Well, hive, the four month countdown mark has come and gone. The closer I get to the wedding, the more wedding-related stuff I have to do. Funny how that works, right? I’ve been pretty DGAF about everything so far; let’s see if I stay that way now that I actually have to do things.


The Miss Filly approach to wedding planning. (via Giphy)

But this is a fun post, okay? My hair and makeup trial is scheduled for the end of the month, so it’s time for me to start thinking about how I’d like to look on our wedding day. Other than, like, a million pounds thinner—and considering I think I’m the only bride-to-be in the entire universe who has actually gained weight during her engagement, clearly that’s not happening. That’s what Spanx are for.

I digress. We’re talking hair today.

So far, I know that I want to wear my hair up (hence my post about how I’m growing my hair out). The main reason for this is that I want to get my money’s worth! I’m having my hair professionally done, and an updo has way more staying power than a blowout or curls. If I leave my hair down, it will look great for a few hours, sure, but eventually the style will fall and I’ll end up a ratty, sweaty mess. No thanks. Although there is something delightfully ironic about my gorgeous, lacy wedding gown paired with a sloppy ponytail.

First off, I’d like to share some resources that are a treasure trove for information and inspiration ”¦

  • Hair & Makeup By Steph is my absolute favorite. If I could afford to fly this woman out to New Jersey to jack me up for the wedding, I’d do it in a heartbeat. GAHHHHHHH.
  • The Small Things has a ton of gorgeous hair tutorials that are surprisingly easy, should you be going the DIY route.
  • Freckled Fox also has some amazing tutorials, but some of them are way out of my league. I have the dexterity of your average three-year-old, though.
  • The Beauty Department is a good mix of tutorials and inspiration, and I will stan for Lauren Conrad until the end of time, so yeah.
  • Divine Caroline has EVERYTHING. Lots of celebrity hairstyles, if that’s your cup of tea.

So after all that extensive research (life’s tough when you’re planning a wedding—a girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do), I came to the following conclusions regarding my dream updo: I want it low. I want tons of volume. I want a soft, romantic look. And I DO NOT want hair in my face. Weird quirk that I’ve got: when my hair is up, I loathe the sensation of hair in my face. I have no idea why, but I figure I’m not changing my stance on that in the next four months. Since I will be annoyed to death by tendrils, no matter how pretty they may look, I’ll need another way of adding visual interest so that the front view isn’t too severe.

I’ve got my resources, I’ve got my very strict criteria, and now I’ve got pictures! Here are some ideas that are along the lines of what I’m looking for”¦


(Clara Richardson via Hair & Makeup By Steph)


(Julie Parker via Hair & Makeup By Steph)


(via The Freckled Fox)


(via The Small Things)


(The always flawless Duchess of Cambridge via the Daily Mail)


(Carrie Underwood via Star & Style)

If you are an observant reader, you’ll notice that most of these hairstyles have tendrils. Whoops. What can I say, I like what I like. Either I’ll put on my big girl panties and deal with it, or I’ll have the hairstyle modified to not include them.

Since I’m not 100% committed to a particular hairstyle, I’m thinking I’ll print a selection of different pictures, bring them all to my trial to give my hairstylist an idea of what I’m looking for, and let her work her magic. She’s the expert, and she’s been cutting my hair for nearly ten years now, so I’m completely comfortable letting her have free reign over my head.

So, hive—what did you do (or will you be doing) with your hair for the big day? What are your favorite hair inspiration resources?


Miss Filly

Boston, MA
Wedding Date:
April 2014

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    Mrs. Wallaby 2807 posts, Sugar bee @ 8:35 am

    Love your hair inspiration! And I definitely feel ya on the tendrils. They always remind me of the 1990s.

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    Mrs. Bicycle 616 posts, Busy bee @ 9:11 am

    I love your inspiration! And I, too, gained weight during our engagement. No judgment here :)

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    Miss Pyramid 807 posts, Busy bee @ 9:34 am

    You saying 4 months to your wedding gives me severe anxiety. Anybody got a paper bag to breath into?

    I really like the second hairstyle you posted! It looks like it would frame a face nicely while not being too messy!

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    Mrs. Rucksack 494 posts, Helper bee @ 9:34 am

    Ooh I love the second one down with the braid! (Of course, my updo also included a braid so I may be a little partial!)

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    Mrs. Waterfall 1299 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:29 am

    Another vote for #2! I was going to suggest a soft side bun of curls if you don’t want tendrils, that way you’ll have something showing in the front. Good luck with your trials!

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    Mrs. Bracelet 1409 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:29 am

    I had those photos of the Duchess of Cambridge on my hair inspiration board, too. Definitely could see me wearing your hair look. :)

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    Miss_Mimosa 189 posts, Blushing bee @ 11:10 am

    LOVE the one with the braid. I’m glad you picked all updo’s. I always see women on their wedding day with their hair down or half up/ half down and by the end of the night it is not pretty anymore.

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    Mrs. Jet Setter 388 posts, Helper bee @ 11:56 am

    I agree with #2 and also agree on your tendril-stance! I went tendril-less and it was great, my hair didn’t budge the entire night and I barely gave it a second thought after I had finished drooling over how great it looked. ;)

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    Miss Filly 616 posts, Busy bee @ 2:54 pm

    @Mrs. Wallaby: When I had shorter hair and I’d put it up, some of the layers would fall out and it drove me up the wall. I will not be able to handle tendrils, lol.

    @Mrs. Bicycle: Thank goodness for shapewear is all I’m saying :)

    @Miss Pyramid: You’re telling me! For ages, I kept thinking I had all the time in the world to get things done, but clearly that is not the case. I’m figuring out that the 150 envelopes currently sitting in my living room aren’t going to address themselves.

    @Mrs. Rucksack: I think #2 is my favorite as well! I have such a weakness for braids.

    @Mrs. Waterfall: Thanks! I think big and to the side are my best bets if I want to make sure something is showing in the front. The higher the hair, the closer to heaven, right?

    @Mrs. Bracelet: Kate can do no wrong!

    @Miss_Mimosa: I know there are some people with magical hair that looks good left down for that long, but I’m not one of them. Updo it is!

    @Mrs. Jet Setter: I remember your updo from your preview picture – it looked gorgeous! Can’t wait for more pictures … hint hint :)

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    Miss Wellies 1425 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:53 pm

    I love your inspiration pics! The first two are my favorites. :)

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    Mrs. Panda 1324 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:08 pm

    really pretty inspiration pics, I don’t think you can really go wrong with any of them, but the braid is my biased favorite.

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    daniellekira 545 posts, Busy bee @ 2:18 pm

    I love those updos and chose similar ones for my wedding hair. I had my stylist mix a few and I loved the result. I am like you about the trendils. My stylist nixed them out of my hair and it was the best decision.

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    msmeow 1941 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:10 am

    I love your inspiration pics! Great minds think alike – the second one and the Duchess Catherine one have been sitting in my “hairspiration” folder for a while too :) I agree with you about the tendrils, I love the look but I keep tucking them behind my ears – not what they’re here for, I’m sure! lol What I found out after a few uncomfortable “hair on my face” nights out is that if I let some hair out around the ears instead of higher up I still get some softness (i. e. I don’t look like a mid 19th century school teacher that hit her students with a wooden ruler anymore) but for some reason it doesn’t make me nervous. Try it, you might like it! Good luck with your hair trial :)

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    msmeow 1941 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:50 am

    Oh, and THANK YOU for finding The Small Things, those hair tutorials are amazing! Thanks to you I won’t be going to see my little niece perform in The Nutcracker with boring, listless hair tonight! Yay! :)

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    Miss Filly 616 posts, Busy bee @ 3:59 pm

    @daniellekira: I’m glad your hair turned out so well!

    @MsMeow: I’m hoping if I make my hair big enough, it’ll soften up the look and I don’t look like a scary nun, haha. Isn’t The Small Things amazing? All her tutorials are deceptively simple – I just did her reverse French twist for my work holiday party last weekend and it looked fantastic.

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