Local Traditions: La Pedida

As soon as we returned from our engagement trip, Mr. Weather talked with my parents and told them that we were getting married. I’m not gonna lie, it was a bit awkward, especially because my dad didn’t say beep the whole time. But after the initial shock, the planning started.

A couple of days later we went to Mr. Weather parents’ house, and we also told them the news. We could have left it at that, but we wanted to take a traditional spin on it. We started planning “la pedida.”

La pedida consists of the family of the groom visiting the house of the family of the bride, and in most cases it is the first time both sets of parents meet.

My mom and I made lists with several options of food, what we would wear, what china we would use”¦we both are a bit of compulsive list-makers. We set the date to the last Saturday of June and we waited.

When the day arrived we were so excited, because to me the fact that his family wanted to meet and talk with my parents made everything a little more serious—it made it official. The guest list included my FILs, my SIL and her husband, my brother, my parents, and of course Mr. Weather and me.

They arrived on time and, after what seemed like a lot of small talk, my FFIL told my parents and us that they were happy that we were getting married and that we had their full support, not only regarding wedding planning, but with whatever we needed from that day forward.

Then Mr. Weather talked. He loves talking in public. He said that he was really happy that we were getting married, and he thanked my parents for the way they have treated him all these years.

Lastly, my father said that they would help us with whatever was needed, and that Mr. Weather was a welcome addition to our family. My mom tried to talk too, but she was a bit tearful. So was I.

Look at my bling!

With Mr. Weather

With our parents

And that was it, it was official! After that we had a lovely meal and the parents got to know each other.

How did your parents meet the parents of your FI? Was it awkward?

BLOGGER

Mrs. Weather Vane

Location:
Mexico City
Wedding Date:
03/08/2014
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    nadnuk 677 posts, Busy bee @ 7:18 am

    My future in-laws and my parents have not met, yet. There were tentative plans for Thanksgiving, but my fiance’s family never committed. So it looks like they’ll all be meeting the week of the wedding. I can’t help being a bit bummed out and apprehensive about it.

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    Miss Wellies 1425 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:04 am

    What a lovely tradition! :)

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    Jes, Guest @ 8:29 am

    You’d been dating for years and your parents had never met each other yet lived in the same city? How weird…

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    Mrs. Campfire 990 posts, Busy bee @ 8:51 am

    This sounds so sweet! I was so nervous when my family met Sparky’s family.

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    Mrs. Weather Vane 148 posts, Blushing bee @ 8:55 am

    @nadnuk: I totally understand you feeling a bit apprehensive about it, it is a weird moment. Where will they meet? At the rehearsal dinner or sooner?

    @Miss Wellies: It is a lovely tradition Miss Wellies, we enjoyed the day!

    @Jes: I know!

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    Rachel, Guest @ 9:01 am

    I know engagement parties are falling out of favor and seen as “not necessary” we had one and invited both families and our closest friends, and it was wonderful. It was a more relaxed back-yard affair with a tent and yard games. So fun!

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    luluvohn 1160 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:37 am

    Our parents met each other soon after we were engaged. At the time FI proposed, we were in Florida, my mom was in New Jersey, and his parents were in Connecticut so there just hadn’t been any time before that for us all to be together. About a week after he proposed we went to my mom’s house for Easter and his parents drove down and spent an afternoon with us.

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    kit10 125 posts, Blushing bee @ 2:09 am

    They haven’t yet, and I kinda hope they don’t. We don’t live near either of them, and they don’t live near each other, and both refuse to visit us in our home, so it’s an eternal stalemate. None would like one another. If there even ends up being a wedding with guests, I suspect they’ll just steer clear.

    I still think it’s a nice tradition.

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    danilyn 225 posts, Helper bee @ 7:00 am

    My parents and FI’s parents met when we first started dating. We were in highschool, so it was natural for them to meet. Our moms do not get along at all. It’s going to be his BM and my MOH’s jobs to run interference (aka not let them near each other) at our wedding.

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    Mrs. Waterfall 1324 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:13 am

    Our parents met very soon after we started dating, but they don’t often get together. I’ve never heard of this tradition in Cuba. Is it a Mexican thing?

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    lealorali 4420 posts, Honey bee @ 1:25 pm

    Love this! Miss Veleta, how do you know English so well??

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    Mrs. Gondola 980 posts, Busy bee @ 4:19 pm

    We have the same tradition in Japan. It is very, very formal. I’m so glad my parents are from the states so we didn’t have to the tradition. I’m glad yours went well!

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    cosmo_gmr 946 posts, Busy bee @ 5:39 am

    We also have this in Bolivia… He organized a lunch and it went pretty much like yours :D
    (Not going to lie though, I was soooo nervous!)

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    Mrs. Weather Vane 148 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:32 am

    @Mrs. Waterfall: It definitely is a Mexican thing! All of my married friends/family have done it! But to be honest, I always thought that it was done all around Latin America! I guess not! :)

    @lealorali: Thanks, it is a nice tradition, and I don’t think it matters that we are a bit “older”, after all they will always be our parents! I learned english at school, but it helps that I love to read and watch TV and movies in english :)

    @Mrs. Gondola: Yes! I have several japanese friends that live in Mexico, but they did the super-formal traditional “pedida”: everyone dressed up, with some special food with particular meanings and the presence of godparents.

    @cosmo_gmr: I was nervous too!!! It really is weird, isn’t it??

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    daniellekira 548 posts, Busy bee @ 10:43 am

    My parents and my husband’s parents meet at a football game (college alma mater). This was prior to getting engaged. Then we had Christmas dinner together a few months before getting engaged. So nice that your parents got along and set it up for smooth sailing.

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    Mrs. Palm Tree 1080 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:45 am

    I love that this is a tradition! I think it’s a really nice and intimate way to celebrate your engagement. :)

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