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Catch up on the entire After “I Do” series here! And if you have a burning question you’d like to see discussed, submit it here!
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After your wedding, what were some of your immediate regrets in regards to the wedding day? Now that time has gone by, do you have different/additional regrets, or do you no longer regret those initial regrets?
Immediate regrets: taking my frustrations out on friends and family members during the day. I had hoped that I would be able to play it cool and let things roll off my back on the big day, but I didn’t. When people upset me or things stressed me out, people knew. I still feel terrible about this. Also, I wish I had been more specific about our playlist or used an iPod. You can read about our DJ-related screw ups in my archives—I’m not going to belabor that point. 
Later regrets: OMG I DID NOT GET A PICTURE WITH MY MOTHER. We were LITERALLY together ALL DAY and we do not have a posed photograph that is just the two of us! Also, if I had to get married again, I would probably have a smaller bridal party.
The other little things that bugged me after the wedding (wish I had used real flowers on the cake instead of gum paste, wish I hadn’t raised the waistline of my dress, etc.) have faded in the year since our big day…your regrets will too!
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Catch up on the entire After “I Do” series here! And if you have a burning question you’d like to see discussed, submit it here!
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Are/were you and your SO on the same page when it comes to having children (or not)? Have your views on having children (when, how many, etc.) changed since you were engaged or first married? If so, what changed your mind/views/timeline? Bee parents: How did you and your SO decide when you were ready to start trying to have children? Did any specific life events influence your decision?
Ah yes, the baby timeline. I had it all worked out. We’d get engaged, get married sometime the next year, wait a year and then get pregnant…then have a second one when the first was about two…that would make us 36 and 38 at which time we would figure out if we wanted a third. The funny thing about timelines, is that they seem so necessary…and to a certain point, they are…I mean, it would have made no sense to wait ten or so years to experience our marriage and then have a baby because we didn’t get married until I was 32 and he was 34. But the reality is that sometimes timelines are just too much pressure.
Have we followed our timeline pretty consistently? Sure. Would it have killed us to have strayed from the timeline? No…it probably would have helped us feel less pressure. The truth is, there is no GOOD time to have a baby. Sometimes the best timing is the unexpected timing because without it you wouldn’t understand how much control you have to relinquish when you have kids. period.
I will say, that the most comforting thing that my husband and I experienced when making that final yes-we’re-ready-to-try-to-start-a-family NOW decision was witnessing two of my most eccentric and opinionated and unique friends have a baby together and seeing how it both did and did not change who they were as people.
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Join the Pittsburgh bees for a meet up tomorrow, February 19th (Saturday) at Bocktown Beer and Grill!
They have quite a few beers on draft, but they have more to offer than just booze—check out their website for a full menu.
Bocktown is located at 690 Chauvet Drive, Pittsburgh, PA 15275, out near IKEA and across the parking lot from Target. We’ll be there on Saturday, February 19th, at 1:30PM. When you get there, just ask for the Weddingbee meet up, or look lost and I’m sure someone will wave you over to our table.
Hopefully we’ll see you tomorrow!
Catch up on the entire After “I Do” series here! And if you have a burning question you’d like to see discussed, submit it here!
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How did your relationship change in the first year of your marriage? When comparing day 1 of your marriage to day 365, did you sense any specific/notable changes? If the changes were negative, what were some things you and your SO did to get back on track?
Marriage for me has been like running a three-legged race. You’d better be in this thing TOGETHER and in sync, otherwise you’re going to fall flat on your face.
Before Mr. Powder Puff and I got married, we’d make joint decisions. Joint decisions like where were we going to go for dinner. Once we signed our marriage license, we realized that we are now a unit, a family. And we make decisions based on what’s best for the family, not just us as individuals. From little things, like what kind of curtains to get, to big things like where we’ll live and how we’ll spend our money, everything needs to be run past and agreed upon by the other person. This has really taken a lot of trust and compromise that wasn’t as necessary before we tied the knot.
Sometimes Mr. Powder Puff and I get out of sync and have a stumble. But the best part about marriage is you always have a partner to help you get back up. Hopefully with time we’ll become even more adept at working together. Heck, we have an entire lifetime to perfect it! Until then, we’ll keep picking each other up, and working toward our goals…together.
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Catch up on the entire After “I Do” series here! And if you have a burning question you’d like to see discussed, submit it here!
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On a scale of 1 to 10, how much stress does money put on your relationship? Has it changed since the beginning of your marriage? How do you handle your finances as a couple? What do you think you could do to improve the way you handle your finances?
On a scale of 1 to 10, finances are a 2 right now. Up until the the beginning of the year, it was more of an 8 for me and a 6 for the Mr.
Since we were engaged, we have had separate our money into several different accounts: we each have a personal checking account, and then we have a joint checking and savings accounts. When we get paid, an equal dollar amount gets deposited into our separate accounts, with the remainder (a much larger proportion) in our joint. We use our personal money for gifts for each other, dinner or drinks with friends, and frivolous items ourselves, like fun shoes for me or video games for Mr. Dahlia. All of our finances: retirement accounts, bank accounts, frequent flier accounts, savings bonds, etc., are tracked online through yodlee.com. (I know that mint.com is the more popular choice—it is “GUI-er” and has a prettier interface—but I’d rather have the greater functionality of Yodlee.)
For the money in our joint account, twice a month money is automatically withdrawn into our savings account (currently held at SmartyPig.com), where it is dispersed among several short and medium term goals. (Everything from funding our emergency fund to our downpayment savings to vacations and Christmas gifts and our renter’s insurance). The remainder is what is left for spending that month. We typically pay for things with a credit card (since we get cash back) but pay it off in full every month. We both contribute a significant portion of our pretax income to our 401ks.
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Chances are that your bridesmaids and friends are traveling far and wide to attend your bachelorette party. Show your appreciation for them with fun and affordable goodies from the Weddingbee Favors Shop! Remember: the prices on almost all favors go down when you order in bulk, so check out the favors’ pages to find even deeper discounts than those listed here!
Here are some of our favorite bachelorette gift ideas:
“With This Ring” Chrome Diamond-Ring Bottle Stopper ($4.14 each this week with 10% off)
Create the honeymoon of your dreams.
10% off everything in the shop ends this Saturday! See the end of this post for details!
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The Weddingbee Invitations Shop is constantly growing with great new products, and we’re excited to share! Check out the understated elegance of our new Martha Stewart stationery, as well as a slew of fun new paper goods right here!
Finally, our very own bee stationery!
The shops are expanding, and we’re loving the new products in the Weddingbee Favors Shop! We’re loving all things black and white—classic and chic. From gifts, to favors, to decor, check out just a small sampling of what’s new and monochromatic!
“Kensington” Personalized Reversible Tote - solid ivory canvas on one side reverses to bold stripes!
You loved last week’s promo in the Weddingbee Invitations Shop, so we’re extending it until this Saturday!
Until Saturday, the more you spend, the more you save!
10% off $99+
15% off $149+
20% off $199+
We’ve got great wedding essentials in shop, including personalized napkins! The napkins are available in every color under the sun, and you can customize them with your own names and wording! Check out some of our faves:
Spice up your out of town bags with great personalized gifts in the Weddingbee Favors shop! Check out some of our favorite gifts and accessories that will make your out of town bags unforgettable!
This week only, save 5% off of everything in the Weddingbee Favors Shop!
If you’re offering personalized favors to your guests, check out some of our favorite stylish ways to wrap it all up! The Weddingbee Favors Shop has a great selection of favor boxes, the perfect touch to add to your handmade or candy favors.
There are great deals to be had this week in the Weddingbee Invitations Shop!
Now’s a great time to stock up on great coordinating stationery for your wedding, including the fun and flirty Perfect Peony coordinates—they’d make some amazing bridal shower invitations! Coordinate your entire wedding with Perfect Peony’s custom thank you cards, and round and square labels.
Until Saturday, the more you spend, the more you save!
10% off $99+
15% off $149+
20% off $199+
Simply enter code WBM0111 to take advantage of the discount. The code expires this Saturday, January 29, so hurry to save.
This week, everything in the Weddingbee Favors Shop is 10% off! Even though the holidays are over, baby it’s STILL cold outside! To warm you up, here’s our favorite selection of candle favors in stock right now:
“Our New Monogram” Monogrammed Votive Candle in Sheer Organza Bag
This is the week to save big on everything in the Weddingbee Invitations Shop! From save the dates, to invitations, to ceremony and reception, to thank yous and everything in between, check out Weddingbee’s huge selection of coordinating wedding stationery!
This week, the more you purchase the more you save! It’s a perfect time to stock up on great coordinating items, like our gorgeous new “Sophisticated Scroll” line:
Check out the full line of “Sophisticated Scroll” stationery here!
Simply enter code WBM0111 at checkout to receive the discount. This deal expires Saturday, January 22.
We’ve been stocking the shop lots of new goodies for the new year, too! Check out everything new here, and happy shopping!
We’ve thoroughly enjoyed reading real Weddingbee brides’ experiences with their vendors via the Weddingbee Vendors section! A while back, we launched Featured Reviews from the Hive, a new feature that allows you to share your favorite vendors right here on the front page! We’ve loved all of the great vendor reviews coming at us.
Currently, we’re regularly featuring your favorite vendor reviews that you write and submit to us. Every Friday we’ll randomly select a featured reviewer that week to win a prize from our Weddingbee Favors Shop!
This week’s winner of the “Knotted Couture” Monogrammed Quilted Tote Bag is Loribeth for her review of her photographer, Dream Weaver Photos in Georgia!
Stay tuned on Monday for next week’s prize announcement!
If you’re a recent bride and you’d like to participate for a chance to win every week, simply review your favorite vendors on Weddingbee and follow the easy instructions to submit your review here. We look forward to seeing your wedding pictures featured on the blog!
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