Bearded and Bespectacled

Mr. Big is handsome. He’s cute, charming, and absolutely a-dork-able (I might be biased). He’s also never without two things: his spectacles and his beard.

When I first met Mr. Big, he was beardless and he had what are typically known as “rimless” glasses.

Over the years, his glasses have stayed more or less the same, but in most of our photos together, he has a beard in some form or another:

Mr. Big’s had glasses for most, if not all, of his life, and he started wearing a beard since he entered the corporate world at a young age, where his age held more weight than his intelligence. So it only made sense that he will have a beard and glasses for the wedding.

In the wedding world, beards seems to be picking up. Long gone is the clean-shaven individual, with the “Dawn of the Beard” having well and truly risen over the horizon:

A bearded groom / Image via Well Groomed / Photography by Krista Photography

Personally, I LOVE the beard on Mr. Big.

Mr. Big’s beard completes his look, and I’d like our wedding selves to be a reflection of our real-life selves, just more polished and presentable. So I’d be completely happy with Mr. Big sporting the beard, and it’s safe to say that he WILL be wearing it when we get married. He even wants to get a hot shave to get it looking schmick.

The other part of his look which must be a part of the wedding are Mr. Big’s glasses.

Mr. Big needs his glasses to see, as his vision isn’t exactly great. However, as Mr. Big wears his glasses pretty much all the time apart from sleeping, he’s got Transitions lenses, which basically means they go dark in the sunlight. It makes it much easier for him to drive and generally go about life as he doesn’t particularly need sunglasses. However, Transitions lenses make it difficult to see his (very pretty) eyes in photographs and also became a problem during our engagement shoot.

In some shots, he was even asked to take them off so that they could fully capture his (adorable <3 ) face.

Because of this problem, we’re thinking of grabbing an old pair of glasses and replacing the lenses so that he can wear them to the wedding. They’re rimless Ray Bans, so they’ll look sleek from the sides. But from the front, it’ll look like he’s not really wearing glasses.

That way, people can focus more on his fabulous face.

About a week or so ago, we got the lenses changed for his glasses, and I think they look good. Here he is with his rimless, Transitions-lenses-less glasses:

What do you think about bearded men? How about grooms in spectacles?

(All images personal unless otherwise stated)


Mrs. Bighorn Sheep

Sydney, NSW, Australia
Wedding Date:
February 2014
Local Traditions: La Pedida
Classifieds: December 13, 2013
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  1. wellies Member
    wellies 1425 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:50 am

    Personally, I’m not a fan of beards. Mr. Wellies wears glasses, though. :)

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    MrsYellowDaffodil 1150 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:53 am

    Not much of a fan of the beard on my FI, (but he also sucks at growing one). He also wears transition lenses, so thanks for mentioning that! I never would have thought of it, but they will be annoying in outside pictures.

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    Amy, Guest @ 9:56 am

    I love a beard! But I’m mostly commenting to say….you guys are the CUTEST! Those photos of the two of you together are adorable.

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    thejucheidea 1355 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:06 am

    Husband has a beard AND glasses, and I wouldn’t want him any other way (mostly because I have a thing for glasses and he looks like a 6’2″ 12 year old when he shaves).

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    mscamera 300 posts, Helper bee @ 10:11 am

    Cam wore his glasses and his goatee. He just doesn’t look like him without both, so I actually asked him not to shave and to wear his glasses :)

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    laura, Guest @ 10:18 am

    I was at a wedding where the groom was wearing transitions… outdoors… in the california sunshine… it was not so good. Good call on addressing this one in advance!

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    mswallaby 2070 posts, Buzzing bee @ 10:20 am

    I like my men with a 5 o’clock shadow. Mmmmm :)

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    nadnuk 1566 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:26 am

    My fiance is bearded!

    And I am the bespectacled bride!

    He’s actually starting to wear glasses more often, so we may end up being an eight-eyed pair!

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    cateyes 504 posts, Busy bee @ 10:35 am

    mine’ll be lightly bearded and be-spectacled. that’s how he rolls every day, so the wedding won’t be any different!

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    OKJC 98 posts, Worker bee @ 11:06 am

    Pro-beard here too!
    My fiancé currently doesn’t have anti-reflective coating on the pair of glasses that he’s hoping to wear, so we’ll have to make sure he gets that looked into!

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    Meredith, Guest @ 11:18 am

    My husband was growing in a beard when we started dating- I love him with a beard. He also had Transitions lenses which would dim a bit even indoors, so he ordered an inexpensive pair of “plain” glasses for our engagement pics and the wedding, so his eyes wouldn’t be shaded at all in photos.

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    EPD, Guest @ 11:21 am

    The other half has glasses and a beard, and I have glasses. I usually like him with his facial hair, assuming he has trimmed it (he tends to let it go when we’re apart). A neat beard or mustache is a nice touch on some guys, and I think that’s especially true for your fiancé!

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    luluvohn 1194 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:33 am

    FI was clean-shaven when I met him and his beardiness comes and goes. It’s more when he gets bored he’ll grow it out to about 10 o’clock shadow (he was not particularly blessed in the beard department, so that’s about as far as he ever gets, it’s a blessing and a curse). He did have a goatee for about 8 months, including in our engagement photos. I don’t really prefer him one way or the other, I just like not getting stabbed by beardly bits.

    However, I’m the one with glasses. I know my mom would prefer I not wear them for the wedding, but FI has never known me without them (I got them in elementary school and struggled with contacts throughout high school and part of college until deciding I really was just a glasses girl, much to my mother’s chagrin). Since I met FI after graduating college, the only time he sees me without my glasses is when I’m sleeping. I’d like it if he recognizes me on our wedding day, so I’ll still be wearing them.

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    fionak 155 posts, Blushing bee @ 12:03 pm

    I’m pro-beard. I’m a big fan of the ‘heavy stubble’ look on my man.

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    cooperke87 14 posts, Newbee @ 1:38 pm

    I’m a huge fan of glasses! My fiance wears them (yay!) but I had an ex who wore contacts but owned glasses. I tried to get him to wear them just for my birthday, but he wouldn’t. :( One of the many reasons he’s an ex! My fiance also has a mustache/goatee combo now and I never liked facial hair before I met him, but I think he looks great!

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    liadee 30 posts, Newbee @ 1:40 pm

    FI is also a bearded and bespectacled – just the way i like it! right now he has about equal to that bearded groom photo, but he keeps threatening to grow a Duck Dynasty-esque one! His glasses are thin rimmed so we dont have any issues there – but i can se how transitions lenses would be a PITA

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    debinoxford 319 posts, Helper bee @ 2:34 pm

    My husband has an awesome beard. I have always liked men with facial hair and there was no way he wasn’t having his beard for the wedding. I actually don’t like him clean-shaven. I’m on the fence about glasses though. I wear them nearly every day, but for our wedding decided to wear contacts. I love the look from our day without my glasses, but sometimes think I should have just worn them because they are such a part of me.

    Go beards!

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    Mrs. Filly 65 posts, Worker bee @ 4:02 pm

    What a timely post – Stallion just got his first pair of glasses! Not sure what Stallion will do for the wedding yet since he’s still getting used to them, but I think he’s pretty cute either way :)

    Obviously, Big looks great both with and without! I think those rimless frames are a great compromise.

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    mrscam24 114 posts, Blushing bee @ 4:12 pm

    I’m pro-beards too (as long as their neat!) My fiance will stick with his usual contacts, but I definitely love his beard.

    I’m with @Mrs. Wallaby and love a good 5 o’clock shadow. My fiance can grow a great one :) (I joke and call his heavy stubble his 7 o’clock shadow.)

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    Ms Kit, Guest @ 2:03 am

    Mr. C can’t *not* have a beard…maybe we’ll try a hot shave by a pro some day, but he’s never been able to remove the dark shadow completely. So a trimmed beard definitely looks better than his supposedly clean-cut face.

    Mr. Big is very handsome, even if you are biased. I think it would be more flattering if he shaped his beard further back under his ears, though, if possible.

    I tried Transitions but the jerks didn’t work for me – huge waste. I like Mr. Big’s regular frames! His rimless are nice, too.

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    kit10 106 posts, Blushing bee @ 2:04 am

    Dang, thought I was logged in. That was me: “Mr. C can’t *not* have a beard…maybe we’ll try a hot shave by a pro some day, but he’s never been able to remove the dark shadow completely. So a trimmed beard definitely looks better than his supposedly clean-cut face.

    Mr. Big is very handsome, even if you are biased. I think it would be more flattering if he shaped his beard further back under his ears, though, if possible.

    I tried Transitions but the jerks didn’t work for me – huge waste. I like Mr. Big’s regular frames! His rimless are nice, too.”

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    DBS5127 220 posts, Helper bee @ 7:11 am

    I’m not a fan of beards, but I definitely agree with looking like yourself on the wedding day. Both my FI and I wear glasses and we will be wearing them on our wedding day. We both needed new glasses this past summer, so in preparation for the wedding, we both got anti-reflective lenses and he got his first pair of non-transitions. When we had met our photographer the first time, he still had his transitions. For our engagement photos, we already had our new glasses. Our photographer said she was so happy and relieved that he got rid of his transitions. She hadn’t wanted to say anything because of the “look like yourself,” but had been dreading photographing them!

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    Mrs. Waterfall 1403 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:10 am

    Mr. Waterfall wore his glasses and trimmed his beard the night before. He’s very rarely clean shaven, so it would have felt weird, but we wanted him to look clean and classy in his tuxedo, so the little bit of stubble was perfect.

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    gondola 1046 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:17 pm

    Mr.G got an eye infection and had to wear glasses. He looked great!

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    krislynn_sd 72 posts, Worker bee @ 6:13 pm

    My fiance has a goatee that I could never imagine him without. He also has glasses, but only wears them when he runs out of contacts or his contact lens are bugging him that day.

    I have my own issue with glasses, I wear glasses and I hate wearing my contacts. So I’m up in the air on what I’m going to do on the day of.

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    scottishmrs 3213 posts, Sugar bee @ 11:06 am

    I insisted that DH have his beard for our wedding! He thought that maybe it wouldn’t be formal enough, but I told him that I love him with a beard. He almost always has one and I wanted him to look like himself in our wedding photos, not like some clean-shaven, strange version of himself. Neither of us needs glasses though, so that wasn’t something that ever came up.

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    lolot 8413 posts, Bumble Beekeeper @ 2:37 pm

    Yup, my husband has a beard and most definitely had one (nicely trimmed) for our wedding.

    He only fully shaves about once every 5 years and I HATE it! So much FACE! I love his trimmed beard.

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