Thank You Notes Made Easy

If you read nothing else in this post, read this: GET YOUR THANK YOU NOTES DONE IN A TIMELY MANNER. Considering the time and money your guests put into attending your wedding/pre-wedding events, it’s the least you can do.

For the past month or so, wedding gifts have been showing up at my door almost every day. It’s like grown-up Christmas! Of course, to paraphrase Spiderman, with great gifts comes great responsibility…in the form of thank you notes.

I’m lucky in that my parents drilled the art of thank you notes into my head from a very early age. Christmas, birthdays, graduations, whatever—if I received a gift, I was expected to turn around a thank you note in short order. I’ve had a lot of practice over the years, so fortunately, it comes pretty easily to me.

For all the stressing people do over thank you notes, they are actually really simple. The anatomy of a good thank you note is as follows:

  1. Name the gift giver. (Dear Beyoncé and Jay-Z …)
  2. Thank them for the specific gift they gave you. (Thank you so much for the serving platter/Cards Against Humanity game/generous check!)
  3. Why do you love the gift? Because you do love it. Even if you don’t. (It’s so beautiful and complements our dishes perfectly/it looks like it will be a ton of fun/we’re in the process of saving for a house.)
  4. How are you using the gift? (We look forward to using it for entertaining guests/we’re so excited to play it/we’re putting it towards a down payment.)
  5. Tell them how great it was to see them at the wedding, OR if they weren’t at the wedding, say you missed them and would love to catch up another time. (It was great to see you at the wedding and I hope you had a great time/although we’re sorry we missed you at the wedding, we’d love to catch up soon!)
  6. Sign off! (Thanks again for thinking of us. We truly appreciate your generosity and kind wishes! Love, Filly and Stallion)

See? Doesn’t get any easier than that.

Our invitation suite came with coordinating thank you cards, but ultimately, we decided they were way too expensive. Splurging on invitations was one thing—at least some of them are going to be held on to as keepsakes—but we’re reasonably confident that every single one of our thank yous will end up in trash. I initially planned on getting a ton of cheapie thank you cards from Target or Walmart, but then I came across a Vistaprint coupon that I couldn’t resist, and I was able to score some pretty, personalized thank you cards for a steal!


The front of our card. Because we tied the knot. Get it?


The inside of our card. I love the sweet knot detail.

Like I said earlier, gifts have been arriving at our home on a near-daily basis. So far, I’ve been keeping on top of my thank you notes pretty easily. The same day a gift arrives, I’ll write and send a thank you note—not only for politeness’s sake, but also to reiterate to the giver that the gift arrived intact. This is especially important when I don’t know the gift giver all that well. It’s one thing for me to text a friend and let them know I received their gift, but I have no way of reaching out to, say, Stallion’s great aunt that I’ve never met before, except for the good old USPS.

For our engagement party and my bridal shower, I was able to get through 10-15 thank yous a day without breaking a sweat. Once Stallion and I get back from Jamaica after the wedding, we’ll hold ourselves to the same standard, and I expect we’ll wrap up our very last wedding-related task in no time!

Did you get stressed out over thank you notes? How long did it take for you to finish them?


Mrs. Filly

Boston, MA
Wedding Date:
April 2014
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    CallMeMrsG 517 posts, Busy bee @ 5:53 am

    Great tips for what to write on TY cards.
    Thank you!!!

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    mshen 17 posts, Newbee @ 6:01 am

    The anatomy of a Thank You note–perfect! I’m going to save this for when it’s time for us to dive into Thank You’s.

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    Mrs. Milk Cow 214 posts, Helper bee @ 6:13 am

    I love this! My biggest pet peeve with weddings is not receiving thank you cards or any sort of acknowledgement that I sent a gift. Not because I feel like I need to be thanked (although I do think it’s polite) but because I will obsessively worry that the gift didn’t make it to the bride and groom and don’t want to be in the uncomfortable situation of asking them about it. Also, I’m in love with the knot themed thank yous. Perfect!

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    Mrs. Barn 45 posts, Newbee @ 6:23 am

    I love the knot! So cute! I know that this is something I will have to stay on top of. With such a large guest list it’s going to be a must to stay on top of things!

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    urbanriceball 263 posts, Helper bee @ 6:26 am

    Thank you SO MUCH for this! I always seem to get writer’s block when it comes to thank you cards…

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    melizabe 108 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:11 am

    Dear Miss Filly,
    Thank you for posting a tutorial on thank you cards. It is very helpful for someone who regularly has writer’s block when it comes to thank you cards. I will definitely use it when I start getting wedding gifts. It was great to see you on the ‘Bee! Thank you again for all your help,

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    bighornsheep 115 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:27 am

    Unfortunately for Mr Big and I, a majority of our guests moved houses after the wedding so we need to get a bajillion addresses before we can officially send out thank you cards. :( At least we’ve officially printed them all off! This post definitely came at the right time! :)

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    Mrs. Milk Cow 214 posts, Helper bee @ 7:48 am

    @melizabe – Best comment!

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    E, Guest @ 9:44 am

    My parents were also strict about thank you cards growing up – so much so that when we asked wedding guests not to bring or send gifts, we still sent out thank you’s to those who attended!

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    Mrs. Bracelet 279 posts, Helper bee @ 10:59 am

    This post is very helpful! I waited about 2 1/2 months to send out my thank you noted because I wanted to include a photo with it… and stayed just within the proposed 3 month deadline. *phew*

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    kabatchy2be 526 posts, Busy bee @ 12:08 pm

    I used the same thank you notes! They were great but now I sorta wish they were more neutral. We had a lot left over (our photography package came with thank you notes with a wedding pic so we only used these for engagement/shower gifts) and I wish I could use these for non wedding-related purposes. Oh well.

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    Mrs. Pyramid 104 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:56 pm

    Great post, Miss Filly! I’m definitely making sure I don’t plan too much the week after my shower so I can knock out all of my thank yous.
    Yours are so cute and nautical!

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    gondola 1046 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:32 pm

    Great tips for thank you notes!

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    mswallaby 2070 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:44 am

    Aww those are so pretty, I love the nautical look so much! You are a doll for getting your thank-you notes done so quickly. If you have the same attitude after the wedding, you’ll get yours out in no time. Everyone gripes about how painful writing thank you cards is, but I didn’t think it was all that bad – I wrote until my hand hurt for about a week, and got them in the mail ASAP.

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    DBS5127 220 posts, Helper bee @ 3:57 pm

    I know it’s been a while since this post, but I just have to comment to say Thank You!!! This post has made writing Thank Yous so much easier. I have it bookmarked on my computer so I can come back to it for each round.

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