss) is exactly what I also plan on nixing. Also having a barn wedding. You looked amazing!

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    dinayarose 1 posts, Wannabee @ 7:54 am

    wow I must have a lot to learn. I nave never heard of Out of town bags or bathroom baskets..
    thank you for sharing this.

  8. mswallaby Member
    mswallaby 2070 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:01 am

    We skipped most of those things as well, didn’t miss them! Yay for minimalism and keeping things simple haha

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    miamimavencita 219 posts, Helper bee @ 8:36 am

    I love seeing weddings that reflect the couple, I don’t believe in doing things for the sake of tradition or excess, kudos! Your wedding looks very personal and beautiful, and you look gorgeous!

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    JujuBear 47 posts, Newbee @ 8:38 am

    I showed the photos of your ceremony location to my mom, my fiance and a friend of mine and never realized that you didn’t have ceremony decorations! It was indeed a gorgeous place!

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    Mrs. Filly 827 posts, Busy bee @ 8:47 am

    I’m skipping a lot of these too, and even things that I plan on doing (like the first look), I totally agree with your rationale. Great post!

    But more importantly, YOU DID YOUR MAKEUP YOURSELF?? It looks freaking amazing! Want to come over and fix me up? Literally any time ever. Please teach me your secret.

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    Ms. Bicycle Samurai 140 posts, Blushing bee @ 9:05 am

    This post gave me a chuckle because we had some of those things and either wouldn’t have missed them, or actively wish we’d skipped them! Especially out-of-town bags (which I spent way too much time, money, and indecision on, only to have the hotel fail to distribute them to most guests). In hindsight I love my wedding, but my message to my past self and any future bride would be ‘simplify, simplify, simplify.’ That said, we LOVED our first look moments which were very special to us – one of my favorite parts of our day.

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    daniellekira 573 posts, Busy bee @ 9:47 am

    We skipped the out of town bags, the getaway car, bathroom baskets and signature scent too. I didn’t miss them and I don’t think our guests did either. Your makeup is amazing.

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    bluewhale 638 posts, Busy bee @ 9:57 am

    @Mrs. Camel: and @Miss Filly: and @daniellekira: Thanks :) I really enjoy my me time in the morning while I put on my make-up. It’s so relaxing. And it’s a bonus that I’ve gotten good at it over the years :)

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    lemiller 318 posts, Helper bee @ 10:18 am

    Mrs. Blue Whale, I’ve been admiring your wedding day makeup. It’s impeccable. If you have time, I’d love to see a post with your go-to makeup products! xoxo

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    Red Poppy 31 posts, Newbee @ 12:15 pm

    I agree with everyone that your makeup looks amazing and professionally done! I wish I could do makeup like that.

    I also skipped: bathroom baskets (though I think they’re a nice touch), garter toss (but I did do a bouquet toss), getting ready photos (I’d rather have photos start at the point where I already look decent), a signature scent, sparklers (I honestly never even considered them), and a getaway car.

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    jacofblues 1468 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:25 pm

    We nixed a few of the same things, first look was silly for us as we had about 3 hours between ceremony and dinner that we could take photos! The getaway car was also something we didn’t need as we were staying in the town where we got married. I did have a signature scent and so did my husband as we both wear perfume/colonge everyday so it made sense for us! This was a fun post!

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    bluewhale 638 posts, Busy bee @ 7:14 am

    @lemiller: I’m ahead of the game! I posted about this a few months ago :) http://www.weddingbee.com/2013/04/30/diy-bridal-makeup-products/#axzz2iYQyJuYO
    The only thing I changed on my wedding day was that I ended up switching to a different foundation and different eyeshadow. I used Revlon Colorstay Foundation and my eyeshadow was a dark purpley gray and a champagne pink.

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    lemiller 318 posts, Helper bee @ 7:23 am

    @Mrs. Blue Whale:

    Ah, right before I joined the Bee! Looks like I’m in the market for some new makeup products :) Thanks, Mrs. Blue Whale!

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    kit10 105 posts, Blushing bee @ 8:04 pm

    Beautiful makeup!

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    nerdybird 1443 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:47 pm

    LOL, I didn’t even know that a signature scent, out of town bags, or bathroom baskets were a thing. I’m sure they were not missed.

    your wedding looks very lovely, I’m so glad you had a great time!

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