Menswear: When You’d Like to Describe Your Fianc锎 Using Words Other Than “Clothed”

Believe it or not, bees, I do have opinions on things. While my posts to date have had a pretty lackadaisical attitude, I promise you that there are things that I care about. Menswear, for instance.

Stallion, on the other hand, could not care less about clothes. The nicest thing I can say about his day-to-day attire is that he is fully clothed on a daily basis. (Not mean if it’s true, etc. Also, I checked, and he is not offended by my posting that.) He’s the type of guy that wears T-shirts and enormous basketball shorts year round, including during the winter. Did I mention how nasty the New England winters can be? And then he gets annoyed when I try to save money by turning the thermostat down to 60°, but that’s another story!

Anyway, there are plenty of options for wedding-appropriate menswear. You could go with a classic look à la Mr. Waterfall and Mr. Jet Setter, or you could get a little fancy like Mr. Rucksack and Mr. Bicycle. You could even follow Mr. Genie’s and Mr. Sword’s examples and incorporate cultural traditions.

Thus far, Stallion has been pretty laid-back regarding wedding decisions. So imagine my surprise when he not only knew what we wanted to wear for our wedding, but he had a strong opinion about it. The conversation went as follows:

Me: Stallion, have you given any thought as to what you’re wearing for the wedding?

Stallion: Basketball shorts.


Stallion: Actually, I thought I’d wear a tux.

Me: What? Are you kidding me? That’s such a waste of money! Do you have any idea how much tuxes cost to rent? You could buy a brand new suit and have it tailored to fit you for practically the same price, and then you’d at least get to keep it after the wedding! And rental tuxes are so cheap and crappy and nothing will fit you properly and you’ll look like you’re wearing M.C. Hammer pants. God, you’re such a dodo brain. You’re getting a suit.

Stallion: But I want to wear a tux. I’ll feel like James Bond. It’ll be awesome.

Me: OK.

Clearly, it was a knock-down, drag-out fight. Words were exchanged, points were made, and at the end of the day, it was established that Stallion and his groomsmen would be wearing tuxedos. We’ll be renting, since purchasing a tux is a bit more than we’d want to spend right now, and Stallion doesn’t have much (read: any) opportunity to wear one.

So what factors brought me around, you ask?

  • For all intents and purposes, we’re having an evening wedding—OK, the ceremony is at 5:30 PM, but that’s close enough. The vast majority of wedding events take place during acceptable tux-wearing time (which is traditionally after 6:00 PM).
  • Our venue is formal enough that a tux won’t look out of place. Same for the formal touches we’re incorporating into the reception—a sit-down dinner, a live band, an open bar, all that good stuff.
  • Most importantly: It will make Stallion happy. If he wanted to wear a tux to our 11:00 AM backyard barbecue wedding, at the end of the day, who am I to stop him? I don’t have to wear it, so I really shouldn’t have a say. If he’s happy and feels confident in what he’s wearing, it will show through and he’ll look even more handsome than usual!

All that said, if I were a groom—and I’m not, so my opinion is about as relevant as Miley Cyrus’s thoughts on quantitative easing—I’d opt for purchasing my wedding attire so I’d have something to keep and hopefully wear again after the big day. But realistically, renting isn’t the end of the world. I mean, as much as I’d love to wear my wedding dress again (and again and again), at the end of the day, I’m only wearing it once. I’m not exactly in the position to knock Stallion for dropping $200 to rent a tux, you know?

What will your groom be wearing for your wedding day? Were you surprised to find he was interested in any particular aspects of wedding planning?


Mrs. Filly

Boston, MA
Wedding Date:
April 2014
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Gallery of the Day: October 24, 2013
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    coffeeloverbee 286 posts, Helper bee @ 7:52 am

    I loved this post, because I don’t see a lot about what the grooms are doing for the wedding planning. My fiance has been involved (happily) and has made a great contribution over the course of the planning process. He also had some strong ideas about what he wanted to wear, and chose an absolutely amazing “head to toe look” which helped to guide some of the other style elements of the wedding! I am super happy to have him involved.

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    msmeow 1988 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:01 am

    I think Stallion will look great it a tux! Why don’t you make him pose for a Weddingbee special picture with a sign saying “Hi, I’m Bond. Stallion Bond” 😀

    Mr. Meow wants to wear a silver-gray suit that he can later wear to work. I’m a happy cat! I need to coax him into trying on a suit vest though, he wasn’t too keen on wearing one but I think he would look so, so good!

    I was surprised he had such a strong opinion about his attire and about what kind of a wedding ring he wanted. He’s also super into planning our day-of food, but that’s no surprise 😀 On our second date, we watched Father of the Bride, and for our third date, we went “cake testing” – to give us plenty of time to try them all and choose the right one! :p

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    LauraNicole, Guest @ 8:10 am

    This was actually something huge to my fiance, but I expected it to be. He reads esquire like a religion and wears a suit on a daily basis (for his job) When we went into the store, he picked out his tux with expert percision, even pointing out some etiqute with tuxes that I never knew.

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    mswallaby 2070 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:12 am

    My hubs rented his suit from Men’s Wearhouse and it was baggy as heeckkk – so annoying! MW only gives the guys a very narrow window of time to pick up their suits, so by the time Mr. W picked up his suit, there was <24 hours left until the wedding. So we didn't do anything about it, but it definitely bugs me in pictures – he's got a great bod, and you can't see it under those baggy pants and that oversized jacket! Anyways, sorry, rant over. I love classic tuxes and men always look so handsome in them, so I think you'll love the final product – I've never had the chance to see my man in a tux! Kinda jealous :)

    Oh, also, Mr. W LIVES in baggy old t-shirts and basketball shorts. His favorite shirts are from his high school and college days – so gross and worn out. I'm going to start to phase those out soon… 😉

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    campfire 1045 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:35 am

    You should check out my post on Sparky’s attire if you want an example of a picky groom, hee. And, speaking of purchasing wedding attire – what size is Stallion? He might be able to find something on Gilt for WAY cheaper/comparable to renting. That’s what happened with Sparky’s replacement tux.

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    daniellekira 573 posts, Busy bee @ 11:31 am

    I love your banter back and forth. Too cute. My groom wore a gray suit, gray vest, white and gray tie, white shirt and black shoes. His GMs wore the same but with navy vests and a navy tie. They looked sharp. But I do love a man in a tux!

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    mstreasure 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:55 pm

    Check out the department stores on Black Friday. That’s when Mr. T bought his tux from Macy’s. I think it was around $300. He’s already worn it 3 times with a 4th time coming up in January, so it’s definitely been more economical than renting.

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    Mrs. Filly 65 posts, Worker bee @ 4:21 pm

    @coffeeloverbee: There are some things that Stallion couldn’t care less about, like flowers and invitations, but he’s very vocal about the things he’s interested in. Especially food, haha.

    @MsMeow: I’ll see how he feels about that :) Three-piece suits are gorgeous – definitely get Mr. Meow in one! He doesn’t HAVE to wear the vest every time he wears the rest of the suit if he doesn’t want to.

    @LauraNicole: That’s awesome! Good for your fiancé‎ for being on top of tux etiquette, unlike certain gentlemen who are sitting next to me on the couch right now … 😉

    @Mrs. Campfire: I guess Sparky’s at one end of the fashion spectrum, and Stallion is way way way down at the other end :) Believe it or not, he’d never been measured for a suit before we went looking for his wedding attire! But he’s about a 48R, if I recall. It can’t hurt to check out Gilt – he hates trying things on anyway so may as well buy online.

    @Mrs. Wallaby: Actually, my next post is about our adventure at MW – what suit did you guys end up using? We’re going with the Black by Vera Wang tuxes, which are cut much slimmer than their other rental options, and it makes SUCH a difference. I was really pleasantly surprised. Stallion cleans up pretty nicely!

    @daniellekira: That sounds really sharp!! I have a weakness for gray suits. I bet the guys looked great in your pictures.

    @Mrs. Treasure: Not a bad idea! I’m a little intimidated to try real Black Friday shopping, but it never hurts to keep our eyes peeled for sales anyway. That’s how I shop for myself, but Stallion doesn’t have the patience for shopping so he just waits until he desperately needs something and ends up paying full price. Sucker.

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    kit10 106 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:57 pm

    Argh, Mr. C wears basketball shorts all year ’round too. I’ve bullied him into purchasing a couple different nice suits that he never, ever wears, so hopefully he’ll want to use one of them instead of a rental tux come our wedding. Still, I’m sure Mr. Stallion will look great in a tux. And how often does he get the chance to wear one/you get the chance to admire him?

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    Mrs. Waterfall 1403 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:10 pm

    Thanks for the shout-out! So happy to hear you’re going with VW, all my boys really enjoyed their tuxes (except brother GM, but he’s a diva, so wtv). I hope Stallion loves it as much as Mr. W did! We also had a 5:30 start time, so the tux seemed very appropriate to the time and level of formality!
    Are you going with the classic bowtie and cummerbund or a tie and vest?

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    Mrs. Palm Tree 1122 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:26 am

    We went with the gray Black by Vera Wang tuxes and funnily enough, more than one of the guys commented on how they felt like James Bond in them! Our MW experience was AMAZING (so was our David’s Bridal experience – maybe we just got really lucky with our local stores?) and the tuxes looked so awesome on all of the guys.

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    Mrs. Filly 65 posts, Worker bee @ 3:42 pm

    @kit10: Exactly! We got a deal with MW where, if we have 5 paid rentals (which we should), Stallion gets a free suit for keeps after the wedding. Dude is LONG overdue for a proper suit.

    @Mrs. Waterfall: We’re doing vest/tie – the bowtie looked comically bad on Stallion! Sounds like everyone in our party will be more comfortable in the long ties anyway, so as long as everyone’s happy, I’m happy too. Glad you had a good experience with the VW tuxes!

    @Mrs. Palm Tree: I’m so glad your guys had a good experience with the VW tuxes! I think MW/David’s are just like any other store – the consultant you work with ultimately makes or breaks your experience, and we definitely got lucky there.

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