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hive,

i am just crushed!  i just found out this morning from my FH that the money we thought we were getting from his credit union, at an incredibly low rate, is a no go!

i planned to write checks tomorrow! i was in the middle of going over contractual terms with our banquet hall when hit with the news!

he wont be able to get that money until he pays off a personal loan with them….quick calculations say the soonest this could be is July.

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I tried searching for similiar posts, and found that a couple weeks ago there were posts regarding snarky co-workers discussing diamond sizes.

I’ve been engaged for about 6 months and my co-workers (all men) were very excited for me, and congratulated my Fiance on such a beautiful ring, and joked with me, that now that I had a “huge rock” would I still be working. haha. whatever…it’s all in good fun from people who’ve known us for years, and know we’re SO not like that.

Anyway, my company has merged and is moving to another country, so I am about to start the interviewing process and looking for a new job. I am small with tiny fingers (size 4) and my ring is 2.1ct solitaire. I am a tiny bit concerned about interviewing with it on, I am wondering if I should just wear a band. Maybe this sounds completely crazy? 

Hello All,

I am starting to plan and since I don’t know much about what I’m doing (besides what’s in the books, magazines and online). I have to ask…

Were there any (which I’m sure they were), unexpected expenses that you had to deal with, that are not covered in the books or called out as “part of budget”?

Thanks in advance for your answers!

D 

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Prenuptial agreements get such a bad rep and before you predict and judge where this post is going, lend me your ears gentleladies and men… Ahem… My cousin in France got married in 2001 and she told me she and her dear fiance drafted a prenupt.  Okay, aren’t the French known for things romantic?  But a prenupt?  This is her reasoning:

“We stated in the prenupt that what is his is his and what is mine is mine.  As a physician, I am at risk for getting sued one day and that person may take everything away from us.  With this legal binding agreement/document they can take all of my finances if it gets that far but they CAN NOT touch his finances.  This way the kid’s college funds are safe, we can keep the house, the car, and even the dog!  We are protecting ourselves from other people not each other.”

I have a dilemma. I’ve been working like a dog to save money for the wedding. I have a big chunk of change saved up. Then when we pulled our credit reports and added everything up (part of our marriage planning), we realized that we would be debt free if we used our wedding fund. Both of our parents will help out with the wedding BUT if I wanted something that was out of the budget, I would have to use my fund.

Now I’m torn. Debt free marriage, which is forever. Or exactly what I want on my day. I was thinking about whatever was left after the wedding would go to pay down debt. But what a wedding gift to each other to be “free at last”. Oy! Any thoughts?

MissRojoOso

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Need some advice, ladies.  My parents divorced when I was 5, and my mom remarried when I was 8.  I have always had a good relationship with my Dad, but technically I have spent more time with my step-father, being that I lived with my mom growing up.  My step-dad and I have an OK relationship, but there have been some ups and downs.

Hot topic is: who walks me down the aisle?  If I’m being completely honest, I want my dad to walk me.  I LOVE my dad, and this is how I have always imagined it.  My step dad and I do not have the same “love”, in fact, I have never called him “dad” and we have never exchanged “I love yous”.  It never felt appropriate.  My dad is not jealous, and I know he would never say so, but I feel that deep down he does not want to share this job with anyone.

My fiance and I are considering whether we should design a personal wedding web site using one of the many vendors out there, but are somewhat concerned about the visibility of these sites via google and other search engines.  I have a very unusual name, and if you google it, you find me right away on pages ranging from my professional profile at my law firm to reported cases and other professional activities.  My fiance’s name is much more common, but both of us are professionals and are mindful of our online presence and reputation.

Has anyone tried using google or another search engine to find your wedding website hosted by a private provider like eweddings.com or weddingwindow.com?  If so, is it easily visible?  Does password protection on the site keep it from coming up in a search engine?

I’d be interested to hear whether this is a concern for other brides and, if so, whether you’ve chosen to make a website for your wedding and how you’ve protected your online rep. Thanks!

EastportBride

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Hello Bees!

I am thrilled to delurk myself as i just became engaged 12/31/07::::pauses for congratulations::: LOL. Anyway, I am pretty sure you all are just the ladies to help me out. I work for a government agency and I am wondering if I should tell my boss directly that I have become engaged. I have only shared this news with a few select employees who have yet to spread the news. I hesitate bc my direct boss is male, and basically, I doubt he would care. But the director (his boss) is my former direct boss (she was promoted). Should I tell her? If I tell her, I know she will instantly want to know about when we plan to do it. My FI recently moved and is now 900 miles away so clearly I will be moving eventually too. She is very calculating and will be thinking about my replacement and all the work she will want me to complete before I leave, which i interpret as cold… .and I honestly don’t want to deal with that right now or the long list of action items she will come up with.

Hi Bees!

As long as I can remember I have always wanted just a plain wedding band (to go with a 3 stone e-ring).  Since I’ve become engaged and we have starting planning people keep asking me what my wedding band will be like.  When I say I want just plain white gold band they all look at me like I’m crazy.  I’ve even had people come right out and tell me that it will look cheap and ugly!  Has anyone else had this issue? What are your thoughts on plain bands vs diamond bands?

kpenn

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I don’t know how to deal with this, and so I thought I’d take it to the board! Last week, my husband and I were finally able to see our wedding photos, and I’m really rather disappointed in them.

We were looking for a more photojournalistic style, with only a few posed photos of the family occuring right after the ceremony. The posed photos happened…all is fine there. The ones of my family in particular aren’t stellar, but there were 19 of us trying to pull ourselves together for them, and 9 of them were kids. We were bound to wind up with issues in them, really.

But the photojournalistic thing, it…just didn’t happen, it seems! I mean, there are a few photos that turned out fun and neat, but out of hundreds, there are only a FEW that I like? They took pictures of the FOOD at the cocktail reception, for heaven’s sake. WTH is up with that? The photos of us dancing during our first dance are admittedly fabulous. I couldn’t be happier with them. But the photos of the people milling about at the party, or even during the ceremony…they just aren’t there. The ones of people at tables and people on the deck outside of the reception area look like photos I would take with my crappy digital camera…they’re random and not photojournalistic in any sense of the word. They seemed to take a lot of pictures of peoples’ backs.