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Mrs. Bee here.

Since it’s the day before Thanksgiving, I thought that we should have a reader buzz about the holidays.

I am a total holiday whore. I seriously love every single holiday! And since meeting Mr. Bee, holidays have become so much more fun because I have my own family to celebrate each one with now.

I love New Year’s because it’s the start of a fresh year full of possibility and resolutions I know I’ll never keep. I love Valentine’s Day because what’s wrong with having a day just to celebrate love? I love Independence Day fireworks and barbecues and camping trips. I love Halloween because it’s the day after my birthday, and Mr. Bee and I get to dress up in couple costumes. I love Thanksgiving because it’s all about family and food and food and food. (Have I ever told you about my philosophy that calories don’t count on holidays and vacations? ;)) And I love Christmas because I love Christmas trees, decorations, carols, giving gifts, and just being in the spirit of the holiday season.

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Mrs. Bee here.

Mrs. and Mr. Butterfly shared quite a long first kiss as husband and wife ;). This got Mr. Bee and I to talking about how we practiced our first kiss before the wedding - it was not too long, not too short and with our mouths closed.

Are you and your FI planning on practicing your first kiss? What type of kiss are you planning on having - a short, sweet peck, a longer kiss but with mouths closed, a kiss with mouths slightly open, or a deep, long, passionate open-mouthed kiss?

Mrs. Bee here.

One of the most common issues brides tell me they face when planning their weddings, is the level of involvement of their parents/in-laws - especially when it comes to the number of guests their parents invite.

Luckily both Mr. Bee and I are friendless and have small families, and our parents didn’t live in New York where the wedding was held. So we didn’t have a problem with an overflowing guest list.

What percentage of your guests are your parent’s friends/guests? Do you find that the more your parents are contributing financially, the more say they have in the wedding planning?

Mrs. Bee here.

We did a reader buzz last month on who said “I love you” first. So I thought it’d be fun if we talked about when you knew you were in love with your significant other. With me and Mr. Bee, I think it was love at first encounter. I don’t know if I believe in love at first sight - do you?

Mrs. Bee here.

So many brides enjoy the wedding planning process, that they want to get into the wedding industry after their own nuptials. I mean that’s exactly what I did!

Whether it’s as planners, invitation designers, florists, bloggers ;)… If you had the opportunity - would you want to work in the wedding industry?

Mrs. Bee here.

Before Mr. Bee and I got married, we made a big deal out of exchanging birthday, anniversary and Christmas gifts. Now that we’re married, I prefer not to exchange gifts at all to save time and money. How unromantic!

But maybe for Christmas this year, we’ll set a budget of $25 for each other’s gifts because it’s the first year we won’t be getting a tree. And I love Christmas!

Do you have any policies when it comes to exchanging gifts with your significant other?

Mrs. Bee here.

Mr. Bee’s parents are in town (staying with BIL Bee). They’re coming over to our apartment tonight for the first time since we moved here, so Mr. Bee and I have been in a bit of a cleaning frenzy. This got me thinking about how we divide chores/household responsibilities with our significant others.

Generally I do the cooking and laundry, and Mr. Bee throws out the trash and cleans Smokey the Cat’s litter robot (if you have a cat, this is absolutely awesome). I do most of the miscellaneous household things, and we both do the dishes. But lately we’re both so busy, we really don’t do that much housework at all.

How do you divide the chores up with your significant other? Do either of you wish the other helped out more? And if you don’t live together now, do you anticipate the division of housework to be a problem once you do move in together?

Mrs. Bee here. I spotted this blog on one of the sites I’m subbed to and thought it would be interesting as a reader buzz.

I jokingly asked my husband which he would prefer: the domestic housewife who perfectly cooks/cleans but gives no sex or the horny housewife who is crazy about sex but refuses to carry out any domestic chores.

The husband chose the horny housewife 8O.

I was surprised at first. I thought all Korean men would prefer the cooking/cleaning wife. But then it made sense. The cooking/cleaning wife with no sex would be similar to the role of a mom. Is that why husbands cheat? Because they’re not getting enough sexual attention at home?

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Mrs. Bee here.

When Mr. Bee and I first moved in together, all my family and friends asked what we ate day to day. I grew up eating Korean food pretty much every day of my entire life, so they knew that I couldn’t live without it. I also eat obscenely spicy - I put hot sauce on everything and my three favorite cuisines are Korean, Mexican and Thai.

Having different tastes in cuisine can be quite the challenge in a relationship since one of the main things people do in relationships obviously is eat. Luckily Mr. Bee and his family actually lived in Korea for some time when he was a kid, so he grew up eating Korean food practically every day himself. We’re also both carnivores and he can eat quite spicy too, so when it comes to cuisine, we’re pretty compatible.

What type of food/cuisine do you and your significant other typically eat together? Are you food compatible?

Mrs. Bee here.

For some reason, I’ve always found it difficult to be financially dependent on Mr. Bee even though we’re married. While I was working on launching weddingbee, I wasn’t making any money and was completely financially dependent on him. After some time, it actually made me quite depressed because I felt like I wasn’t contributing enough to the household.

Growing up I held these antiquated notions that the man should be the main breadwinner. But now my attitude has completely changed - I definitely wouldn’t mind making a lot more than Mr. Bee… I don’t think he would mind either.

Does it matter to you or your SO whether or not one makes more than the other?

Mrs. Bee here. I know I’ve blogged about the following topic before, but I can’t remember if it was on weddingbee or my personal blog. Still it’s an interesting question that always sparks a lot of discussion.

Reader A posted the following reader buzz:

My best friend’s mom told her to marry a guy who loves her more than she loves him. This is so she’ll have the upper hand, and will be treated very well, with less chance of being cheated on.

In your relationships, who do you think loves more? You or your FI/DH? Do you agree with my friend’s mom’s theory?

Mrs. Bee here.

Reader Annie left this comment on the last reader buzz, and for some reason, it cracked me up:

I’m relatively new to weddingbee, so i don’t know all the rules. Is there a reason why you almost never talk about sex? I always thought it was a huge topic in marriage, like the whole saving yourself til honeymoon, a reason why people divorce, ways to keep the relationship hot. Is it because you want to keep the site PG or that some of your moms/relatives/churchgoing friends read this?

Yes Annie, my mom does read this site, but that doesn’t really affect whether or not we talk about sex. And while we may not have talked about sex as extensively in the past, you’re right - it should be a regular topic of conversation here on weddingbee.

So let’s dive right into it with a poll.

Mrs. Bee here.

Mr. Bee was very careful not to scare me off the in the beginning of our relationship, so he let me take the lead. He knew I was the one right away, but I was extremely skeptical, guarded, and cautious because to tell you the truth, I just didn’t believe in love for someone like me. I guess I was too practical. Not to mention that I didn’t believe in long distance relationships.

It took me a little while for all of it to sink in. But once it did - it was actually me who was the first one to say, “I love you.” This was around 2-3 weeks after we met.

So who said I love you first and how long did it take?

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PS - Mr. Bee came up with the idea for this reader buzz. Please feel free to provide suggestions for future reader buzz topics!

Mrs. Bee here.

For the first 10 months of our relationship, Mr. Bee and I were long distance so our main mode of communication was the phone. One time we even talked a record 10 hours straight.

But since Mr. Bee and I moved in together, we hardly ever talk on the phone. We’re both online 24/7 so our main mode of communication is im. We’ve even been known to im each other when we’re in the same room. We’ll also send emails and text messages quite regularly, but we rarely talk on the phone. Since we met through my blog, I guess we’re just an internet obsessed couple.

How do you and your fiance stay in touch day to day? Phone? IM? Text messages? Email?

Mrs. Bee here.

Mr. Bee doesn’t understand why I never wear makeup when we go out, but always put makeup on when I go out with my girlfriends. For him it’s the exact opposite - he doesn’t care what he looks like in front of his friends. If he’s going to get dressed up, it’s going to be for me.

I was having dinner with a couple of Ladies Who Launch members awhile back and asked them if they were the same way. They all said yes - women dress for other women, not for men was our consensus.

Do you get more dressed up when you go out with your girlfriends than you do when you go out with your significant others?

(image via bizzyb)