Asking Him to Marry Me

Mr. PB gifted me with a beautiful engagement ring when he proposed to me. What did he get? Sure, he gets to spend the rest of his life with me, but if we are playing tit for tat, I get to spend the rest of my life with him. So in reality, I get him and some bling, but he just gets me.

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I got a ring, and a couple of days later he got a heart shaped chicken nugget. / Personal photo

I’ve never quite understood the girl-gets-the-ring, the-guy-gets-nothing phenomenon. I mean, I’m sure it goes back to the days when dowries were given in exchange for a bride, but it’s now 2014—time for new traditions.

I’ve always thought that the groom should get something. Maybe a big screen TV or season tickets to his favorite sports team or a gadget he’s been ogling. I don’t think women necessarily need to spend as much on an item as the guy spends on the ring, but I think making him feel loved and appreciated is definitely important.

When it came to thinking of something to give Mr. PB, I didn’t want to get him something electronic because he barters and trades his electronics all the time. I would be pretty bummed if he traded his engagement gift for something shinier and newer. Mr. PB doesn’t wear any jewelry, so a watch or anything else in that category was out. Season tickets to his favorite sports team would be somewhat of a punishment thanks to the team’s poor performance as of late. So, the wheels started turning”¦

Mr. PB and I both love taking little weekend road trips and small vacations. Each time we would plan a trip, Mr. PB would come up with an outrageous travel plan. “First, we take a bus to Philly, stay a night, take a train up to Jersey, and then rent a car and drive back home.” That was legitimately one of his proposed itineraries once. Needless to say, I shot it down. But I was reminded of his crazy travel plans when I was thinking of a gift for him. You see, Mr. PB had never traveled by train, commercial bus, or airplane before. And neither of us had ever been to New York City during Christmastime.

After some quick research, I was able to book us a train ride from Rochester to Syracuse, a bus ride from Syracuse to New York City, a room at a cool hotel, and a plane ride back home the next day. It was completely spontaneous of me and totally not something I would normally be OK with, but I knew Mr. PB would be thrilled about it. Plus, it made me happy that the gift was more based on creating memories than giving something tangible. But I needed to find a fun way to let him know about the trip. So I decided to propose.

I found some transportation clip art, added some words, and cut four cards out. I put them into a box and had Mr. PB randomly select them out of the box one by one. He was a bit confused as the cards came out, but once they were all together, I think he began to understand.

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He didn’t believe me that I was OK with the multiple forms of transportation. Putting my likes and preferences aside is part of giving a gift, right? / Personal photo

Mr. PB quickly accepted my proposal, and less than a month later we were in the Big Apple and enjoying all the holiday spirit.

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Don’t mind Mr. PB’s crazy-man beard. It was a phase. Pay more attention to the angels playing trumpets in the background. / Personal photo

Did you gift your fiance with an engagement present? Do you and your significant other enjoy weekend trips like we do?

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Mrs. Phone Booth

Location:
Rochester, NY
Wedding Date:
March 2014
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    kclrn 41 posts, Newbee @ 7:23 am

    I like your idea and how great is it that you will have the memories of that trip forever! I did get my fiance an engagement gift as well. I had a mandala that he made in elementary school framed in a circular gold frame. I also made a similar mandala (also framed in a gold frame). We now have our mandalas next to each other in our living room :)

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    rucksack 518 posts, Busy bee @ 7:28 am

    This is so adorable! Guys are so funny about planes and trains and automobiles – I love that you gave him a multi-transport vacation!

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    Mrs. Airplane 395 posts, Helper bee @ 7:42 am

    Mr. Airplane was pretty convinced he needed an engagement gift, and while I agreed that something was in order, the $3k watch he had his eye on was NOT in the budget. We ended up settling on a pair of Ray-Bans. :)

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    Mrs. Pyramid 100 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:59 am

    This is such a cute and thoughtful idea to do something for PB.

    Sphinx bought a big screen TV right after our engagement since it was on sale before Christmas, and he had been really wanting it. He bought it for himself, but I’ve joked that that was his engagement present, so it’s funny you should say that!

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    roadtrip 803 posts, Busy bee @ 8:20 am

    See, I think Mr. PB’s itinerary sounded fun! Go you for coming up with a sweet way to propose to him :)

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    wellies 1425 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:33 am

    What a sweet, thoughtful gift! I proposed to Mr. W, so he’s the one who got the ring, not me. ;)

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    lastgirlstanding 359 posts, Helper bee @ 8:48 am

    A week after MJ proposed to me, I proposed to him with a Mauviel copper roasting pan (he LOVES to cook). He thought is was kinda silly, but couldn’t wait to use his new super-expensive new roasting pan! lol

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    Mrs. Milk Cow 209 posts, Helper bee @ 9:56 am

    You are so thoughtful! What a great idea – trips/memories almost always outweigh physical gifts for me, so I think your idea was perfect.

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    luluvohn 1194 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:24 am

    I actually got FI a man-gagement ring and he loves it. He had never been a jewelry guy before so this is his chance to wear a ring for a year that I won’t be offended if he loses it or breaks it (because it cost $30).

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    blonde17jess 1290 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:51 am

    Cute idea to take a trip to celebrate and get to do something that PB would like to do. Adventures are always fun to take together!

    @luluvohn: out of curiosity, does he wear it on his left or right hand? I worked with a guy who wore his man-gagement ring on his right hand, and I thought it was super sexy (lol). I tried to convince my fiance to wear one but he doesn’t think outside of the box/is too traditional so he wouldn’t agree to it!

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    cosmo_gmr 946 posts, Busy bee @ 11:49 am

    This is so cute! Loved how you planned everything!

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    GreenGarnet 138 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:04 pm

    You are so thoughtful and creative! I felt the same way and decided to get my FI an engagement gift as well. I chose a piece of art for him.

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    msfilly 827 posts, Busy bee @ 1:55 am

    How cool is this? Way to start a new tradition – you’re right, the men should get a gift other than our fabulous selves. :)

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    jetsetter 535 posts, Busy bee @ 8:50 am

    So thoughtful! Mr. Jet got a Gibson Les Paul guitar as an engagement present, no complaints there! ;)

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    kellis 54 posts, Worker bee @ 10:47 am

    I bought my FI an “engagement” ring that he wears. Initially I “proposed” (the day after I was shocked by my proposal) with a mood ring. But once we got home, I bought him a “real” redwood ring that he wears now.

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    luluvohn 1194 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:01 am

    @Blonde17Jess: He wears his on his left hand and when he gets his wedding band he’ll either switch it to his right hand or do something else with it. Or I’ll commandeer it for a thumb ring or to put on a necklace.

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    Zoe, Guest @ 11:28 am

    We split the cost of the ring between us. As well as the two bands at the same time. It was custom made with a diamond that I ordered from the mine site I work at in Canada. It was a fraction of the cost for us.
    I have, however, bought him a little “I love you” gift for the wedding night. (An Asus laptop)
    Hoping he likes it!

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    o0Zoe 1 posts, Wannabee @ 11:29 am

    Oops didn’t sign in ^.^

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    sequinlove 171 posts, Blushing bee @ 4:04 pm

    That is so sweet! I love your travel idea.
    I ‘proposed’ to my FI with a family heirloom ring about a week after our proposal, so we both have engagement rings.

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    ssmess01 28 posts, Newbee @ 7:06 am

    I bought my FI a wedding. If we were sharing the cost of the wedding, I may have come up with an engagement gift for him, bust since I’m spending almost 100x the amount on the wedding as he did on the ring, I think it was fair NOT to give him an engagement gift.

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    missslipper 55 posts, Worker bee @ 8:38 pm

    This is an awesome idea!!!!!!! I just purchased his wedding band without him knowing… I was wondering the same thing you were wondering! Why do the guys NOT get some kind of special treatment as well?
    Awesomeness! Thanks for sparking ideas!

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    Mrs. Phone Booth 57 posts, Worker bee @ 7:07 pm

    @kclRN: Love the idea and that you made one to match his. Adorable!

    @Mrs. Airplane: Good idea going with the Ray-Bans :)

    @Miss Pyramid: I totally think that counts!

    @LastGirlStanding: A useful and thoughtful gift – love it!

    @luluvohn: The thought of a man-gagement ring actually never crossed my mind – brilliant! Mr. PB doesn’t wear any jewelry so maybe that’s why but I think it’s a really good idea!!

    @GreenGarnet: Good move with a piece of art! A gift that you can both enjoy :)

    @Mrs. Jet Setter: Oooooohhhh a guitar! Nice job, Mrs. Jet Setter!

    @Kellis: I love that you felt the need to do something immediately :)

    @o0Zoe: I’m sure he’ll love the laptop!

    @sequinlove: I am always a sucker for a sentimental gift :)

    @ssmess01: You always have to gauge the situation and do what’s right for you. A wedding is definitely a HUGE gift :)

    @MissSlipper: I like the idea of the secret wedding band! Mr. PB and I went shopping together so I ruined that idea haha

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