The Wedding Photos I Didn’t Know I Needed

Alright. I know you have a list of photos to be taken at your wedding. I had a list as well. But I’m here to tell you that after the wedding, I realized that there were some photos that I didn’t know I wanted until after the wedding! Luckily, our photographer managed to capture some of these without my request. (And several of them are some of my favorite photos.)

But there are some photos I should have requested. So to keep you from making my mistakes, I’ve compiled a list of the photos that I didn’t know that I needed until after the wedding. And I’ve given you a little inspiration and reality to go with it.

  • The Bride with Each Bridesmaid: This one makes me so sad. I can actually remember the moment my photographer asked me, “Do you want to take photos with each bridesmaid now?” And I said, “We can do it later.” Well, later never came, and now I’m really bummed that those photos didn’t happen.


Image from Tie the Knot

Reality: No photo for me

  • The Bride’s Face as She Walks Down the Aisle: The obsession nowadays is to capture the look on the groom’s face. But let’s not forget that your groom might want to look at pictures one day too! Hopefully your photographer can capture both.



Bride seeing the groom as she's walking down the aisle

Photo by Kristen Booth



  • Guests at the Ceremony: If you’re like me, you might forget that other people exist during your ceremony. I literally did not look at anyone other than Mr. Whale during our ceremony. I wish I had a few good pictures of the guests.


Sean Parker’s Wedding Photos by Christian Oth

Reality: I think this is the only one I have where you can see some guests.


  • The Bride and Groom with Both Sets of Parents: Somehow I missed that this was a thing. I went into the wedding not caring at all about the formal family photos. (I wanted family photos, but I wanted them to be candid.) So I guess I didn’t put much thought into it. But now we have photos of us with Mr. Whale’s parents and us with my parents. I wish we had one photo we could put up that has all the parents in it.

Inspiration: (I felt weird borrowing a photo of some random couple’s family, so let’s look at Mrs. Otter again. Can you tell I enjoyed looking at all of her photos?)

Otterly in Love: Two Families, Lots of Faces :  wedding indianapolis pictures pro pics recap Melissa037 Melissa037

So much love in Mrs. Otter’s family photos | Photo by Stacey Able

Reality: :(

  • Candid Parent Shots: I didn’t really plan for parent shots, and that was a mistake. I’m so glad our photographer knew to get some.


Photo by Slava-Slavik




  • Fake Dancing: I’m not talking about dancing at your reception. I’m talking about dancing when you’re out in the middle of the trees or on a city street. Dance like no one is watching, you guys! Be carefree. (I guess planning to be carefree kind of defeats the purpose”¦Do it anyway.)


beautiful! Brenda Upton Photography

Photo by Brenda Upton



  • The Dip: The dip screams romance. But if you do it wrong, it screams awkward. So practice the dip. And then request that move. Because if you get it right, it’s incredible.


Found on Weddingbee



  • Guests at the Reception: When I was looking through other couples’ wedding photos, I didn’t care too much about the reception photos. But that’s probably because I didn’t know those people! I absolutely love seeing photos of all of our guests. And I had no idea that I would feel this way.


Photo by Todd Laffler

Who are these people and why were they not at our wedding? | Photo by Todd Laffler



  • Group Shot of All the Guests: Okay, seriously, this would take some work. But I wanted this photo, and Mr. Whale didn’t, so we scrapped it. But I wish we’d done it”¦


Photo by Jeff Newsom

Reality: We don’t have this one. Boo.

  • The Jump: I urge you to reconsider your position on this one. Mr. Whale and I love to pull up our jumping pictures and zoom in on everyone’s ridiculous faces. It’s 100% cheesy, and I thought it would be stupid, but it ended up being one of my favorite photos.


Image from the Wedding Party App



And there you have it. All those photos I overlooked but ended up loving. If any of these are on your list of “photos you don’t care about having,” I suggest you reconsider.

What photos do you wish you had from your wedding?


Mrs. Blue Whale

College Park, MD
Wedding Date:
May 2013
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  1. Guest
    Marie, Guest @ 8:47 am

    This was so helpful!

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    Mrs. Rucksack 496 posts, Helper bee @ 9:55 am

    We did the whole jumping shot, but they didn’t end up in our list of photos. I’m pretty sure this was because I kept messing them up as our photog kept yelling at me that I was jumping too late or too early or just all wrong!

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    Liz, Guest @ 10:00 am

    the ‘dip’ photo is by Mandy Leonards!( I went to school with the Bride :)

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    Mrs. Treasure 1641 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:37 pm

    I got solo photos with my bridesmaids, and my husband got solo photos with the groomsmen, but I wish I had a photo of me with one of the groomsmen who is also my BFF in addition to being Mr. T’s college roommate. I also wish we had taken a photo of just me with my siblings. We have one with my parents and photos of us all in the group with the other bridesmaids and groomsmen, but none of the 5 of us.

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    Mrs. Filly 657 posts, Busy bee @ 3:00 pm

    Great ideas. I love how all your pictures came out!

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    jacofblues 1468 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:16 pm

    I missed photos with me and my parents by myself :( I am fairly sad about that because the only ones I have with both of them by myself is walking down the aisle. The reason is the photographer left to go to the Church to take photos of guests arriving and my husband waiting for me. In hindsight I would have preferred photos of me and my parents together.

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    Mrs. Sword 1023 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:22 pm

    I have total regrets, I have zero bridal portraits and barely any with my girls as a group but we do have the ones of each of them with me. We also took Mr. Sword with his guys but for some reason the photographer never gave us those or they didn’t turn out. You’re kinda making me wish we had done a jumping pic but our weather was rainy and slippery and we all had long dresses, not sure it would have been safe!

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    Mrs. Gondola 980 posts, Busy bee @ 2:09 am

    I love the picture of the bride walking down the aisle. Must add that to my list!

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    Mrs. Blue Whale 633 posts, Busy bee @ 7:26 am

    @Mrs. Sword: Ha! I’m pretty sure jumping at your wedding would have been unsafe. And what if the guys’ kilts had flown up in the air??

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    Mrs. Sword 1023 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:24 am

    @Mrs. Blue Whale: Well then I guess we’d known who really went TRUE Scottish (besides Mr. Sword) and who just said they did!! hehe

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    Kat L, Guest @ 9:12 am

    This post is so true, but its easy to regret things in hindsight. On the actual day everything is happening so fast that the fact we have any of the photos we actually planned is a miracle and thanks to our great photographer. I too wish we had more of the guests though. Still c’est la vie! Our friends took plenty of their own which I have stolen from them on facebook. lol

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    daniellekira 548 posts, Busy bee @ 1:46 pm

    I still love all of your photos. I also didn’t get the two families together and it bummed me out. There were a few others, but I am overall happy with the photos.

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    Mrs. Waterfall 1324 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:05 pm

    I’m sure this post will be super helpful to brides that are still in the planning stages. I had a very hands off attitude towards our photos, but in hindsight, there are definitely photos l regret not having.

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