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Sarah W.

Hi there,

I’m mailing you all the way from Sunny South Africa with a request for your help!

I read Weddingbee all day everyday and am now an addict! I know that you and your Bees can find most things, so now I need your services. I found the attached pic somewhere on someone’s knottie bio - but unfortunately can’t find this Corpse Bride cake Topper for sale anywhere online. Do you perhaps know where I can get one? (from someone who ships internationally of course)

Thanks so much,

Liezl Thompson
An avid Weddingbee fan

I have a situation that Miss Kiwi reminded me of with wanting to fire her MOH. I will try to make it as short and sweet as possible. I asked a friend of mine who I’ve been friends with for the last 8 years to be a BM in my wedding in September. She and I have had our share of arguments over the years, (but otherwise were really great friends!) but recently it had gotten to be much more often.

She isn’t always truthful and flat out lies to me at times. I confronted her about this last October, told her that I couldn’t speak to her until she figured things out, and haven’t talked to her since. The lies had gotten out of control at this point. She contacted me in the past week (4 months later) and is wanting to talk things out. I have until September before my wedding, but the BM dresses have to be ordered next month. I really don’t think 1 month is long enough to patch up our friendship and immediately be in planning mode with each other.

Do you think she assumes she’ll still be a BM? What would you do? Should I keep her in the wedding or talk to her about possibly not being in it. And if I don’t have her in the wedding, how do I tell her? I have all of this to worry about on top of having to call her back and deal with the real issues in our friendship. Please help!!

Thanks so much!
Sarah

Whose name do you use on a return address of an invitation if you and your fiance live together and are hosting the wedding, but obviously have different last names at this time. I’d like to purchase an embosser with our married name and address, but is it “jumping the gun” to use my future last name as a return address when my last name isn’t really his yet? Should I just save the embosser for after the fact and print our different names on the invite?

Nikki

We are both Catholic (one of his relatives is actually a priest and wants to marry us). However, to save money, I wanted to have an outdoor ceremony at our reception location and it’s always been a dream for an outdoors ceremony. I know it is pretty strict that if both parties are Catholic, they have to get married in a Church. But is there any way to get around the whole Church thing? (We aren’t strict Catholics - we go to Church maybe once a month). Like if we had a civil service prior and then an actual ¢¢â€š¬…”ceremony¢¢â€š¬? outside, would that work? I’m just not sure how we’d get around his uncle being a priest.

dos

Hello everyone at WeddingBee!

I have a question that I hope to get some insight on. MY FI and I hope to get married sometime in the middle of next year The date has not been set. My mother is gung ho and is trying to do everything super Chinese…in spite of the fact my FI isn’t. She bought up a point that, traditionally with the Chinese, when there is a death in the family (she is worried that may happen next year since both my grandmothers are quite old), the wedding must be postponed for 1000 days (or 3 years). She insists that if either one of my grandmothers passes away, that I have to postpone the wedding.

Now, to me, this is just not practical. After all, if invites are out and venues and things have been booked, to postpone for three years is asking too much. My FI and I have been dating since our first year of university. We would like to get married and yet I am afraid our refusal to postpone a wedding will cause some family rift.

I was wondering if any of the bees or readers are worried about this problem? Or perhaps, if such an unfortunate event was to occur next year, what we can do? I should also add that my mother and father are very inflexible to any suggestions made by me.

Help!

As always,
Paige (^_^)

Dear Weddingbee,

Thanks!
Ms YuMMie

I have a question about registering. I’ve heard that some stores (Target specifically) have very particular return policies, regardless of whether the items are from a registry. Does anyone have experience with Target’s policies? It’s making me leery about registering there, even though they have great stuff!

Thanks!

Emily

On your knottie bios of the week, you featured 10.14.2006bride who had a beautiful clutch in her bio.

Can someone tell me where I can find this clutch or something similar? I tried paging her on theknot but not sure if she’s still lurking around. Thanks!

Esther

The one thing that I have been stressing over since I got engaged is not my dress, the venue or the vendors¢¢â€š¬¦ it’s the bridesmaid dresses. Both of my bridesmaids have to have modest dresses. My mother wants it to be a dress, not a skirt and a top, and ultimately we don’t have the money to pay for their attire. I know it’s so-called ¢¢â€š¬…”standard¢¢â€š¬? to have the bridesmaids pay for their own attire, but I don’t think they know that and I REALLY don’t want to be the one to tell them.

How do I tell them I want/need them to pay for their own dress?

T

My fiance and I just booked our venue and it isn’t the usual looking venue. The area where we plan on having the ceremony is shaped rather oddly (it looks like a circle with two mini circles on the sides). The biggest issue we’re having is that there is a fountain right in the middle of the area, so we can’t have an aisle runner. Is it necessary to have an aisle runner and are there alternatives to having a runner? I thought about rose petals then found out that rose petals were prohibited. I’d love to have something so any suggestions would help. Thanks!

Kristine

I write because I am desperate and am truly hoping that your readers may have insight as to how to handle our problem.

We got married back in October of 2006, and our photographer mentioned that we should call her when we get back from the honeymoon to discuss when we would receive proofs. So we called in November, and didn’t hear anything. We started calling more frequently in December, with no reply. Then, towards the end of December, her machine was full and would not take any more messages. January rolled around and her phone got disconnected. We called our wedding hall (who recommended the photographer), to see if they had information on the photographer. The hall mentioned that they recently found out that the photographer closed up shop and is no longer in business. The proceeded to tell us that there are other brides in our situation that are also trying to hunt down the photographer.

We are running out of ideas! We filed a complaint with the BBB, but they’re not members. We cannot locate her home address/number. Basically, we were told that we cannot do anything legally if we don’t have any contact information. My husband even discussed this matter with the town DA, but without contact information, it’s useless.

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Hi,

I love your site, so when I began having this dilemma, I realized you would be the perfect place to go. I’m looking for some help on alternatives to diamonds for engagement rings. My boyfriend and I have basically decided we are getting married, and he still would like to surprise me by popping the question. I’ve been trying to help him with ideas for an engagement ring, and though originally I thought I would want a diamond (what girl doesn’t?), I have since become concerned about cost. He’s in law school and I’m finishing up undergrad, and the idea of dropping a couple thousand dollars or more on a ring bugs the part of me that wants to save for a beautiful wedding and honeymoon, as well as our future home.

So I’ve been looking for some alternatives, and I’ve stumbled across white sapphires and pearls. I’ve been having some trouble finding reputable websites and research, so I was hoping those of you at weddingbee could help me. Do any of you have any experience with nontraditional (nondiamond at least) engagement rings? How did you go about researching and purchasing said rings? I’m based in Illinois (Chicago and/or Champaign), so if anyone has any specific recommendations for my area as to where to go, that would be helpful as well. Thanks for any and all help!

Caitlin

I need help searching and I know the bees and the readers are the most helpful!

Thanks so much!! ~Jessi

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Are any brides who are not ordinarily superstitious, but are nonetheless following any wedding-related superstitions?

There are some culturally-originating superstitions in the family I am marrying into. Although I do not personally feel that anything ominous will happen if I do or fail to do such-and-such, I find myself respecting these little traditional superstitions all the same, maybe just to avoid the criticism/teasing for not being aware of them. (Or heaven forbid something does go wrong, and somehow it will be attributed to my failure to respect the superstition!)

Anyone else following suit or abiding by any superstitions of your own?

Iris