What Size Wedding?

Weddings in Mexico are huge, and they are looong. In the last 10 years I’ve been in at least 15 weddings. (Yes, most of our friends are already married.) The smaller ones had between 150 and 180 guests, and the biggest had more than 700 guests.

I never really thought of what size wedding I wanted, but I knew I wanted to have all of my and Mr. Weather’s friends and most of our family. But I also wanted everyone to have a good time, so we are letting our parents invite whatever friends they like. This is a celebration, a part-eeehh! Everyone should have fun! But still we didn’t wanted this wedding to get out of control.

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List making is fun. / Image via Organize My Hive

So we started sketching our wedding list. Besides our friends, family, and our parents’ guests, we added some of Mr. Weather’s coworkers to the mix (sadly I don’t have any coworkers) and some random people we also want to celebrate with. After writing down all the names, we had a total of 298 guests. Not bad. We are thinking that of all the invited, about 20%  won’t come, so maybe the total number of guests will be around 250.

By Mexican standards, our wedding will be on the smallish side, but I think it is a pretty good number. I am just hoping that I can talk to all of our guests, at least once, during the night.

How did your guest list making go? Was it hard? Did you have to compromise?

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Mrs. Weather Vane

Birthday:
June 27
Location:
Mexico City
Wedding Date:
March 2014
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    havfrue 141 posts, Blushing bee @ 11:23 am

    Hola!

    We’re looking at around 200 (also in Mexico), but the Groom is from Eastern Europe so that cuts down a lot on guests. And it’s still 200 though!

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    Pingwing 100 posts, Blushing bee @ 12:29 pm

    Wow, I guess maybe it is a cultural difference. We capped it at 60, so 250+ sounds HUGE to me.

    For us, it was less about inviting everyone we know/like than selecting the people who were really important to us and having time to talk/dance/celebrate with them personally (instead of just in the same room). I also don’t like large groups of people watching me, so 60 of our closest means I won’t be so self conscious at the ceremony. It was tempting to keep adding on “just two more people”, but we are keeping our limit pretty firm for the above reasons. The guest list can certainly get away from you quickly.

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    catwoman1701 453 posts, Helper bee @ 12:38 pm

    We didn’t have much of an issue, we both knew we wanted a small wedding. The current list is under 60 people and we are fine with that.

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    bebelicious1 1470 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:41 pm

    Geez, I wish I could afford to have half of that many guests!!! I would love to go to a Mexican wedding, they look like they are so much fun. I can only imagine the food, drinks, and music!!!! I am only having 50 guests (in the U.S. that is considered intimate) but because I cut out folks who my FI and I are not close with, it was EASY! Having a small budget MAKES it that way, haha!

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    Andria | Tahoe Unveiled, Guest @ 1:26 pm

    I would love to plan a wedding for 700! There are not too many venues in Lake Tahoe that can accommodate that many guests but I am imagining a large meadow filled with wild flowers and the Sierra Nevada peaks in the background. Lovely!

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    wellies 1425 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:19 pm

    We’re having a private wedding ceremony; we don’t have to worry about guests. ;)

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    tjgonzo 35 posts, Newbee @ 3:41 pm

    We are still narrowing it now, but we both come from big families. But we are looking at 350. I always wanted a big wedding but wow lol. Lots of family and friends from school will be attending. All of his family will be from out of town.

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    gondola 1046 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:04 pm

    I can’t believe that’s a small wedding! Wow!

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    canarydiamond 8046 posts, Bumble Beekeeper @ 4:33 pm

    My god… I had six guests and that was plenty for me. I think I’d have a heart attack with 250+!

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    future_mrs_amato 60 posts, Worker bee @ 6:40 pm

    When FH and I sat down and made our first list (with input from our parents), it came out to about 230. I wanted 100! FH has a big family though so we are compromising at keeping it to 150. We have 175 A-listers and the rest B’s. We are paying for it ourselves and can’t afford for his mom to invite everyone she ever came in contact with lol

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    mswaterfall 1403 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:45 pm

    Wow, my parents probably would have been happy with a larger guestlist, but I’m getting stressed just thinking about it! We had 150 people in the end, and it was perfect!

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    msfilly 827 posts, Busy bee @ 4:40 am

    250 is small for a Mexican wedding? Must be some kind of party! We’re inviting about 200 and hope to end up with around 150, and even that seems like a lot for me.

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    Sofi, Guest @ 5:27 am

    Just remember that Mexican weddings come with 30% non attendance. Calculate acordingly.. Kids get sick… Car accident….
    My husband is from france so he had 2 large tables around 33 guests. I had 300 by mexican standarts totally normal.
    Best of luck!!!@Pingwing: in Mexico it is not about inviting everyone you know it just families are closer and BIGGER. For exemple on my Moms side we are 15 first cousins… 13 are in a serious relationship or married… So that makes 30 guests…. Lets say aunts 7 plus their husbands…. Grandparents etc etc… It is a cultural thing.

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    bbfyso 893 posts, Busy bee @ 5:30 am

    Just remember that Mexican weddings come with 30% non attendance. Calculate acordingly.. Kids get sick… Car accident….
    My husband is from france so he had 2 large tables around 33 guests. I had 300 by mexican standarts totally normal.
    Best of luck!!

    in Mexico it is not about inviting everyone you know it just families are closer and BIGGER. For exemple on my Moms side we are 15 first cousins… 13 are in a serious relationship or married… So that makes 30 guests…. Lets say aunts 7 plus their husbands…. Grandparents etc etc… It is a cultural thing.@Pingwing:

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    cosmo_gmr 946 posts, Busy bee @ 5:43 am

    We had a 200 people list and had to leave a lot of people out :/
    That was a bummer specially since a lot of people who did confirm attendance didn’t show up… I know it’s silly but I still get a little angry when I think about that LOL… and it’s been over three years!

    Anyway, I need to let it go.

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    weathervane 171 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:25 am

    @havfrue: Hola! Exactly! Imagine if all the family and friends of your groom came! Where are you getting married?

    @Pingwing: It definitely is a cultural thing. I don’t feel that we are inviting everyone I know, or it would have been a bigger wedding. We are actually inviting people we care about, even the guests from my parents are friends that I’ve known for over 20 years! And I know each and everyone of them.

    @catwoman1701: ,@catwoman1701: Actually, I believe that 60 is a great number! You will be able to talk to everyone, quality talk, and still there will be enough people dancing and mingling. Good luck ladies!

    @Andria | Tahoe Unveiled: That does sound lovely! <3

    @Miss Wellies: I want to read your recaps! That is why I was so excited to become a blogger, look at all the different types of weddings there are! :)

    @tjgonzo: I know!! Big families are an issue, specially if all your aunts and uncles come with all their families!! Your wedding will be so much fun!!

    @Mrs. Gondola: Smallish! :)

    @canarydiamond: Oh! I hope I can manage!! Wish me luck!

    @Future_Mrs_Amato: That sounds like a good compromise! Good luck with your planning! Keep me posted at how it turns!

    @Mrs. Waterfall: Oh Mrs. Cascada! I hope I can manage the stress that day… so far I’ve been easy-breezy, I hope to keep it that way!!

    @Miss Filly: Yes, smallish wedding :)

    @bbfyso: Yes! I hope that from the 300 guests only about 250 will come… we’ll see how that turns out! I’ll keep you posted.
    And you are exactly right. In México is about family and close friends, all with their plus ones, so the numbers add up quickly!

    @cosmo_gmr: I know! My married friends are still upset of some of the people that had confirmed and didn’t show!! I would be upset also!! Specially if, as you said, someone else was left out because of that… I’m glad you wrote. I was wondering about the size of the weddings on other countries in Latin America… I guess they are also on the bigger side! :)

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    pyramid 95 posts, Worker bee @ 7:45 am

    That’s a lot of people, but I’m glad that it’s right where you are comfortable! I like big weddings when you have a big party going on!
    We’re finalizing now and I’m just trying to keep that in mind as the final number keeps getting bigger…

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    havfrue 141 posts, Blushing bee @ 3:28 pm

    @Miss Weather Vane: Well, even if they did, they’re just a much smaller group. I’ll be getting married in Baja California – but live in the SF Bay Area – so Mom’s doiing most of it!

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