What We Skipped and Kinda Missed

Last time I talked about several things that we decided to skip at our wedding that we didn’t miss at all. Today, I want to talk about the few things that we actually did miss.

I know that everyone always says, “Your wedding day won’t be perfect. Something will go wrong.” But honestly, we really didn’t have any of those moments. The weather was perfect. Everything was on schedule. We had enough food and enough alcohol. There was no drama. There were no excessively drunk people. Honestly”¦I have nothing to complain about.

So I’m going to invent things to complain about. No, that’s not it. Truthfully, because our day went so smoothly, I feel bad saying anything bad about it. But there are a few decisions we made that, if I could go back in time, I would change.

What would we not skip if we could do it all over again?

  • The Father-Daughter Dance: We decided not to have a father-daughter dance or a mother-son dance. Mr. Whale didn’t want to call attention to it. His reasoning was that he would just dance with his mom later on in the night and that I could do the same. And he did dance with his mom. But”¦I never got to dance with my dad. (Too much stuff was happening, and I just forgot!) This is the only thing from our wedding that I reeeeeally regret. I know see that there’s a reason it’s a designated dance. It’s because without a special time for it, it might not happen at all!

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Who can forget Mrs. Otter’s beautiful father daughter dance? Image by Stacey Able

  • A Receiving Line: There’s a reason receiving lines are a thing. (Just like there’s a reason a designated father-daughter dance exists.) It’s because you might not get a chance to talk to every guest otherwise. I wish I had read Mrs. Sword’s post before our wedding. I think we could have done a quick one.
  • Fresh Flower Bouquets: But Blue Whale, in your last post you said you didn’t regret your choice! I know, I’m so fickle. Truthfully, I don’t think I would go back and have fresh flowers again. But I brought it up, because I felt some initial regret about not having fresh flowers. Now that enough time has passed, I am totally in love with my paper flowers again. But I will say one thing about this. You had better love your bouquet. Because it will be in almost every single photo that you’re in. So if you don’t like it, you’ll question its presence in every photo.

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(I can’t lie. Sometimes I wish this bouquet was in my life.)

  • Wedding Programs: Okay, realistically, Ididn’t miss the wedding programs. But, a funny little thing happened on our way to our wedding. Mr. Whale turned to me in the car and said, “Where are those wedding programs you made?” And I said, “Oh, it turned out to be too much work. So I just quit. We don’t have programs.” And he said, “What?? But how will people know who the wedding party is? What if they wanted to take a program home from the wedding??” This, folks, is why you should occasionally fill your fiance in on your plans. If I’d known he cared so much about the programs, I certainly would have kept at it. But I just assumed that he wouldn’t care. Whoops.

How cute is this! Too bad we didn’t have a program”¦ (Image via The Bridal Detective/Photo by Angela Renee)

Did you end up missing any of the stuff you skipped?


Mrs. Blue Whale

College Park, MD
Wedding Date:
May 2013
Classifieds: October 23, 2013
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    lealorali 4827 posts, Honey bee @ 8:12 am

    Awww you’re cute!! If it makes you feel any better, I elected to do the father/daughter mother/groom dance upon FI’s insistence… and we both regret! It was SO awkward! Too sentimental and just weird. We are just not like that I guess.

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    Mrs. Filly 827 posts, Busy bee @ 10:16 am

    This was really helpful! I’m in the middle of the table visit vs. receiving line debate myself. Leaning towards receiving line for now just to get it out of the way/so I can actually eat my dinner… I can dream, right?

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    meke 843 posts, Busy bee @ 10:34 am

    Helpful information! I don’t know about the receiving line either, but it would be practical with the way our venue is setup.

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    Lone Star, Guest @ 10:45 am

    My regret is kind of sad. My little brother (who has down syndrome) had such a blast at my older bro’s wedding a month before my wedding, I thought he’d be great at my wedding. For some reason though, he thought that my getting married meant I was going away forever and he’d never see me again, so he cried (sobbed!) throughout the rehearsal and refused to dance or have any fun at the wedding (we discovered why afterwards). I think if I’d realized he needed a designated place to sit (we didn’t do a seating chart) and a better routine at the reception, he might have been okay. To this day he still apologizes for not dancing at my wedding. Le sigh. Other than that, our wedding was pretty perfect. But be warned: if anyone has special needs, be sure to figure out what would work best for them and plan accordingly.

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    daniellekira 573 posts, Busy bee @ 11:28 am

    I would regret not having the father daughter dance, but your wedding day was amazing. I am sorry you didn’t get to dance with your dad, but so happy you had a perfect wedding.

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    kktb, Guest @ 12:12 pm

    My florist completely screwed up my flowers. Before the wedding I didn’t care at all about the flowers, now when I look at my photos all I see is the messed up flowers. And I’m talking ALL the flowers – all the bouquets, bouts, corsages, & centerpieces.

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    Lone Star, Guest @ 2:01 pm

    @kktb: If it makes you feel better, our florist screwed up our centerpieces, too. We said 3 or 4 times distinctly, clearly, and loudly, “NO HIGH ONES!” When we get to the reception– ALL HIGH ONES. And they were ugly. I definitely threw it promptly on the don’t care list.

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    jacofblues 1468 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:07 pm

    I actually had little care factor about the flowers and I was very happy they turned out beautiful! THey got knocked around pretty badly during the day but held up beautifully!!!

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    Mrs. Waterfall 1403 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:58 am

    I totally regret not doing a receiving line too! I wish I had just done a quick one and gotten it over with.

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    bluewhale 638 posts, Busy bee @ 7:09 am

    @lealorali: Ha. That does make me feel better actually. Maybe it just would have been weird :) That’s why we were skipping it anyway.

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    bluewhale 638 posts, Busy bee @ 7:12 am

    @Lone Star: That’s so sad. Hopefully some others will hear about it from you and realize that they might need to make some special accommodations for some guests.

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    otter 1321 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:42 pm

    Aww, thanks for sharing my photo!! That point is a great one – we forgot a ton of things (just little ones, but still!) that we really wanted because time just went by so quickly. That’s the worst!

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