When I meet a newly engaged couple, or a friend of mine gets engaged, the first thing that I have been to known to say (after “Congratulations!” of course) is, “Being engaged was the best of times, and it was the worst of times, but being married is truly awesome.” I loved the sparkly, exciting time of being engaged, planning for our future, learning who we were as a couple as we faced our families, but to be honest, our engagement was not a particularly happy time. Blogging helped me to focus on the fun aspects, and being part of the Weddingbee community was a blessing of support that I never could have imagined, but we dealt with a lot in managing our families, and I would not want to go back to that time. That being said, waking up on June 7, 2010 next to my new husband made it all worth it.
The Hermit Crabs had a traditional Jewish ceremony, and we did not write our own vows. However, we signed a ketubah—Jewish marriage contract—and recited the words during the ring exchange (“Behold, thou art consecrated to me with this ring, according to the law of Moses and Israel” for him, and “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine” for me). Getting married in the Jewish tradition and being part of the Jewish community is very important to us, and these traditions are innate in our relationship and our lives.