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My sister, MOH Curls, has a tendency to exaggerate about some of my not-so-fine points, so if you find yourself in conversation with her, just keep that in mind. Little sisters, right? She likes to remind me that I “hate kids.” And this is not true. I don’t hate kids, I’m just not very good with kids. I’m not Robin Scherbatsky or anything, but I just feel like I don’t connect with them very well.

My sister and I used to tag-team babysit sometimes, and I was always in charge of preparing their dinner and making sure they got to bed on time and that we didn’t leave a mess behind. She was the one that played games and kept them entertained. But I’m only human female, and precious little kids will give me some pretty hardcore baby fever and that’s something I’m trying to keep at bay for a little while! I feel like I’m getting better at interacting with kids—being a cast member at Disney World will do that to you—but I’m not really around children in my life.

Suffice it to say, we won’t be having any children at the wedding. It’s not because I don’t like kids, it’s just that we really don’t know any.


Found on / Posted on Wedding Chicks / Photo by Amanda Watson Photo

That also means no flower girl or ring bearer. None of our family members have children yet, but a couple of his friends do (including one groomsman). We thought about including the groomsman’s son as a ring bearer, but he would still be a little young and the only child in attendance, and we didn’t want the parents to have to worry about him all night. And anyone else we thought of would have been a stretch, and I didn’t think it was worth it.

So we just skipped right over the decision that some people go through about children “ruining” a wedding. Crying during the ceremony, taking over the dance floor, sticking fingers in the cake (a crime committed by MOH Curls at our aunt’s wedding back in the day!)—I think these would all be worth the risk if we had tiny cousins, nieces, nephews, or godchildren. Showing them the pictures when they grow up or sharing the stories of the day would be worth it even if there were some misbehaving.


How sassy is this cute little ballerina flower girl? / Found on / Posted on Grey Likes Weddings / Photo by Q Weddings

So in general, we are just applying a blanket rule of an adults-only reception. There shouldn’t be any issues there, since this all started because there aren’t many children in our circle, and none of our traveling guests have children.

I do get a little pang of regret when I see adorable dresses and suits on flower girls and ring bearers, that we won’t have any of that cuteness included. But I really didn’t want to force it with children we only slightly know.


I love photos of the bride interacting with her flower girls. / Posted on Style Me Pretty / Photo by Jana Williams Photography

On the plus side, I don’t need to worry about another set of outfits, flower girl basket, ring pillow, signs, and kids’ activities at the reception. I’m all for taking this off of my list!

Did you have any little ones in your wedding or did you skip them? Anybody else get to wedding planning and realize they don’t know any youngsters?


Mrs. Pyramid

New Orleans, LA
Wedding Date:
May 2014
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    kit_kath 1327 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:28 am

    We have a ring bearer, but only because my sister has a son. He’s the only kid in either my or fiance’s immediate family. There are no little girls we know, so like you we dont want to force it with like a distant family friend’s kid just so we have one. We’re not having any other kids besides that.

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    Mrs. Palm Tree 1122 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:20 pm

    I love adults only receptions! We couldn’t have one because of all of the kids in our lives, but if it wouldn’t have caused a stink, it absolutely would’ve happened.

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    luluvohn 1194 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:53 pm

    We’re also having an adults-only wedding. We’re inviting very few people who have kids (like maybe five?) but all of them have a very easy other place to be, like a grandparent’s house or the other parent in a divorce scenario, so it doesn’t really feel like we’re leaving them out.

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    mrscam24 114 posts, Blushing bee @ 4:08 pm

    I would have love a child-free adult wedding to give a “grown up” feel, but I know I would feel strange without them there. I’m the oldest on both sides of my family (by nearly 10 years), so most of my family/cousins are younger than me and pivitol in our lives. I couldn’t leave them out! So coloring books and activities it will be for me to figure out how to keep them busy. (I’m a teacher, so I have LOTS of ideas though!)

    P.S. The sassy ballerina flower girl is the same dress as my flower girl… Can’t wait to see her dressed up on our day :)

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    gondola 1046 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:30 pm

    We only had 4 kids at the wedding and I made gift bags to keep them entertained. Best decision ever. I have horror stories of kids running amuck at weddings.

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    Miss_Mimosa 190 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:28 pm

    I am blessed with 2 adorable nieces and a handsome nephew that will be attending my wedding one day, but that will be it. I am not big into kids at a wedding. Not only for myself, but like you said I want the adults to have a good time and not have to worry about their child for one night.

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    Mrs. Waterfall 1403 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:10 pm

    We didn’t have very many children at the wedding, and they were adorable. We definitely don’t regret having kids at the wedding, especially our FG’s and ring bearer. But I can see why it might not be a good fit for everyone.

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    Mrs. Filly 827 posts, Busy bee @ 4:36 am

    PREACH. I feel super awkward around kids. You know that scene in Knocked Up where Seth Rogen is playing fetch with the little girl? That would probably be me.

    But yeah, we don’t have a ton of parents on our guest list, and we’re not close with any of their kids, so we had no problems deciding to have an adults only wedding. No pushback so far either; let’s see if that changes once invites go out.

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    rucksack 518 posts, Busy bee @ 9:43 am

    Our only little kids (under 10) were our FG and RB and I have to say they were the life of the party and so well behaved. Luckily we didn’t really have to worry about other guests bringing kids because I can see how it could have quickly gotten out of hand.

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    Mrs. Pyramid 104 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:07 am

    @Kit_Kath: that makes perfect sense – I wish we had someone close but we don’t, so just like you we didn’t want to force it.
    @Mrs. Palm Tree: aw but your flower girls were so cute! You couldn’t have had a day without them!
    @luluvohn: That’s how we feel too, hopefully it doesn’t cause any problems!

    @Mrs. Gondola: well that’s because you rock :) good job on keeping the kids entertained!

    @Miss_Mimosa: I think it’s great to have your nieces and nephews there, even if they won’t remember it. You can show them the pictures someday!

    @MrsCam24: Sounds like you’re completely on top of it! And that dress is precious, that’s going to look so great!

    @Miss Filly: haha, yep I would do something like that too! Good luck with your adult only reception!

    @Mrs. Rucksack: Your FG & RB were adorable too. I do love when kids get to dancing at weddings! They’ve got some moves!

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    daniellekira 573 posts, Busy bee @ 2:09 pm

    We only had a flower girl. We didn’t have any friends with young boys who lived in our area. I absolutely love my flower girl and spend a lot of time with her, so that was an easy choice. Other than our flower girl, we had a groomsmens son (he’s older) and a relatives son at our wedding. Those were the only three children out of 110 guests.

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    Gemma Tubbrit, Guest @ 9:04 am

    Many people stop children attending weddings, so it is refreshing to see that you have so many children present at your wedding. I would love to have seen more pics of the wedding ring and brides jewellery. Being a jewellery addict that is no surprise lol

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    Gemma Tubbrit, Guest @ 9:05 am

    I am so sorry i got this post totally wrong, i though these were your wedding pictures lol forgive me haha

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