Last Tuesday I got a migraine (I hadn’t gotten one in years), and it wasn’t gone till Saturday. I missed a day and a half of work. (On the plus side, my seventh period AP class has never loved me more. Or possibly been more annoyed.)
I wanted to get some wedding stuff done, so I called the seamstress to ask when to start alterations on my dress (nothing fancy; I need it hemmed & tacked and a simple bustle added—the only remotely complicated thing is the sweetheart neckline I’d like it altered to). She’s not doing alterations anymore.
Ah well, I can always order that monogram I won in the fall. It’s going to be perfect as part of the decor. Except the coupon code won’t work.
And then Miss Milk Cow posted about her invitations, and Friend KP headed home for the weekend to work on her wedding invitations, and I”¦don’t have wedding invitations. Which, realistically, is not the end of the world, and I do still have time. Maybe not “more than enough” time or “plenty” of time, but time all the same. It’s not like I’m going to be calling people or something. I think I just felt like I was so on top of it, and it was one of the few things I really cared about”¦and now I’m worried I’ll be stressed about it.
And then. THEN. I did a very silly thing for someone who already feels just a teeny bit discouraged. I read the June 2014 brides board, and so many people are so far ahead of me, and I can’t believe I haven’t done anything about that, and ohmigosh this and what should I do about that and”¦
Image via TeriLynneUnderwood.com
There are always going to be people whose planning is ahead of mine. There are always going to be people with more to do. Hey, I ordered our cake already, and our friends using the same baker and getting married a month before haven’t even tasted yet. (OK, OK, they have tuxes.)
Keeping up with the Joneses (or in my case our THREE friends getting married in May) is a losing battle.
We talk about Pinteresting our weddings and making it personalized and all of these other things. And sometimes there definitely is pressure to make it as original as you can and do things no one has seen before (ahem, especially if you are a wedding blogger).
But I think the pressure to just keep pace on checklists can be pretty tough sometimes too. Some people just make it seem effortless (or have planners!), and I end up feeling like I’m behind and somehow inferior.
So to remind myself (and in case you need a reminder too): everyone moves at their own pace. For every item you’re “behind” on, there’s somewhere else you’re likely “ahead.” I bet all those people with completed invitations don’t have all the pieces for their placecards already cut. Friend KP is waiting on my flower girl post.
And at the end of the day, the major parts are already done. We have a church and a pastor (even if we do need to meet with him again to figure out our ceremony). We have a reception venue, some food, and a DJ. The rest truly is just details.
Do you compare your timeline to others’? What’s one place you feel AHEAD? (No behind here—this is all positive talk!)
- HS Math Teacher
- Wedding Date:
- June 2014
- Fourth Presbyterian Church, Chicago, IL & Cheney Mansion, Oak Park, IL