Alternative title: Why the Bighorns don’t have a wedding theme.
During our wedding planning journey, Mr. Big and I get asked the question, “What’s your theme?” Often it’s met with blank stares and a long, “Uhhhh” from the both of us. This is because Mr. Big and I don’t really have a theme, but more a “vision.” (Ha, I feel like a ponce saying that.) We have stylistic elements that will hopefully make the feel of the wedding more seamless, but we don’t have a deadest theme.
Let me explain.
On the outset of our engagement, we Bighorns wanted to incorporate the traditions from my culture (for example, the Chinese tea ceremony), from his culture (for example, the white wedding dress) and our love of all things geek. Our ideas varied considerably, from the colours red and gold being our wedding colours, to a photo booth with geeky photo booth props, to badges as wedding favours with the name of each guest and witty remarks on who they are (or who we know them as)—there was even talk of a zombie-themed cake topper with us equipped with weapons and fighting back zombies!
We also wanted to incorporate more than one of our fandoms. For instance, I’m not just a gamer geek; I also love board games, anime, sci-fi, and supernatural TV shows and movies, and I’m also a total Dis-nerd (a Disney nerd). Mr. Big is a total gamer geek, loves tech (he keeps up to date on Microsoft especially), has a huge collection of TV shows and movies in all genres (sci-fi, fantasy, supernatural, you name it!), loves board games, and is also something of a Dis-nerd. Our love for all things geeky, nerdy, and dorky is only as big as our love for music and each other.
I also wanted very much to have an underlying Beauty and the Beast feel (that is both his and my favourite Disney princess film—I know, how the eff did I get this guy!?), while also adding in geeky elements and giving a nice, solid nod toward the cultural and traditional.
With all that said and done, the only logical theme would be something called “geek chic.” The term “geek chic” means elegant and delicious wedding cupcakes with zombie-fighting cake toppers; gorgeous floral arrangements in conical flasks; cute heart-shaped USBs as wedding favours; and an ASCII heart instead of the usual “Mr. & Mrs.” at the head table (although that’s cute, too!). It sounded like the perfect theme for the wedding day, but as we began to plan more, our theme changed way too many times to count, even despite the fact that we tried to stay on track.
It was then that we decided that the word “theme” cemented our ideas too firmly to one thing. For all intents and purposes, our wedding will still be geeky and chic. However, with the hodgepodge of other things that has been thrown into the mix, either by me, Mr. Big, or family and friends who have contributed, it was much easier on us to keep a set vision in mind instead of stubbornly sticking to a theme.
We’ll still have a crap ton of geeky elements (ASCII heart, cake topper) but there were some that we had to take out. We’ve expanded our wedding colours, but made sure to keep the palette constricted so as not to overdo it! And we’re still very much trying to stick to our vision without restricting ourselves to a specific theme.
I’m hoping that it all works out OK, but Mr. Big seems to be more on top of it than I am. Sometimes I wonder why he isn’t the one doing most of the planning!
What do you guys think? Are we crazy for not sticking to a theme?