Weddingbee

I would be lying if I said Mr Butterscotch and my first 5 months of wedded bliss has been smooth sailing. Sure overall it has been wonderful, but we never lived together before the wedding so we’re finding out tons of new things about each other… including a few new pet peeves. For example, even though the dishwasher is right there, Mr Butterscotch will just put his dirty dishes on top of the dishwasher rather than in the dishwasher. He is also learning that basketball two nights a week is about my limit.

I recently found a list called 10 Steps to Being A Better Husband by Craig Playstead. (You can follow the link to read the complete examples.)  These don’t all apply to Mr Butterscotch, and but some of the ideas were good. 

1. Take an interest in something your wife is really passionate about.
2. Put the kids to bed.
3. Learn to apologize.
4. Thank her for putting up with you.
5. Clean up after yourself.
6. Make time for just the two of you.
7. Groom yourself.
8. Get away from the family.
9. Deal with your side of the family.
10. Don’t lose your dating manners.

What else would you add to the list for grooms to be? 

Christina Aguilera has released a video with her song Save Me From Myself. It has snippets of her getting ready and of her actual wedding to Jordan Bratman in 2005. I really like this because it’s timeless and it must have extra special meaning to them as a couple with her singing!

I’ve been a bad Mrs. and haven’t really done much with our video yet, but this has inspired me!

What fabulous things are you planning on doing to your video to make it timeless and unique for years to come?

Last night while Mr Butterscotch and I watched basketball on tv, I saw a commercial for Eva Longoria Parker’s (aww cute she added his name) new movie called Over Her Dead Body. From what I gathered by the preview, it’s about a woman who is accidentally killed on the day of her wedding by an ice sculpture. Ouch! After Eva’s death, her friend begins to date her now widowed fiance. Eva’s character then haunts the couple. Cute way to make a morbid topic fun, right?

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My friend Julia sent me the cutest proposal of her friend’s brother Stavros proposing to his girlfriend Moira this holiday season in the big Apple! Awww how cute is that!

I loved being engaged! It was so much fun - all the planning, all the pretty magazines. One of my favorite things to do as a bride was attend the Seattle Wedding Show. It’s that time of year again and the wedding show is this weekend! Here is all the info you need to go!

Washington State Convention & Trade Center
800 Convention Place, 4th Floor
Seattle, WA 98101

Saturday January 5th 2008
10:00am to 5:30pm (ticket sales open at 9:30am)

Sunday January 6th 2008
10:30am to 5:00pm (ticket sales open at 10:00am)

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I was just looking on msn.com and they had a story about the Hottest Cougars in Hollywood. Now I am no where near a “cougar’s” age, but ever since April, Mr Butterscotch has been teasing me to “enjoy my last year in my 20’s”. I’m older than him only by 5 months!

Age has never really bothered me that much, but his constant teasing does get under my skin once in awhile. Since we’re so close in age, I can say that we have a lot of common memories of growing up. And while the rumor is that men are less mature than women, I can say Mr Butterscotch and I are just about at the same level when it comes to maturity.

But I wondered how some couples who do have a big gap in age make it work? And how do you ladies that are older feel about being the older one in the relationship?

About two weeks after we got married, I changed my last name. Choosing to change or not to change your name is totally personal. Mr. Butterscotch didn’t care one way or the other, so it was all my choice, and I was happy to do so. When I made the change officially at work, it was a big to do. All my co-workers were confused by my email - who was this new person? And my nickname (which was based on a combination of my first and last name) didn’t flow as nicely anymore.

So now I have been Mrs X for a little over 3 months. About a month ago I started a new job. Nobody at my new job knows my maiden name so there was no confusion for them. I was introduced to everyone as Leah X. In fact the first few days I was sick of hearing my name being said over and over again as I met everyone. Today my new business cards arrived, and there it was in black ink - I was Mrs X. Oh. Wow. I am officially Mrs X to everyone. The name that I have been known by for 29 years is gone.

Sure I still accidentally sign my maiden name on occasion, but I just giggle and cross it out and write my married name. I love my new name, but it is such a funny thing to have a name one day and a new one the next.

Are you or did you change your name? How long did it take for you to get totally used to it?

Thanksgiving is tomorrow and I’m taking a moment to reflect on how much everything has changed since last year, and all that I am thankful for. This time last year we were newly engaged, not living together and we had barely started to plan our wedding. Now we are happily married, living together in our first house we bought , and the wedding is all but a memory. Sure we did have a few bumps in our road this year but, I am so thankful for everything we have. We have wonderful family and friends that are all in good health and I have a new fabulous job that I am loving. Best of all, each night I get to curl up next to Mr Butterscotch and wake up next to him each morning.

How about you - what are you thankful for this Thanksgiving eve?

Last week I talked about what I would not change. But there were a few thing that I would have loved to have a do-over on.

1. Guest pictures. I really wish I would have had our photographer take photos of each table at the reception. I can remember most people that were there but, a handful of people I cannot for sure remember.

2. People in my dressing suite. I really wish I would have set better boundaries for who I had coming into my bridal room. It was chaos at some points. Finally I had one of my bridesmaids ask everyone to leave. If I could do it over again, it would have been just me and my bridal party.

3. Make up touch up. I don’t know how this slipped past me but I wish I would have remembered to reapply my lipstick before I started my formal pictures. I was wearing a long lasting lip color but the color was much more vibrant in pre-ceremony pictures. Have one of your BM carry your lipstick with them. Trust me you will be too excited and you will forget to reapply.

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The longer we have been married, the more I have had a chance to look back on the day. It all happened so fast, but I think we really made the most of it. If I had to do it again, here is what I would not change and would recommend for other brides.

1. Take a moment after the ceremony and before the reception to talk with your new husband. Mr Butterscotch and I actually had two moments. First as we exited, we waited for our guest to go outside and we were in a stairwell. We had this short time of about 3 minutes all alone to just take in each other and the amazing thing we had just experienced. Then we took a few pictures and walked to our reception venue. Again we were alone together and we talked about the day so far and what we had each done the night before and that morning. As we walked, passing cars honked and yelled congratulations. We both couldn’t stop smiling at each other. I think all couples should take a few moments together to just reflect about the ceremony and enjoy a quite moment before the reception.

Us right before we hid away in the stairwell.

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