The Inevitable Newlywed “15”

So remember all that hard work I put into ensuring I a) fit into my wedding dress with room to spare and b) had killer arms for the wedding photos? After nine months of meticulous calorie counting (portion control was key since there was no way I was giving up carbs, sweets, and wine) and a few months of P90X, I had the wedding body I always dreamed of having.

And then, leftover wedding cake and cupcakes happened. And the summertime happened. With the wedding over and my goal achieved, I totally fell off the “staying fit” wagon.

That about sums it up. / Photo via Some E-Cards

It’s the curse of the inevitable Newlywed 15! OK, not so much a curse, but in my case it was more about not having a specific goal after the wedding and therefore losing the motivation to maintain a healthy lifestyle. And the honeymoon didn’t help—I probably gained about five pounds just on that trip alone (granted, we were gone for almost four weeks, but still!).

While I kept trying to keep some semblance of a workout schedule afterward (I must have started and stopped P90X three times this summer), it was very difficult to have the motivation to do such a killer workout six times a week. And in terms of food, I would say the first two months after the wedding is when I gained the most weight as I was sooo over counting calories at that point. BIG mistake.

When I started having difficulty comfortably fitting into my favorite pair of jeans, I knew that I had to once again make a change. The thing is, we’ve been eating much healthier again these past few months—which is actually not that difficult anymore since I’ve really become passionate about cooking over the past year. Plus, we are living on a budget these days after the momentous (and hella expensive) year we’ve had, which means less eating out.

So with the healthy meals under control but the weight still not coming off, I know that I’ve got to retrain my brain to not overeat, control my portions, and get into some kind of workout routine again. Since Mr. M and I have pretty busy schedules these days, we’re trying a new Beachbody workout called T25 (by the same guy who created Insanity). It’s a super intense five times a week program, but each workout is only 25 minutes. We just started yesterday and, while it’s really tough, it felt good to finally get moving again. Plus in the past, I usually preferred to work out solo, but it was actually fun working out with the mister. Now there is NO excuse for not being able to find a mere 25 minutes a few days a week to work out. It’s a 10-week program, so we’ll try to stick with it!

For me, it’s not about being super skinny, but it’s really about staying healthy. I’m not overweight so I don’t want to obsess or be too hard on myself. But now that I’m getting older and my once speedy metabolism feels like it’s sputtered to a halt, I want to instill good eating and exercise habits for myself now so I can continue to live a long, happy, and healthy life. I know it’s cliche to say, but it really should be a lifestyle change at this point. Plus, I want to always look damn good in a bathing suit. :)

Anyone else dealing with the Newlywed 15? Any tips on how to stay motivated and continue to maintain healthy habits?


Mrs. Mongoose

New Haven, CT
Wedding Date:
May 2013
Putting My Best Face Forward
Classifieds: December 17, 2013

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    alzell02, Guest @ 11:11 am

    OMG! You could not have put that more perfectly. I am struggling with the same thing. It’s so much harder when there isn’t a goal or a finish line. I was finished with writing down everything I ate, now I think I need to try again. Thank you for addressing this. It is so easy for it to happen, especially when you are happy. The hardest part for me is wanting to come home after work instead of the gym. I am still in my newlywed stage and I love my time with him. I guess I just need to find a balance. Appreciate this post!

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    daniellekira 573 posts, Busy bee @ 11:12 am

    I didn’t gain 15 pounds so to speak, but I also became more lax. I decided I could eat dessert more often (I would only have it once a week max), workout less and have bigger portions. I noticed I gained a bit and have now curbed the dessert again and am big on portion control. I am trying to go back to the gym 4 days a week, but with appointments and holidays, it is harder than I thought it would be. Plus trying to get pregnant means I should be good about my exercise. I feel you on the weight gain though.

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    Mrs. Palm Tree 1122 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:15 am

    Fifteen is an understatement for me, that’s for sure. 😉 I’m giving myself until the New Year for a handful of reasons, including medical ones, and then I’m going to take significant strides towards being healthier. Good luck with the program and way to go Mr. M for joining!

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    MrsRight, Guest @ 11:20 am

    I’m in the same boat! I was working out twice a day 6 days a week before the wedding. And now… well I’m still working out. But it’s more like yoga and lifting my wine glass.

    If you’re looking for a tough but short workout, I really like Jillian Michaels. Her Ripped in 30 and 30 Day Shred are both great. And she’s very motivational and real.

    Also, I’ve had to put restrictions on my eating habits. Only 1 glass of wine with dinner. Not two. Things like that.

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    snowjewelz 164 posts, Blushing bee @ 11:28 am

    I am definitely in the same boat! I got married in May, and I wasn’t even on a diet or exercising before the wedding; we were simply so busy that I wasn’t sitting around snacking. And even if I ate a lot, I was just so active from having so many things to do!

    And now everyone thinks I am pregnant just because my face and belly got rounder :(

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    campfire 1045 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:36 am

    Oh man, I feel you. I haven’t gained back THAT much, but between the multi-week food-stravaganza that was our honeymoon and just general bad eating at Thanksgiving/Christimas-time I have gained back a few pounds. That’s what our vegan month is about – a kickstart to a healthy year. :)

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    nadnuk 1566 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:43 am

    My fiance is doing T25! I tried it out, but could not get with it, so I switched back to TurboFire.

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    mswallaby 2070 posts, Buzzing bee @ 12:11 pm

    You know I was in the same boat, I think I blogged about it! Still having trouble getting back in an exercise routine but I’m doing better than I was most of the year. Get it girl!!

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    wellies 1425 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:02 pm

    I want to instill good eating and exercise habits for myself now so I can continue to live a long, happy, and healthy life.

    So true! Portion control is the hardest for me. Food is too delicious. 😉

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    camel 703 posts, Busy bee @ 1:16 pm

    I lost a lot of muscle tone after the wedding. Before the wedding I could do around 10 pull ups. Now I can’t do any, so I too am motivated to get back in shape!

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    Mrs. Waterfall 1403 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:43 pm

    Work it, girl! Portion control is key. I feel like if I have the food in front of my eyes, I will want to eat it all, so I end up overeating, but not so much when it’s not. Out of sight, out of mind! :)

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    gondola 1046 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:53 pm

    I gained 15 pounds after I moved in with Mr. G. I would love to get back to down to my initial weight but the honeymoon and holiday season is just not making it happen. Gotta put my feet to the pavement next year.

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    msmongoose 264 posts, Helper bee @ 7:39 pm

    @alzell02: Glad to not go at it alone!

    @daniellekira: Sigh biggest weakness ever. I absolutely love love love desserts (tiramisu, blueberry pie and cupcakes rank up there as my favs). But like I say, it’s all about moderation not deprivation! Stay motivated and stick to your workout sched as much as you can.

    @Mrs. Palm Tree: Oh no, I hope you’re doing okay!

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    lealorali 4827 posts, Honey bee @ 7:41 pm

    I was so afraid of the Newlywed 15 that I started running even more (I like to run though so it’s ok) and lost a few more lbsI hated when everyone would say ¨Óh, did you just lose weight for your wedding?¨ I felt like I owed it to myself to keep in shape!

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    msmongoose 264 posts, Helper bee @ 7:43 pm

    @MrsRight: LOL but it takes so much effort to lift glasses of wine! My sister also recommends Jillian Michaels’ workouts! Sounds like you are happy with it as well so I may need to check it out if I start getting bored with T25.

    @snowjewelz: Ugh I hear you on the expanding belly–why does the weight decide to settle there first??

    @Mrs. Campfire: Hahah I probably picked the worst time of year to start a new workout routine (between Thanksgiving & Christmas) but I figured I should start somewhere.

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    msmongoose 264 posts, Helper bee @ 7:47 pm

    @nadnuk: How long has he been doing it? Has he seen results??

    @Mrs. Wallaby: @Mrs. Camel: @Mrs. Gondola: We need to motivate each other!

    @Miss Wellies: @Mrs. Waterfall: Other than sticking to a workout routine, portion control is THE hardest part of staying fit.

    @lealorali: Very smart plan–I wish I had your motivation!

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    Kristy, Guest @ 12:32 pm

    I have so got the Newlywed 15 going on right now. Thanks for this.

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    Danielle johnson, Guest @ 1:25 pm

    Hi. Just got married Saturday and figured I’d lay off the diet until new year. I worked my butt off for the wedding and am not quite ready to lose my nice body. I’ve gained about 5 already but it’s aight lol. Wedding day body will not disappear….it’ll just be in hiding til after New Years then ill jump on T25 and Zumba on my xBox kinect every other day. I’m happy with my new hubby but it’ll be summer time before you know it. Gotta get it right, keep it tight for him…and myself mostly. I wish we could make a group to motivate each other after our weddings. Together we can do it!

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    Selena, Guest @ 1:34 pm

    Sign up for a 5k or a mud run, zombie run, etc. Give yourself a new goal. I am kind of struggling with the same thing but mostly from having foot surgery and not being able to run. Oh and when you sign up for the run, tell everyone about it and that you signed up. Anytime they see you, they will ask how your training is coming along or when the run is, heck they may even sign up with you!

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    Donita, Guest @ 4:03 pm

    My motivation for years has always just been the thought of staying healthy. I don’t think you necessarily need to train your brain to drop weight on and off throughout the year, its not good for you physically. Just live a constant healthy lifestyle and you then do not have to worry about shedding those pounds. Treats every once and awhile are ok, but think of food as fuel. You wouldn’t want to put bad fuel in your gas tank right? Our bodies deserve the same treatment. Eat things that will allow your body to perform/function in the way it was designed to. :) Fitness is 70% nutrition.

    Much Love

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    Heather, Guest @ 5:43 am

    Same happened to me! I gained 10lbs even though I kept up my 6 days a week of cardio/weight training-my eating got out of hand. I got pretty depressed after the wedding. Had moved away from my family and didn’t realize what a HUGE change marriage would make on my life. Up until the day after the wedding, I thought it would be all romance and flowers. It’s not. Marriage is wonderful but stressful and life-changing at the same time. Well I would get up at night and eat like my life depended on it.

    Now, after a year of marriage, I’ve gotten my weight back down and am focusing on building muscle now instead of being skinny. I’m much happier this way since being ‘skinny’ is not a way my body can be naturally be. I also think a marriage gets better over time. Our first year has been insane but we are more in love now even.
    The awesome thing though is that my husband met me (and pursued me AND loved me) even when I was overweight. When I was skinny and now, when I’m somewhere in the middle. He never even noticed I was a chubster! 😀

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    msmongoose 264 posts, Helper bee @ 10:27 am

    @Danielle johnson: “Get it right, keep it tight”–stealing this motto!

    @Selena: That’s a fantastic idea. I’m usually a solo runner (haven’t done a race since I used to be in track & field in grade school) but it seems like a good idea to at least sign up for one race with friends and see if I like it. Thanks for the tip!

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    msmongoose 264 posts, Helper bee @ 10:30 am

    @Donita: You are a smart lady. Some food is just so incredibly delicious and makes you forget you should just be eating for fuel (and moderated enjoyment from time to time).

    @Heather: You clearly married an amazing guy! It’s funny how we notice all these things we think are imperfections about ourselves, and our guys don’t even notice half the time. Probably means we stress a bit too much about it sometimes :)

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    Heather, Guest @ 11:51 am

    @Mrs. Mongoose: @Mrs. Mongoose: @Mrs. Mongoose: @Mrs. Mongoose: I completely think we’re too hard on ourselves. I don’t think our men notice or care about being a bit chubby unless it starts interfering with our health.

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    missesawesome 144 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:14 pm

    My wedding was two months ago. Right after, we took a minimoon, where we controlled ourselves fairly well and also did tons of walking everyday, so things were good … Until Halloween, and then Thanksgiving, and then Christmas! Ha haa!

    Needless to say, it’s been a really rough past two months diet- and exercise-wise. Mr. Awesome and I both worked really hard to lose weight for our Big Day, but now we’re both unfortunately definitely noticing a difference in how our clothes fit and how much energy we have. :(

    He and I are pretty busy and when we finally have free time, we’d rather snuggle and relax than exercise. However, I made it very clear early on that I did not want us to be the “typical fat married couple”. You know the ones. We all have one or two couples like them for friends …

    I guess a New Year Resolution (that we must keep) is in order! 😛

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