Falling for You: Dancing Cheek to Cheek

When we met with our DJ the week before the wedding to finalize the schedule for the evening, he suggested that we transition into our first dance right after our entrance. I, in my very limited experience, had never heard of this before, so I was rather hesitant, but we decided to trust the professional, and now that it’s all said and done, can I just say that he was right on the money! Going straight into our first dance made the evening flow so much more smoothly. For starters, all of our guests were already standing for our entrance, and our best friends were gathered around the dance floor, so it was a really seamless transition. Plus, since we had such a high-energy entrance, the momentum just kept building and building. It also allowed us to “open” the dance floor right away, which was a great thing, because our guests tore it up in between courses! If you’re on the fence about getting the first dance out of the way as soon as possible, I say do it. It worked for us!

I didn’t share our music selections with the hive before now, but mostly because we didn’t make a final decision until a few days before the wedding. For most of the time we were dating, our song has been “Collide” by Howie Day, so we always assumed it would be our first dance. However, once we got engaged, we felt like maybe the tempo was too slow. We were feeling pretty self-conscious about being the center of attention for three and a half minutes and didn’t really want to do the awkward high-school sway. We spent months looking for alternatives, among them many ballads by my two favorite artists, Juan Luis Guerra and Gavin Degraw. Eventually, we settled on “Where You Are” by Gavin Degraw because it had a very waltzy tempo and lovely lyrics.

We even considered taking a few dance lessons to spruce things up, but as it turns out, dance lessons are expensive, yo! We decided to skip the lessons but practice dancing at home a few times. Well, we never got around to it, so the week before the wedding, we figured we ought to practice at least once in our living room, and “Where You Are” just felt wrong, like we were trying to be something we weren’t. In the end, we said “to hell with it” and chose our song for our first dance and don’t regret it one bit. Sometimes, we get so focused on putting on a show that we forget what weddings are really about: the couple and the love they share. Well, if our relationship was made into a movie, “Collide” would be the soundtrack, and it wouldn’t have felt right having our first dance as husband and wife to anything else.

As soon as we finished our entrance, I handed my bouquet to MOH Long Legs and the DJ started playing our song.

Oddly enough, we were so focused on each other that we didn’t even notice the cameras, or the 150 people that were staring at us.

We swayed a bit, but also threw in quite a few turns and twirls for flair.

I love how this picture captures the movement of my dress.

At the time, we felt like we had pulled off some really fancy moves. A few guests even asked if we had practiced the dance before the wedding!

Of course, once we watched the video, we realized that we weren’t quite up to So You Think You Can Dance standards. Big, poufy ball gowns don’t really lend themselves to fancy footwork, and neither of us has any dance training beyond the awkward high-school sway, so I still declare it a success, even if we dipped on the wrong doo-doo-doo. 😉 I really love our video because we look so happy and in love, even if our dance moves weren’t quite as advanced as we would have liked. Now, it’s the little mistakes (like Mr. W stepping on my dress) that make us smile when we watch the video. It’s not perfect, but that’s us. If you want to see it all in action, take a look below! You can see the chandelier moment at 0:28, and me trying really hard not to lose it. I also love how our some of our bridal party is singing along—they’re adorable.

First Dance from Mrs.Waterfall on Vimeo / Footage courtesy of Cinemomento / Video edit by Mrs. Waterfall

What song are you choosing for your first dance? Are you choreographing something, or winging it like us?
Next up: Speeches and dinner!

All photos courtesy of the amazing Bachmann Photography unless otherwise specified

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Mrs. Waterfall

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June 2013
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  1. mscamera Member
    mscamera 300 posts, Helper bee @ 1:32 pm

    I love Collide! Your video is so precious, I’m getting all teary eyed over here :) Seriously, though – good work just going with your gut, it clearly means a lot to you guys.

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    Miss Parisian 588 posts, Busy bee @ 1:53 pm

    OMG your pictures are fabulous! I love the one of your dress twirling! You look like pros by the pictures anyway. :)

  3. mswaterfall Member
    Mrs. Waterfall 1403 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:17 pm

    @Mrs. Camera: Aww, thank you! I’m glad we went with it in the end, any other song would have been lacking something for us :)
    @Miss Parisian: I love that picture too, and thanks! You’re sweet :)

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    gill84 731 posts, Busy bee @ 5:05 pm

    Watching this video/listening to this song, and re-reading your post about what your husband said to you totally made me burst into tears. Congratulations on your beautiful wedding and marriage.

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    Mrs. Filly 827 posts, Busy bee @ 5:17 pm

    Love Collide – great choice for your first dance! You guys were definitely a step up from the awkward middle school sway. Quit making the rest of us look bad! 😉

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    mrscam24 114 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:45 pm

    The black and whites of your dress spinning are just magical!

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    graciej 197 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:27 pm

    That picture of your dress swirling out is a stunner. Also, I love that up lighting. I was just about the pull that out of our decorating list to save some money, but you’re making me rethink it!

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    Mrs. Rubber Stamps 821 posts, Busy bee @ 6:42 pm

    What a beautiful first dance! I love the pictures of your dress twirling :-)

  9. gondola Member
    gondola 1046 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:59 am

    Your dress in motion is amazing! I’m so glad you got such great photos of it!

  10. msbicycle Member
    msbicycle 718 posts, Busy bee @ 5:33 am

    Ahhh, that dress twirl!

  11. roadtrip Member
    roadtrip 803 posts, Busy bee @ 6:03 am

    So sweet! I think you guys did great, especially for wining it!

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    Mrs. Phone Booth 57 posts, Worker bee @ 9:22 am

    The pictures of your twirling are GORGEOUS! Such joy and happiness and most importantly, LOVE :)

  13. mspalmtree Member
    Mrs. Palm Tree 1122 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:36 am

    What a GREAT song choice, Mrs. W. Collide makes me cry every single time I hear it. I love how happy you and Mr. W look – perfect newlyweds.

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    Footballwife 568 posts, Busy bee @ 7:54 am

    We picked out our song :)……well actually its between two songs. “I won’t give up’ by Jason mraz or the edited version of ‘all of me’ by John legend (we would have the depressing beginning lyrics rremoved. We may do dance lesson we may not.

    I am taking ballroom dance lessons with my dad and we are dancing to ‘unforgettable’ by Nat King Cole.

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    futuremrssarah 439 posts, Helper bee @ 1:21 pm

    You are even more adorable in video! Loved it!

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    Mrs. Waterfall 1403 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:30 pm

    @gill84: Aww, thank you so much!
    @Miss Filly: Haha, thanks!
    @MrsCam24: Thank you, it’s one of my favorites as well!
    @graciej: If you can find the money in your budget, uplighting can make a huge difference.
    @Mrs. Rubber Stamps: Thank you :)
    @Mrs. Gondola: I know, my photographers did great!
    @Mrs. Bicycle: <3
    @Mrs. Road Trip: Thanks, I think we did ok in the end.
    @Miss Phone Booth: Thanks!
    @Mrs. Palm Tree: Awwww. Thank you Mrs. PT. I have a similar reaction, which is why the other song would have felt wrong.
    @KristenLiz11: Those are some great choices! I love I won’t give up, the tempo just felt a little bit too slow for us, but I love the lyrics.
    @FutureMrsSarah: Awww, thank you!

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