If you read nothing else in this post, read this: GET YOUR THANK YOU NOTES DONE IN A TIMELY MANNER. Considering the time and money your guests put into attending your wedding/pre-wedding events, it’s the least you can do.
For the past month or so, wedding gifts have been showing up at my door almost every day. It’s like grown-up Christmas! Of course, to paraphrase Spiderman, with great gifts comes great responsibility…in the form of thank you notes.
I’m lucky in that my parents drilled the art of thank you notes into my head from a very early age. Christmas, birthdays, graduations, whatever—if I received a gift, I was expected to turn around a thank you note in short order. I’ve had a lot of practice over the years, so fortunately, it comes pretty easily to me.
For all the stressing people do over thank you notes, they are actually really simple. The anatomy of a good thank you note is as follows:
- Name the gift giver. (Dear Beyoncé and Jay-Z …)
- Thank them for the specific gift they gave you. (Thank you so much for the serving platter/Cards Against Humanity game/generous check!)
- Why do you love the gift? Because you do love it. Even if you don’t. (It’s so beautiful and complements our dishes perfectly/it looks like it will be a ton of fun/we’re in the process of saving for a house.)
- How are you using the gift? (We look forward to using it for entertaining guests/we’re so excited to play it/we’re putting it towards a down payment.)
- Tell them how great it was to see them at the wedding, OR if they weren’t at the wedding, say you missed them and would love to catch up another time. (It was great to see you at the wedding and I hope you had a great time/although we’re sorry we missed you at the wedding, we’d love to catch up soon!)
- Sign off! (Thanks again for thinking of us. We truly appreciate your generosity and kind wishes! Love, Filly and Stallion)
See? Doesn’t get any easier than that.
Our invitation suite came with coordinating thank you cards, but ultimately, we decided they were way too expensive. Splurging on invitations was one thing—at least some of them are going to be held on to as keepsakes—but we’re reasonably confident that every single one of our thank yous will end up in trash. I initially planned on getting a ton of cheapie thank you cards from Target or Walmart, but then I came across a Vistaprint coupon that I couldn’t resist, and I was able to score some pretty, personalized thank you cards for a steal!
The front of our card. Because we tied the knot. Get it?
The inside of our card. I love the sweet knot detail.
Like I said earlier, gifts have been arriving at our home on a near-daily basis. So far, I’ve been keeping on top of my thank you notes pretty easily. The same day a gift arrives, I’ll write and send a thank you note—not only for politeness’s sake, but also to reiterate to the giver that the gift arrived intact. This is especially important when I don’t know the gift giver all that well. It’s one thing for me to text a friend and let them know I received their gift, but I have no way of reaching out to, say, Stallion’s great aunt that I’ve never met before, except for the good old USPS.
For our engagement party and my bridal shower, I was able to get through 10-15 thank yous a day without breaking a sweat. Once Stallion and I get back from Jamaica after the wedding, we’ll hold ourselves to the same standard, and I expect we’ll wrap up our very last wedding-related task in no time!
Did you get stressed out over thank you notes? How long did it take for you to finish them?
- Boston, MA
- Wedding Date:
- April 2014
- The Grand Hotel, Cape May, NJ