Weddingbee

Mrs. Bee here.

This is the view of the rooftop garden across the street from the window I sit beside all day. I hope I can live there one day soon.

The reason for the picture is because fall is my favorite season and it would have been my ideal time of year to get married. We got married in March which really worked out because fall would have been too long to wait, and we didn’t have to compete for vendors in that off month.

But if I could do it again, I’d love to get married in fall. Or perhaps a destination wedding.

What season are you getting married in?

This is Mr. Bee.

It’s true, it’s true… I did enjoy watching The Notebook with Mrs. Bee. However I would never admit this in a public forum. And now that I’ve been outed, I can never meet any of you… it would just be too embarrassing!

I’ve noticed that couples often have similar tastes in movies. It doesn’t have to be a 100% match - I like watching action movies, whereas Mrs. Bee is a bit plus/minus on them. But it’s important to have a few genres that you can enjoy together. For us, it tends to be romantic comedies, documentaries, and foreign films. These shared genres make up for the fact that I am too squeamish to ever watch a horror movie with Mrs. Bee.

Are you and your S.O. movie compatible?

Mrs. Bee here.

When Mr. Bee and I first joined Netflix, the first movie in our queue was The Notebook. Mr. Bee watched it reluctantly but afterwards he confessed that he liked the movie.

Although we had had the conversation before, after the movie we got to talking about which one of us we would want to die first. Sure it’d be great to die together, but that only happens in the movies.

I’ve always thought I would die first but that’s because I’m a crazy hypochondriac. But I also think it would be harder on me if Mr. Bee died first than vice versa.

It’s a little morbid, but you must have thought about it - who would you want to die first?

Mrs. Bee here.

This past Sunday at Miss Butterfly’s bridal shower, we got to talking about how all of us met our significant others. Two met their husbands through their blogs, another met her fiance through her blog, and yet another met her boyfriend through her blog.

I guess you could say that all of us are really into blogging.

How/where did you meet your significant other?

There was a great article in the New York Times yesterday about the decline in percentage of married couples in the United States.

Married couples, whose numbers have been declining for decades as a proportion of American households, have finally slipped into a minority, according to an analysis of new census figures by The New York Times.

…The total number of married couples is higher than ever, and most Americans eventually marry. But marriage has been facing more competition. A growing number of adults are spending more of their lives single or living unmarried with partners…

…Some said that pregnancy was the only thing that would prompt them to make a legal commitment soon. Others said they never intended to marry. A few of those couples said they were inspired by solidarity with gay and lesbian couples who cannot legally marry in most states.

Would you be okay with never marrying? Do you see more people around you making that same decision?

Mrs. Bee here.

Yesterday Miss Apple brought up the topic of prenuptial agreements, so today let’s talk about another legal document - the will.

Mr. Bee and I have been talking lately about having wills made. He has some stock to take care of, while I have massive debt to bequeath. It’s something that we seriously started considering now that we’re married.

Are you and your significant other planning on creating wills?

Mrs. Bee here.

Our last reader buzz was about cheating nightmares - I guess everyone has them! Now I don’t feel like such a freak!

So yesterday I was reading my friend’s astrology advice blog ElsaElsa, and she had a great post about a cheating spouse. It was about a woman who was happily married for twelve years with two children. She recently discovered that her frequently travelling husband had had numerous affairs. His defense was that all men do it, it’s natural, it meant nothing, and that it was just sex. She doesn’t think he’s going to stop and the worst part is, she’s trying to figure out what she did wrong.

Now I’m not going to deny that I’ve imagined myself in this type of scenario a million times - even long before I met Mr. Bee. Could I forgive a cheating spouse? I know the answer is not so black and white when you’ve been together so long and especially when children are involved. But I really don’t think I could.

Mrs. Bee here.

Sometimes I’ll have a nightmare where Mr. Bee cheats on me, and I wake up mad at him. Mr. Bee doesn’t see how this is fair. But I have the most vivid dreams of anyone I know - I swear it just seems so real!

Have you ever had a dream that your significant other cheated on you, and woke up angry at him?

Mrs. Bee says: As Mr. Bee and I settle into married life, we are slowly starting to become friends with each other’s friends. We each have our own set of close friends, so this is a new experience for us. Beforehand, it was just his friends and my friends - we had all met each other, but we weren’t really that close.

Do you have any shared friends with your S.O.?

Mr. Bee and I were watching Castaway on tv last night. I’ve always loved this movie - yes I cried when Tom Hanks lost Wilson.

In one of the final scenes in the movie, Helen Hunt tells Tom Hanks, “I love you. You’re the love of my life.”

What would you do if you were Helen Hunt, married with children, and the love of your life that you thought was dead suddenly returned?