Weddingbee

Back in May of 2006, we did a poll on weddingbee reader budgets.  The top spot was occupied by the $10,000 - $20,000 bracket, followed by the $20,000 - $30,000 bracket.

Since the “national average” wedding budget is often a disputed number, I thought it’d be interesting to revisit this topic to see if anything has changed!  So tell us:

Mrs. Bee here.

Recently I came across the comments on an old post by Darcy Miller regarding a white dress she wore as a guest to a wedding.  This controversial topic brought about some very harsh criticism from readers.  As a bride it wouldn’t really bother me if my guests wore white, but when I’m a guest at a wedding, I have to admit that it does bother me when other guests wear white (and there’s always at least one female guest that wears an all white dress). 

But let’s find out what weddingbee readers think!

Mrs. Bee here.  We did a Reader Buzz last week on Introverts versus Extroverts in relationships.  Mr. Bee is an introvert, which works out nicely since I am one too.

Mrs. Petunia posted two links to a more detailed psychological analysis of your personality (the Myers Briggs test).  It breaks down more than just Introvert versus Extrovert - but also things like whether you’re Thinking versus Feeling, etc.

Mr. Bee and I are both INTJ’s.  What is that, you say?  Well someone created a cool site which maps the personality types onto Harry Potter characters.  According to them, INTJ’s are like Severus Snape!

Perfectionist?  Prefer to avoid drawing too much attention to themselves?  That doesn’t describe me or Mr. Bee at all!

What’s your Myers Briggs and Harry Potter personality?  Are you and your SO Harry Potter compatible?

This is Mr. Bee. Mrs. Bee has been out of town for the past few days, and I have missed her a lot!

Here are the top things I’ve missed (that I can share).

• It feels sad to leave the apartment without a kiss goodbye
• It’s no fun to come home to an empty apartment
• It’s nice to be able to catch up on each other’s day, at the end of the evening

Also, Smokey the cat is going crazy without someone to hang out with all day.

What do you miss the most about your SO when they are out of town?

Mrs. Bee here.  I was chatting with some of the bees recently about whether they were extroverts or introverts (the discussion started because I have a completely unfounded theory that most bloggers are introverts).

Here are some definitions of extroversion and introversion via about.com:

Extrovert: An extrovert is a person who is energized by being around other people. Extroverts tend to “fade” when alone and can easily become bored without other people around. When given the chance, an extrovert will talk with someone else rather than sit alone and think. In fact, extroverts tend to think as they speak, unlike introverts who are far more likely to think before they speak. Extroverts often think better when they are talking. Concepts just don’t s eem real to them unless they can talk about them; reflecting on them isn’t enough. Extroverts enjoy social situations and even seek them out since they enjoy being around people.

This is a follow-up to yesterday’s reader buzz on financial contribution and its relation to decicion making in the wedding planning process. 

How many seats are you allotting for your parents’ guests?  Also, what percentage of your total guest list is comprised of your parents’ guests? 

Lately there’s been some talk about how to involve your parents in the wedding decision making. This is especially tricky with big decisions, like how many guests parents can invite to the wedding.

One rule I’ve seen mentioned a few times is the money rule. If you’re paying for most of your wedding, you get to make most of the decisions. If your parents are paying for most of it, they make most of the decisions.

All this talk has got me wondering: who is paying for your wedding - you and your FI, or your parents? And if your parents are contributing, are you finding that they’re making more decisions than if you paid for the wedding yourself?

I’ve noticed that different people spell weddingbee in different ways.

I tend to spell it “weddingbee” - all lower case.

Mr. Bee goes off how it looks in the logo: “Weddingbee”, with a capital W.

And I’ve seen a lot of people spell it as two words: “Wedding Bee”.

We should probably standardize on something!

Feel free to explain your logic in the comments!

Mrs. Bee here. 

I recently heard from several readers and bees that they’re more into weddingbee after they’re married than before.  Maybe it’s just PTWS, but I wonder when you totally get weddings out of your system.

So married readers please share, how long have you been married and does your wedding obsession show any signs of waning?

Mrs. Blueberry did a poll awhile back on the length of your engagement period.  Then Miss Petunia debated the pros and cons of a short vs. long engagement period in her post earlier today.

So let’s find out….