The Color Purple – It’s Difficult

You’ve seen some mentions here and there of my bridesmaids, and in total I’ve got five of them.  There’s my sister, MOH Curls, Sphinx’s sister, BM Dino, and my friends BM Perk, BM Taco, and BM Duffy.  These girls are my nearest and dearest and have been big parts of my life through some different stages, and I am so thrilled that they want to take part in the Pyramid wedding.

From the get-go, I wanted to make sure that their bridesmaids dresses didn’t suck. Pretty reasonable, I think. Oh, and I didn’t want them to be expensive, please and thanks. So one of the first things I did was to start a group Pinterest board and started pinning some ideas of styles I liked. Currently, we are all living in four separate cities and by the time the wedding rolls around, that will be five, so we have that working against us. We couldn’t go do a shopping trip altogether, and whatever we chose had to be accessible for everyone. We’re also dealing with a variety heights, sizes, and skin tones, so I thought that having everyone’s input would be useful.

One option would have been to allow the girls to all pick separate dresses with some guidelines on color and style, but I wasn’t sure that was the look I was going for. I was drawn to the look of different necklines on similar dresses in the same fabric and color.


Lovely gunmetal dresses with different necklines. /Dresses by Freja Designer Dressmaking/Photo by Vanishing Moments Photography

Then, that everyone was able to wear something that is comfortable and flattering, but it still remains a cohesive look.

I came up with some guidelines for the look and the very first was short dresses. May + the Deep South + outside photography does not add up to an event for long dresses. I also find short dresses to be cuter and more fun, and the girls were on board with it. Apparently the idea of short dresses at a nighttime wedding made some family members clutch their pearls in horror, but I pulled the “It’s What We Want” card and moved right along.

Hand in hand with that, I decided that I didn’t want chiffon dresses. They’re very popular and very flattering, but I just didn’t like how informal short dresses would be in chiffon. I also didn’t want anything that was too stiff or uncomfortable like a tafetta or a heavy satin.

For the color, I wanted a deep, eggplant or plum purple. It’s one of the wedding colors, it’s one of my favorite colors, and we have several LSU alums in the bridal party. But the right shade of purple is tough. It’s a hard color to photograph, and can come off looking almost black sometimes, but I thought the jewel tone color would look flattering on everyone’s skin tone. If we weren’t able to find a satisfactory purple, I would turn to neutrals like navy, gray, or black.


Like this shade of purple./Found on Bridal Guide/Photo by R.E.M. Video & Photo

So I searched out online—Allure, J. Crew, David’s Bridal, Ann Taylor, Dessy, Mori Lee, Alfred Angelo. I opened each webpage with high expectations because in all of those pages of dresses, there had to be one that would work for us! Most of the time I ended up disappointed—nothing really stood out. Even on more expensive sites, there wasn’t anything that was so great that I’d ask them to pay that price. I found myself asking again and again, “Why do bridesmaids dresses have to be so darn ugly?” Okay, so they aren’t all ugly and obviously we don’t all have the same taste, but you’ve got to admit that there are some bad options out there!

We played around with the idea of finding a dress on ModCloth or at Macy’s and just ordering it for everyone, but with the necessary sizes and color we couldn’t find anything. Seriously, it seemed like nothing came in purple. Where is the purple love, fashion designers?

So we stuck to officially labeled “bridesmaids” dresses, since the sizes, color options, and large areas of distribution worked to our advantage. They’re also available for a lot longer than a typical dress on the rack at a store is, although I would have loved for that option to work out.

Here are some of my favorites that just didn’t work out for one reason or another.


Mori Lee Style 31012


Lela Rose Dress LR175 on Dessy Group


After Six Style 6644 on Wedding Shoppe, Inc.


Wtoo Dress #450


I LOVE this dress, but it only came in black or white./Mori Lee Style 31001

My initial idea was to use both the second and third dress, and let the girls pick which style they wanted. But those are two different brands, and don’t come in the same color and they were both a little more expensive than I was comfortable with.

Overall, I liked the look of a slightly full skirt and some extra detailing such as lace or an illusion neckline. The church doesn’t require straps on the dresses, but I liked those options because they were a little bit different.

Next time I’ll show you what we finally decided for the dresses!

Did you find it hard to pick out bridesmaids dresses? Did you have the girls give you input or pick them out for themselves?


Mrs. Pyramid

New Orleans, LA
Wedding Date:
May 2014
Top 10 Wedding Ideas from Pinterest: December 18, 2013
The NewlyJets: The Night Before
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    thejucheidea 1355 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:24 am

    We had all of our ladies choose their own dresses in fall colors. We ended up with purple, green, yellow, gold, brown, burgundy and navy blue. It was so pretty!

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    Mrs. Clover 123 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:57 am

    We’re going shopping on Sunday, once my sister gets home for Christmas break, and we’re only looking at bridesmaid dresses. My sister is tiny and my other two friends are very tall, so there is no way something off the rack (or even the same style) will work for us. I’ve kind of avoided the whole topic honestly!

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    Mrs. Filly 827 posts, Busy bee @ 6:04 am

    I see we have similar tastes in purple! 😉 We’re going with J.Crew silk chiffon dresses in eggplant – they stacked their student/teacher IDs with another sale they had going on at the time, so the dresses ended up being super affordable and everyone chose the style that suited them best. Can’t wait to see what you went with!

  4. rucksack Member
    rucksack 518 posts, Busy bee @ 6:09 am

    Bridesmaids dresses were a huge stress. Can’t wait to see what you found!

  5. mswallaby Member
    mswallaby 2070 posts, Buzzing bee @ 6:55 am

    Ohh I love your taste!
    @Miss Filly: My girls ended up mostly wearing J. Crew silk chiffon dresses too, they’re so elegant – they all looked so lovely!

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    luluvohn 1194 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:25 am

    We have SUCH similar taste. That After Six dress was my top pick for the longest time, and then I found the Wtoo one and liked that too. We ended up going in a kind of different direction (more similar to the Wtoo or Mori Lee), but I’m so curious to see what you found.

  7. msbicycle Member
    msbicycle 718 posts, Busy bee @ 8:06 am

    LOVE the back on that top Mori Lee! Also, can I just say how grateful I am for this process to be over for me? It is HARD finding bridesmaid dresses! I can’t wait to see what you chose!

  8. wellies Member
    wellies 1425 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:20 am

    I love the first and last dress! I can’t wait to see what you came up with. :)

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    missgoldfish 454 posts, Helper bee @ 9:33 am

    “But the right shade of purple is tough. It’s a hard color to photograph, and can come off looking almost black sometimes.”

    I agree 100% with this! I am also looking for a plum or eggplant purple but the color on the model dress online vs. seeing the dress in person vs. taking pictures of the dress in the store somehow produces 3 different purples! I’m going bridesmaid dress shopping this weekend with my girls and I’m hoping to find the elusive perfect purple. :)

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    daniellekira 573 posts, Busy bee @ 9:45 am

    I love the first dress, but I am very partial to key hole backs. I chose the Watters Iris dress in navy. I love lace and the keyhole option. My girls looked amazing. I can’t wait to see your choice.

  11. weathervane Member
    weathervane 171 posts, Blushing bee @ 2:35 pm

    All of them are really pretty, I like the Mori Lee 31012 the best. Can’t wait to see what you ladies picked. You have great taste!

  12. gondola Member
    gondola 1046 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:12 pm

    What beautiful inspiration for dresses. I love the deep purple color too. I can’t wait to see what you chose.

  13. jetsetter Member
    jetsetter 535 posts, Busy bee @ 6:10 am

    You have great taste, I would wear any of these! Need an extra bridesmaid? 😉

  14. mswaterfall Member
    Mrs. Waterfall 1403 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:22 am

    I love that shade of purple. Very early on in my planning, I told my girls that if they had any considerations, they should speak up or forever hold their peace, and MOH Long Legs was like “Please don’t put me in purple!” Purple is actually one of my favourite colours to wear, and really flattering with my colouring (dark hair, light skin with a pink undertone) but MOH Long Legs has olive skin, so purple is not her colour at all.

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