Put a Ring on It: Men’s Edition

Shamrock’s homework this past week was rings & tuxes. (He was traveling, so he had a lot of free time in a hotel room in the evening.) I’m not a ring person, so this is my attempt to help him out with some info. I did the best I could, but I’m no ring expert!

My ring was pretty simple—my engagement ring is platinum from Tiffany, so we just need to choose a simple platinum band from Tiffany to match.

Shamrock does not wear any jewelry, so we were starting from scratch. Men’s rings definitely don’t have as much variety as women’s, but there are still choices. There’s the shape, and the comfort fit, and the inlay, and the metals.

Oh, the metals.


Image via Jewelry Secrets, which actually seems to have a lot of good ring info if you’re into that kind of thing

So what are our options?

PRECIOUS METALS (Fancy? These are the expensive ones. They’re also shinier and less reactive. Thanks, Wikipedia.)

  • Platinum: My ring is platinum, so we’d match. Platinum is very durable (it can scratch, but can be buffed shiny again) but also really expensive.
  • Palladium: Platinum’s cousin. Lots of similar properties, but lots cheaper. Similar appearance and durability.
  • Gold (white, rose, yellow): Shiny, can be re-sized. White gold rings are usually rhodium plated and can require re-plating. Can be polished, but you lose a little metal every time. Oh, and it’s a classic.

CONTEMPORARY METALS (Not”¦expensive? Also used in buildings?)

  • Tungsten: Shamrock is terrified of Tungsten. He heard it can’t be cut off, so if something happens to your hand they’ll cut off your finger instead. (You guys”¦he works with computers and networking”¦is someone going to throw a laptop? Cut off circulation with a cable?) Anyhow, that’s apparently a myth. It is very hard, but it’s also brittle—you can shatter it off (or, you know, drop it and shatter it). It is scratch resistant and very affordable.
  • Cobalt: Scratch-resistant and very strong, bright white color, can’t be resized. Mr. Bunting got a cobalt ring, and Mrs. Bunting wrote up a great overview of several metal types. (It’s way better than mine.)
  • Black Ceramic: Really light and very modern. Scratch resistant but can chip or break. I think it’s not super common for rings.
  • Titanium & Stainless Steel: Very affordable and very scratchable.

So what are we getting? I’m not sure. Men’s rings are a lot larger than women’s, so his ring would cost more than twice what mine would if we went with platinum. Our next step is to go try on some options, so he can also get an idea for what styles he likes.

What kind of ring did your mister choose? Anyone else’s SO terrified of losing a finger?

Oh, and if you’re looking for more, I also found Mrs. Parasol‘s post to be helpful, as well as e-weddingbands.com.


Mrs. Clover

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  1. milkcow Member
    Mrs. Milk Cow 215 posts, Helper bee @ 12:22 pm

    1) I’m with Shamrock on the Tungsten thing – every time someone brings it up, I tell them that the ring can’t be cut off in an emergency, just smashed off! No one ever thinks that’s a real concern.

    2) “Also used in buildings” made me laugh so hard. (In my cubicle at work, which means people think I’m crazy now.)

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    thunderberry 511 posts, Busy bee @ 12:38 pm

    Haha it’s funny, we’re looking for my FI’s wedding ring now and the same thing came up about Tungsten. Actually a jeweller brought it up. It’s true they CAN get it off, but if you’ve broken your finger or something it’s insanely painful, so the jeweler didn’t recommend it. Apparently titanium basically can’t be cut off at all, so this particular jeweller stopped selling it at all.

    In the end I think my FI’s going for a yellow gold custom made band. I was pretty shocked at how much it cost honestly, I’d only ever looked at prices for women’s rings before and it hadn’t occurred to me that of course there’s a lot more gold in a man’s!

  3. msclover Member
    Mrs. Clover 123 posts, Blushing bee @ 12:41 pm

    @Miss Milk Cow: I couldn’t figure out what else to say for the non-precious. That’s all I know them from!

    @thunderberry: Yeah, something that can’t be removed is a little scary. Although I’m still not exactly sure what kind of networking-accident he might get in :-P. I hear you on the cost! I just assumed they’d be around the same, but of course his is waaay bigger than mine.

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    MoopersMom 92 posts, Worker bee @ 1:07 pm

    Ack don’t say that. FH is hesitant to wear a wedding ring that could possibly catch on anything or be crushed since his job is really physical. He was leaning towards tungsten or titanium…if he hears that it can’t be cut off he’s not going to be happy.

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    MsCoffeeBean 57 posts, Worker bee @ 1:23 pm

    My guy picked up a Tungsten Carbide ring on Amazon for under $20! If you go with one of the non-precious metals, you can save a TON of $$ by looking online. He can’t wear jewelry at work (he’s an engineer in a chemical plant) so didn’t want something that cost a ton if he can’t wear it all day anyway.

    And my dude said they can cut it off with diamond drill bits. Apparently those are a thing?!? :)

    He said the best perk so far of his ring is that our friend taught him how to use it to open beer bottles. Boys will be boys…

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    ilikeballet 277 posts, Helper bee @ 1:24 pm

    Haha! My DH said the same worry about tungsten. I’m like, “You work in an office. If the hospital has to cut your finger off after some wild accident where you smash your hand rest assured it will be a clean cut and they’ll be able to reattach it!”

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    Mrs. Barn 45 posts, Newbee @ 1:33 pm

    Haha Mr. Farmer is so TERRIFIED of losing a finger that I have already conceded that he will not be wearing it unless we are home or going out. His uncle lost a finger because his wedding ring got caught on some machinery so he is scared it will happen to him if he wears it while working. I like Mr. Farmer with all 10 fingers! Glad to know it’s not just him who is so scared though!

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    Mrs. Clover 123 posts, Blushing bee @ 1:46 pm

    @MoopersMom: Apparently, diamond drill bits. Who knew!?

    @MsCoffeeBean: That’s hilarious! The skills people have!

    @ilikeballet: Hahaha…right? I don’t know what he thinks he would do!

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    Mrs. Clover 123 posts, Blushing bee @ 1:47 pm

    @Miss Barn: Oh. Well, there’s why the rest of our men are terrified I guess… Yikes!

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    mrscam24 114 posts, Blushing bee @ 2:09 pm

    My fiance also works in an office, but had similiar (yet ridiculous) issues with tungsten, lol. We ended up with cobalt and I love how it looks for him. After Mrs. Wallaby said that her husband’s titanium band was already scratched by the end of their wedding day, I gave up on that option, despite the price. My band is platinum to match my engagement ring and I’m not sure if I will ever hear the end of it from FI about how expensive mine was compared to his. (He wanted platinum too, but only due to the fact that it was expensive (!) –which was wayy pushing our budget. I told him I would have gotten another cheaper option if I could, but then it wouldn’t match my ring HE picked out first! 😉 Oh well…)

  11. msllama Member
    Mrs. Llama 22 posts, Newbee @ 2:51 pm

    I’m interested in finding out more about Palladium…anyone have experience with it?

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    mademoisellesacha 284 posts, Helper bee @ 5:01 pm

    I think my FI will be going with titanium, although my settings are platinum. He’s in construction and is a civil engineer by degree, he already has a stainless steel ring and the science nerd in him is very excited for a titanium ring 😛

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    Heyva, Guest @ 5:08 pm

    You’re forgetting silver!

    Silver tarnishes if it’s not worn, but for a daily-use item, it’s perfect for a man’s ring. My husband was hesitant to get gold (he was afraid he’d lose the ring, and: yep! he lost ring #1 on our honeymoon), but he was alright with silver. It’s comparable in price to some of the non-precious metals, but is a metal traditionally used in jewelry and it looks great. It’s durable and classic.

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    Mrs. Clover 123 posts, Blushing bee @ 4:44 am

    @Heyva: I did! Duh! Thanks for the addition.

    @MrsCam24: Mine will also be platinum to match–totally agree. You picked it, not my fault! And its crazy how much pricier it is for men.

    @mademoisellesacha: Some of the metal names sound very sophisticated. I never knew there were so many types.

  15. msgoosebee Member
    Mrs. Goose 130 posts, Blushing bee @ 12:26 pm

    I made sure to share this with Gander, although he’s pretty set on what he wants. Sounds like you and Shamrock did some good research!

  16. msclover Member
    Mrs. Clover 123 posts, Blushing bee @ 12:44 pm

    @Miss Goose: We still have no idea!

    @Miss Llama: We did check out a jeweler today and I asked about palladium. It seemed like it was less than half the price and he described it as a cousin of platinum. I asked why someone wouldn’t just get it and he said it’s a little more brittle and some jewelers don’t like working with it. So I guess it could crack? But I think much less easily than plenty of others just maybe more easily than platinum. But it seems like a solid option to me.

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    daniellekira 573 posts, Busy bee @ 10:53 am

    I have a platinum ring and my husband wanted one too, but the price was insane. He ended up with titanium, but said he might change it later on. It is sitll loose enough to not worry about too much. But I do still worry about it. We also work with computers and he takes it off while doing yardwork and anything heavy.

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