Three Years and Counting: Secret Shopping

After absolutely no prodding on my part, Monsieur P decided completely on his own (wink wink) to go ring shopping. OK, I may have suggested it, A LOT, but I didn’t know when he planned to do it. Completely unbeknownst to me (for real), he set off to shop one weekend in March when I took an impromptu trip across the state with MOH PT.

Now, I had circled rings in a jeweler’s catalog and showed them to Monsieur P months before. I had a lot of characteristics that I liked in a ring, but I kept coming back to the halo-style rings because they looked really blingy, and you could get away with a smaller center stone. (See, I’m not a total brat; I was trying to be reasonable.) I especially liked the rings at this Littman Jewelers in the mall, because they were reasonably priced and tended to look bigger than they actually were because they used smaller stones in clusters rather than a large center stone. And I was all about the bling!

This one suited my criteria / Image via Littman Jewelers

Image via Littman Jewelers

So, while I was off gallivanting with MOH PT, Monsieur P was learning the four Cs and preparing to drop one of the biggest chunks of change ever for a little bling bling for my ring fing. (Sorry, I obnoxiously said that a lot before we got engaged, so I had to bust it out when it was fitting.)

MOH PT and I in Philly for the Erin Express bar crawl

MOH PT and me in Philly for the Erin Express bar crawl (personal photo)

So Monsieur P went shopping, and I was completely clueless. Somehow MOH PT was completely mute about it all too. She knew I wanted the proposal to be a surprise. She also knew all of my ring preferences, and at that point in time, she worked at the same company as Monsieur P.

After we got back into Pittsburgh, Monsieur P asked MOH PT to visit the jeweler with him after work that day to confirm his choice. He knew he wanted to get the opinion of my best friend to make sure it was something that I would be happy with.

Monsieur P had worked with the jeweler already to determine the center stone, but wanted MOH PT’s opinion on which setting to choose. He had one in mind, but MOH PT shot it down. Now, when I heard that (after the fact, obviously), I was a little miffed, honestly. I was nervous that it went beyond helping and into meddling territory to have my BFF veto a ring that my boyfriend had picked. However, it turns out, MOH PT knew best. We had spent hours talking about every facet (pun intended) of the rings, after all. I saw the first choice later, and was so glad she vetoed it. The one they decided on was so much better.

THE RING is a Tacori-inspired sparkler that touches on all of my tastes. It’s not so mainstream (aside from being Tacori-inspired, that is!). It’s a little vintage, a little classic. It’s just very me. But I didn’t know it yet!

Did your significant other pick the ring? Was your BFF consulted for ring shopping? Did you get the kind of ring that you wanted?


Miss Parisian

Pittsburgh, PA
Wedding Date:
September 2014
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  1. roadtrip Member
    roadtrip 803 posts, Busy bee @ 11:00 am

    Oooh, the suspense! No BFF veto here, but he picked the right ring so it’s all good :)

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    Mrs. Palm Tree 1122 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:45 am

    Haha – I remember even being nervous that he asked me to go, because I knew you wanted it to be all on him. I even told him, “don’t tell her that I came.” Then when I saw the one he had originally selected I was like OH THANK GOD. I vividly remember being like, “no, you have to look at the SIDE profile – that means a lot to her.” 😉

    P.S. I miss my blonde hair. It might be about that time.

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    delovely13 134 posts, Blushing bee @ 11:58 am

    DH took my BFF shopping with him the first time, but he did not find a setting he liked. Then BFF randomly saw a beautiful setting in a jewelry store window one day and texted DH that he needed to check it out. That ended up being my ring. so, actually, BFF found it. haha

  4. parisian Member
    Miss Parisian 588 posts, Busy bee @ 11:59 am

    @Mrs. Palm Tree: I know! NO SOPHIE. lol we look like babes, I can’t believe how much older I look 2 years later and boo my long hair! :(

  5. parisian Member
    Miss Parisian 588 posts, Busy bee @ 12:35 pm

    @Mrs. Road Trip: That’s good! :)
    @delovely13: Yay for BFFs!

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    Melissa, Guest @ 1:17 pm

    Did you and Mrs. PT meet through Monsieur P then? Or were you two friends and just happened to run into a guy at a bar that worked at the same company as her?

    I love you and Mrs. PT! You’re both so much fun to read :) I wish I had friends like you two- it’s been so hard to find those connections since we moved across the country from all our best friends.

  7. parisian Member
    Miss Parisian 588 posts, Busy bee @ 1:19 pm

    @Melissa: Neither, I met Mrs. PT long after I knew Monsieur. Thank you! :)

  8. pyramid Member
    Mrs. Pyramid 104 posts, Blushing bee @ 4:24 pm

    I went with Tacori-inspired too! Yay PT for keeping everything on the DL!

  9. gondola Member
    gondola 1046 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:29 pm

    “I kept coming back to the halo-style rings because they looked really blingy, and you could get away with a smaller center stone” I had no idea! That is so cool to learn. Your ring inspiration is gorgeous!

  10. parisian Member
    Miss Parisian 588 posts, Busy bee @ 8:24 am

    @Miss Pyramid: Yep, I had no idea she knew he was shopping that day!
    @Mrs. Gondola: the irony is, my ring is NOT a halo even though that’s what I kept saying that I wanted! I still do think they’re pretty though. :)

  11. jetsetter Member
    jetsetter 535 posts, Busy bee @ 9:12 am

    You and PT are so cute, let’s hang out!!

  12. mswaterfall Member
    Mrs. Waterfall 1403 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:18 am

    I think it’s so cute that Monsieur P asked MOH PT for her input, he’s a keeper!

  13. parisian Member
    Miss Parisian 588 posts, Busy bee @ 11:43 am

    @Mrs. Jet Setter: @Mrs. Waterfall: Yes, definitely! HB bar crawl! 😉

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