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My name is Alyssa and I am so glad I found these boards because I’ve been going insane the past few months. My boyfriend and I have been together almost seven years, and we picked out THE ring in March. I have been going NUTS waiting for it. My question is, for those of you who are waiting, or have waited, have you ever totally thought, ‘this is it!’ and then he did something like tie his shoe or stretch? On my birthday weekend, my man and I were in Chicago (my hometown) and I was sitting on a bench in Millennium Park, surrounded by blooming tulips. He got down on one knee - my heart fluttered - and then he tied his shoe. Haha! This also happened in an episode of The Office. Anybody else having all these false hopes? I find myself thinking, ‘What if he does it while I’m in the shower? Or, he could put it in my Diet Coke!’  I’m just making up all these crazy scenarios because I want it to happen so bad.

So, what “I thought he was gonna propose!” moments did you have?

SweetheartDealer

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Okay, so laughter is the best medicine and humor is the best antidote for anger, right? To that end, I’m going to start my own little list of the best passive aggressive wedding related comments I’ve heard - mine and other people’s - and remind myself that in the end they are so ridiculous you have to laugh!

Rose999

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Here are three comments from readers that caught our attention!

• “from my grandmother after I’d spent over an hour getting my hair done for a cousin’s wedding: “Well, they made your hair pretty, but they didn’t make you pretty.” Before my brother’s wedding she said ‘You may never be beautiful, but you’ve got a nice face.’ (hello, backhanded compliment…)  And then she complains that people get offended too easily! I’ve taught myself to find it endearing instead of agonizing, but if she does it on my wedding day I might lose it.” - mvp_bride
  
• “The first person I called after getting engaged was my mother. Here is a snippet of how the conversation went: Me: Mom, Jeff proposed during dinner tonight! We got engaged!
  Mom: Oh, dinner. Did you drink?
  Me: Yeah, I had two cocktails.
  Mom: Were you drunk?
  Me: No….”

  - creme_de_violet
  

• “My mom (to my sister) regarding my choice of a strapless wedding gown and my very large upper back tattoo: ‘I don’t think Jesus would want to see that. Maybe we can get her a nice cardigan.’” - appleblossom

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My FI and I have been living together for almost three years, so at this point we really don’t need much in the way of housewares. On top of that, we’ll be getting married in Vegas, and then flying back to CA, so we’d rather not lug lots of wedding presents everywhere.

While we would be HUGELY grateful for the generosity and thought that goes into buying wedding gifts, what we really need is money to start paying off our wedding expenses!

I’m just being totally honest here.

The problem is how to get this message across to our guests without sounding like the rudest people on earth. Is this something that we can state in our invitations, or would it be in horrible taste??

If only I could register at Bank of America…

honeypants

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I am getting married in 3 weeks—it is the second wedding for both of us, and one of the highlights is that we have all of our children in the wedding party. My bridesmaids are my two daughters and his two daughters (ages 15-23), and the groomsmen are his two brothers, my son, and a friend.

My fiance had a child when he was very young, and that child was adopted and raised by the mother’s aunt/uncle. He and the child had contact a few times about 10 years ago, but a relationship didn’t develop. They have very recently come into contact again, and are developing a relationship.

So my fiance’s son will be attending the wedding, and we are trying to find a ’place’ to include him in the wedding party/ceremony. At this late stage I don’t want to add another bridesmaid to make him a groomsman, and he’s 28 years old, so I don’t know that making him a ring bearer would be a good idea (although he’d be willing to do it, LOL).

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Hi Everyone,

Just wondering what the protocol is for the vendors (photographers, florists, etc.) that you end up not choosing. Are you supposed to send them an email letting them know that you didn’t choose them, or do they assume as much if you don’t get back to them? I’m not sure what people usually do.

Thanks!

wheresmydessert

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My fiance and I are a little shy and don’t dance particularly well, either. He suggested finding a short song for our first dance, but nothing comes to mind at the moment. We both love pretty much all
kinds of music, but slow, sentimental, and short ones are kind of hard to think of.

Do any of you have suggestions?

underneathy

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I was interested in having a conversation about strippers and bachelor parties outside of the context of someone who is upset about it and looking for advice.

My fiance isn’t having a traditional bachelor party, but I do still get kind of fired up about the issue on my friends’ behalf. Several girls I know are horrified by their fiances’ bachelor party plans.

I am definitely one of those that is NOT OK with strip clubs for bachelor parties. I really don’t have a problem with strippers in general, but I would not be marrying my fiance if he frequented them during the time we were dating. This does not, however, stem from any kind of trust issues. Here is my reasoning, in a few points:

1. I would not be OK with it if one of my friends or one of his colleagues waved their breasts in his face. I would certainly not be OK with it if he paid a prostitute to wave her breasts in his face, whether intercourse followed or not.

2. I hate the idea of “the last hurrah”. If he wanted a last hurrah to singlehood, he should have taken it x number of years ago before we started dating. He hasn’t been a “free man” since the day he agreed to date me exclusively. I also feel like the “last hurrah” is pretty humiliating to me, the fiancee, because it’s like he’s saying, “My fiancee is this one woman, which is clearly not sufficient. I need to say goodbye to the boundless goodies out there.” I’m sorry—when he proposed, he SHOULD have meant, “You are the best woman out there, and I could never desire another.” The strip club bachelor party nullifies that whole idea.

3. It is humiliating and degrading to the woman he’s marrying. Why go to a strip club to look at the body of a complete stranger when you have a perfectly good set of boobies right here at home, that you get to touch!? I don’t expect him to never look at another woman and find her attractive. I do expect him to be discreet about it and not rub it in my face.

I realize I’ve expressed some strong opinions here, and that’s because I’m interested in hearing the strong opinions of others on the boards. Let’s hear it! What’s your take?

amandopolis

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So, a few months ago I knew I was going to get engaged and I started planning my wedding in my head and on The Knot. I already had a good idea of who my bridesmaids would be. I even told them that I would have them in the wedding. I was talking to my one friend about how I planned to include her. Not too long after, we had a huge fight where she yelled at me for some pretty stupid things (like goofing around) that none of my other friends would have ever gotten mad about. We didn’t talk for a month, but finally just said, “let’s agree to disagree,” and put it behind us.

I don’t feel the same towards her anymore, but she went on pretending we were the best of friends after that. I still haven’t forgotten what happened and don’t see her as such a great friend anymore. When I got engaged she didn’t say anything about being in the wedding, but asked if she could plan my bachelorette party, told me how excited she was, that she needed to lose weight for my wedding, and so on. I know she asked one of our mutual friends if she thought she was still in the wedding. I know I have to say SOMETHING to her, but I don’t know what to say. She still acts like she’s my bestest friend and wants to help me plan the wedding, but I really don’t want her that involved.

What do I say!?

soontobeLJW

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