Weddingbee Blog

Back in May of 2006, we did a poll on weddingbee reader budgets.  The top spot was occupied by the $10,000 - $20,000 bracket, followed by the $20,000 - $30,000 bracket.

Since the “national average” wedding budget is often a disputed number, I thought it’d be interesting to revisit this topic to see if anything has changed!  So tell us:

Mrs. Bee here.

Recently I came across the comments on an old post by Darcy Miller regarding a white dress she wore as a guest to a wedding.  This controversial topic brought about some very harsh criticism from readers.  As a bride it wouldn’t really bother me if my guests wore white, but when I’m a guest at a wedding, I have to admit that it does bother me when other guests wear white (and there’s always at least one female guest that wears an all white dress). 

But let’s find out what weddingbee readers think!

Mrs. Bee here.  We did a Reader Buzz last week on Introverts versus Extroverts in relationships.  Mr. Bee is an introvert, which works out nicely since I am one too.

Mrs. Petunia posted two links to a more detailed psychological analysis of your personality (the Myers Briggs test).  It breaks down more than just Introvert versus Extrovert - but also things like whether you’re Thinking versus Feeling, etc.

Mr. Bee and I are both INTJ’s.  What is that, you say?  Well someone created a cool site which maps the personality types onto Harry Potter characters.  According to them, INTJ’s are like Severus Snape!

Perfectionist?  Prefer to avoid drawing too much attention to themselves?  That doesn’t describe me or Mr. Bee at all!

What’s your Myers Briggs and Harry Potter personality?  Are you and your SO Harry Potter compatible?

This is Mr. Bee. Mrs. Bee has been out of town for the past few days, and I have missed her a lot!

Here are the top things I’ve missed (that I can share).

• It feels sad to leave the apartment without a kiss goodbye
• It’s no fun to come home to an empty apartment
• It’s nice to be able to catch up on each other’s day, at the end of the evening

Also, Smokey the cat is going crazy without someone to hang out with all day.

What do you miss the most about your SO when they are out of town?

Mrs. Bee here.  I was chatting with some of the bees recently about whether they were extroverts or introverts (the discussion started because I have a completely unfounded theory that most bloggers are introverts).

Here are some definitions of extroversion and introversion via about.com:

Extrovert: An extrovert is a person who is energized by being around other people. Extroverts tend to “fade” when alone and can easily become bored without other people around. When given the chance, an extrovert will talk with someone else rather than sit alone and think. In fact, extroverts tend to think as they speak, unlike introverts who are far more likely to think before they speak. Extroverts often think better when they are talking. Concepts just don’t s eem real to them unless they can talk about them; reflecting on them isn’t enough. Extroverts enjoy social situations and even seek them out since they enjoy being around people.

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This is a follow-up to yesterday’s reader buzz on financial contribution and its relation to decicion making in the wedding planning process. 

How many seats are you allotting for your parents’ guests?  Also, what percentage of your total guest list is comprised of your parents’ guests? 

Lately there’s been some talk about how to involve your parents in the wedding decision making. This is especially tricky with big decisions, like how many guests parents can invite to the wedding.

One rule I’ve seen mentioned a few times is the money rule. If you’re paying for most of your wedding, you get to make most of the decisions. If your parents are paying for most of it, they make most of the decisions.

All this talk has got me wondering: who is paying for your wedding - you and your FI, or your parents? And if your parents are contributing, are you finding that they’re making more decisions than if you paid for the wedding yourself?

I’ve noticed that different people spell weddingbee in different ways.

I tend to spell it “weddingbee” - all lower case.

Mr. Bee goes off how it looks in the logo: “Weddingbee”, with a capital W.

And I’ve seen a lot of people spell it as two words: “Wedding Bee”.

We should probably standardize on something!

Feel free to explain your logic in the comments!

Mrs. Bee here. 

I recently heard from several readers and bees that they’re more into weddingbee after they’re married than before.  Maybe it’s just PTWS, but I wonder when you totally get weddings out of your system.

So married readers please share, how long have you been married and does your wedding obsession show any signs of waning?

Mrs. Blueberry did a poll awhile back on the length of your engagement period.  Then Miss Petunia debated the pros and cons of a short vs. long engagement period in her post earlier today.

So let’s find out….

Mrs. Bee here.

Earlier this year I mentioned how I wanted to renew our vows on our 5 year anniversary.  I don’t think the 5 year renewal will happen, but hopefully we can aim for the 10 year.

I often think about the type of wedding we’d have if we could do it again.  We had a classic Manhattan loft wedding, and it was beautiful and fun and great.  But an outdoor, much more casual, even rustic wedding is better suited to both our personalities.  I’d love to do something like a big ol’ barbecue. 

What type of wedding are you having, and if you could do it again (even if it’s an imaginary wedding), how would you do it differently?

This is Mr. Bee.

Mrs. Bee posted last year about whether or not she would remarry, if I was no longer buzzing around. Between you and me, I hope the answer is yes… I think she’s happier with a Mr. Bee around (although if she called him Mr. Bee, I might turn in my grave!).

When we asked the hive if you’d remarry, 50% of people said that yes, 15% said no, and 34% said maybe.

So know we know what you all would do if your partner died. But what about the flip side… if you died, would you want your partner to remarry?

ps Sorry for the macabre Reader Buzz… between Mrs. Bee and me, we have five planets in Scorpio!

Mister Bee here, with another Reader Buzz.

Mrs. Butterscotch blogged this morning about how in the mornings, she wants to “just want to stay in bed all snuggled up and warm next to him.”

A commenter on the post cracked me when she agreed: “It is so hard leaving in the morning. Plus, he’s the source of all the heat and I hate to be cold.”

Haha! I am also the “source of all the heat”. However, Mrs. Bee tells me that I am *too* hot. So I’ll have to work on that one.

How hot is your partner?

Mister Bee here. Mrs. Bee is traveling, so I’m jotting down a Reader Buzz that we discussed earlier on the phone.

Mrs. Bee and I often talk about the “honeymoon phase”… that time in a relationship when you are wildly in love. You gaze into each others’ eyes adoringly, plan romantic dates and getaways, and in general simultaneously inspire and sicken all of your close friends.

Then over time, that honeymoon love “matures”… and becomes a different type of love. A more mature, deeper love. Or so they say.

I actually don’t believe in love maturing… I believe that honeymoon love can last for a lifetime. Maybe not as intensely as it was in the beginning, but it can still be awfully intense.

What do you think?

If you’re still in the honeymoon phase, how long have you been together?!

Mrs. Bee here. 

I often hear brides say that their wedding day was perfect, and they wouldn’t have changed a single thing.  Call me a pessimist (because I am one! )… although our wedding was wonderful, there were definitely things I would have done differently.  Maybe it’s all just a matter of perspective.

But I’m really interested in hearing what our married readers have to say!