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Dear Weddingbee,

My normally very outgoing, super gregarious fiance says he feels too shy to do a first dance at our wedding.  He says that he will feel really shy to be so lovey-dovey in front of everyone and that the idea of everyone watching him dance (or even just sway) makes him incredibly nervous. I said that we didn’t have to do a first dance,…

Dear Weddingbee, 

My wedding is about a month away, and I’m starting to get a little anxious about the big plunge. Suddenly, I find myself being attracted to my fiance’s good friend.  Although I’m not seriously entertaining the thought, is this kind of thing normal? Like, some biological pull away from mating for life? There aren’t any red flags in my relationship, and I’ve been able…

I need some outside advice as I just haven’t been to that many weddings! Since I am of African heritage, I plan to have a african dance troupe perfom during my reception ( about 20 mins) as a tribute to my heritage.  However I have no idea when they should perform during the reception.  I’ve heard so many things and I just need a little…

We have a guest dilemma. Because our best man’s wife is on long-term assignment in Europe, he usually brings along his good buddy “Joe” when we hang out. BM was just married and will take the honeymoon right after our wedding, so his wife can’t make the trip. We totally understand this, but now our BM has said that because he’s traveling to HI (our wedding…

Dear Weddingbee:

Our wedding date is August 11th.  We originally wanted a wedding with only 100 guests and picked our site based on that number.  We thought that we could easily invite 120 guests and expect 20% or so not to show; unfortunately, as things tend to go, my mother added immediate family members from her side of the family that she conveniently did not say…

We are having an intimate 80-90 person wedding in two months. The invitations were mailed last week. Because of our desire to keep the event small-ish and the size of our reception location, we did not include “& guest” invitations, and only invited husbands & wives / extremely long term significant others.

Last night we received a phone call from FI’s uncle, requesting if his…

Dear Weddingbee:

I just got engaged 2 weeks ago.  We told my parents that weekend and they are ecstatic. My mom and I already started planning for a wedding we said would occur late next summer.
 
The FI’s parents are a slightly different story.  As immigrants that aren’t fully assimilated into the American culture, they were never ecstatic that he was dating a girl that wasn’t the…

We had engagement pictures done at the beginning of May, and I just received my prints yesterday that I ordered. There were several things that occured during our experience with the photographer that I am becoming increasingly upset about - and I’m wondering if anyone has any advice on whether or not I should say something to her, complain, write a letter, etc.

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Hi,

My sister and I got married a few months apart but had very different weddings. I got married in a hotel ballroom in New York while she got married in Asia. I planned my whole wedding while she had to rely on others for advice and planning. Recently, she confided in me that she was unhappy with our mother’s lack of interest and participation through…

Suzi asks:

My father insists on walking me down the aisle, but refuses to have a father-daughter dance. I don’t want him to participate in a tradition I find outdated nor want (him giving me away) but not participate in a tradition that I’ve looked forward to since I’ve gotten engaged.

Would it be wrong of me to ask that he dance with me at my…

Our venue requires liability insurance from our vendors. Is this standard for most places? Our event coordinator says it is. If anyone has gone through this process I’d really appreciate some suggestions/advice. Do most vendors carry liability insurance?

WP

I would like to plan a traditional church wedding with a reception following in the fellowship hall. In my head, I would love to have music and dancing. (Nothing that would be unappropriate at the church of course.) However, I have had people comment to me that you should NEVER have music or dancing at the church, even in the fellowship hall for a reception.…

Dear Weddingbee,

We’re having a huge church wedding and reception, but would still love for everything to look beautiful! Unfortunately neither of us have an eye for design so we were considering hiring an interior designer to create a cohesive vision for us. We know that floral designers often handle the decor, but a fellow church member is doing our flowers for us and while they’re…

Since the beginning of my relationship with FI over 3 1/2 years ago, his brother and (now) sister-in-law have been rude and horribly disrespectful to me. About a year and a half ago, they started attacking FI’s parents and FI, making cutting remarks and excluding them from their child’s life and major events/holidays/etc. FI tried talking to his brother dozens of times over that year…

We decided on a Sunday wedding to save money. It’s an evening wedding, because the reception venue won’t let us start any earlier than 5 pm. Originally, I was fine with the possibility of guests leaving early, because I know our closest friends and fam are cool with taking Monday off from work. (And guests leave early from Saturday weddings, right?) But now I’m starting…