The Obligatory Dress Post

I’ve basically yammered on about the venue, traditions, and The Bighorn couple so far (I’m really not that vain, I swear).

Well, here’s the “obligatory dress post.”

So before we continue, I love you Mr. Big, but”¦

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Image via AllPosters.com

Now, where were we?

Oh yes, dresses!

Like most girls, when I got engaged, I started thinking about the kind of dress I wanted to wear. Unfortunately, unlike most girls, I had no idea what I liked!

I had never dreamt about, fantasised about, or even thought about my engagement and consequent marriage until Mr. Big put a ring on it. I was never the “wear a dress” girl, and had only really begun to wear dresses when I was with Mr. Big. (He made me feel more feminine, if that’s even possible!)

As such, when I decided to go looking for dresses, I was effectively overwhelmed by choice.

Empire, A-line, princess, mermaid, ball gown, trumpet, lace overlay, satin, chiffon, floor length, brush length, chapel train, strapless, halter—

You understand, hive—I was suffering dress overload.

I stopped looking for a little bit and started from the basics, like length. I knew I wanted it to be down to the floor. Did I want a train? Yes, a short one. How about the shape? Apparently, the A-line was the most flattering.

Embellishments? Sure! I just didn’t want it to cost an arm and a leg. How about lace? I love lace, why not!

By asking myself little questions and then researching all the things, I managed to narrow down my choices. I loved lace, wanted a bit of embellishment, believed A-line would look the most flattering on me, wanted a small-ish train, and didn’t want my dress to be strapless.

So then what? Well, pictures are always nice!

I turned to Pinterest and the internet at large.

In my search for the dress, I came across these beauties:

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Annie, by Etsy shop Red Doll

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Daphne, by the wonderful Shop Ruche

Katie, by Bride’s Desire, Wendy Sullivan

Olivia Wilde in that stunning Reem Acra dress! / Image via Elizabeth Ashleigh

So it seems my fondness for loose, flow-y, gorgeous dresses outweighed the thought that the A-line would be better for my more curvaceous figure. So what’s a girl to do?

Well, I went and tried on dresses!

And, didn’t get any pictures.* (Sorry guys!)

I wasn’t able to try on these dresses specifically, but I did get to try on the Katie. The drop waist absolutely flattered my figure. I had hips, people! And my girls were feeling fantastic! I also loved the lace overlay and the chiffon fabric. But it was much more than I was willing to pay, so I didn’t end up purchasing the dress. Plus, I wanted to shop around a little bit before dumping a whole lotta moola on a dress.

I did get the details of the nice sales consultant, and Mama Bighorn, MoH M&Ms, Groom’s Homie Oddball, and I decided to head home.

As I agonised over whether or not to pull the trigger on the Katie, Mama Bighorn recommended a local dressmaker, Mandy Heng. Now, Mandy is not just a dressmaker, but she’s also a family friend’s daughter. I didn’t want to feel like I was swindling money from her because of that fact, though, so when I contacted her, I made no mention of that connection.

We chatted over email, I sent her some inspiration pictures and gave her some ideas, and we set up a consultation. At the same time, I decided I wanted to try on more dresses to really make sure that what I wanted was what I really wanted. I also wanted to know what kinds of dresses my bridesmaids would be wearing because (a) they’re all different heights and sizes and (b) I want them to look as beautiful as I do on the day!

So with that, my bridesmaids, Friend N, and I planned an outing before my initial consultation with Mandy. Next up, a day of changing dresses, eating pho, and finding a dress that completely blew my mind.

Was anyone else drawn to different dresses that you had completely no idea you would like?

*I was about 15kgs/33lbs (perhaps more!) heavier back then, so I hated pictures of myself, especially in beautiful white dresses.

BLOGGER

Mrs. Bighorn Sheep

Location:
Sydney, NSW, Australia
Wedding Date:
February 2014
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    jleighr 275 posts, Helper bee @ 7:32 am

    I’d have to say 100% YES, I was definitely drawn to dresses that I had no idea that I would like, for example I tried on a fluffy froofy lace big ball gown and thought it was so cute/fun and thought I loved it but it was one of the first stops of many so I continued my search. One thing I will say is once I tried on the dress that I finally chose and wore for my wedding, it was the first dress that after I said I was in love with it the next sentence out of my mouth was “my fiancé is going to LOVE this dress and will blown away by it”. So it really was the one and only dress I felt that both of us would love and I must say, I was right, he most definitely shed a tear over it and I was in bliss :)
    Good luck with your search and just remember to stay true to your style so that you can find something both you and your fiancé are going to love and cherish (because of pictures) forever!

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    rucksack 518 posts, Busy bee @ 7:39 am

    I really wanted a flowy chiffon dress and ended up with a very fitted silk shantung gown that couldn’t be more different than all of my Pinterest inspiration dresses. You just don’t know what works until you try them on!

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    nadnuk 1048 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:54 am

    I had pinned a bunch of dresses that were form fitting and lace. When I went to go try on dresses for the very first time, I pulled a bunch like that, but also pulled a plethora of other dresses, just to make sure, and just to see what they looked like on me. My consultant put the dresses in the room and when I went in, she asked me what order I wanted to try them on in. I just said left to right.

    The first dress I tried on was very different from all of the dresses in my mind’s eye. And I almost didn’t even want to try it on. It was THE dress. The first dress I tried on and I was done. I still tried on all the other dresses, just to make sure. But it was the one.

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    daniellekira 573 posts, Busy bee @ 8:50 am

    I can’t wait to hear more about dress shopping!

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    mswallaby 2066 posts, Buzzing bee @ 9:13 am

    That Reem Acra dress – omg soooo pretty! I love the turquoise version that Kate Middleton wore, too.

    When we started planning our wedding, I fell in love with the Monique Lhuillier Scarlet and a Claire Pettibone dress. The Scarlet was discontinued, and the CP dress was, like, 10 times my dress budget. But I always loved lace dresses and the dress I ended up choosing wasn’t a big surprise to anyone I don’t think :)

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 1:50 pm

    In another world, I would own that Reem Acra dress, so beautiful! I ended up with the exact dress I thought I would, it just looked the best and I knew it had everything I wanted. Can’t wait to see your love!

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    Miss_Mimosa 190 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:36 pm

    I can’t wait to hear all about your dress shopping day. These are some of my favorite posts!

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    mrscam24 114 posts, Blushing bee @ 12:37 pm

    I had pinned about a thousand mermaid style and lace overlay dresses when I was browsing around for what I loved. The day came and I found my dress…a completely tulle chiffon ballgown and nothing like i had ever imagined would look good on me (I’m 5ft too!), but it was just perfect.

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