I was taking a break today to read the news, and what do you know, there was an article about what age to marry. In 1890 the average age to marry for men was 26 and for women 22. The average age to marry dropped significantly in the 1960’s and is now the highest since the census began in the late 1800’s.
Personally I felt on the younger side — I was 26 and Mr. Onion was 27 when we were married last September. But according to the census, this is exactly the average age for 2007. I was the first of my friends to marry, so that also added to my perception of “average.” I think a lot of your perceptions of the best age to marry has to do with where you live and of course your circumstances. Many couples wait until they are finished with degrees (undergraduate or graduate), while some just don’t find “the one” until later in life. There is so much societal pressure for so many women to get married by a certain age. People have strong opinions — “Oh you’re too young to get married,” or “What are you waiting for? You’re not getting any younger!”
Also, your “plan” changes along the way. If you’d asked me when I was in college when I thought I’d get married, I would have said my early 30’s. But then I fell in love and suddenly the time line I had in mind didn’t matter anymore.
Do you think, like John Van Epp suggests in the article, that we are so confident now in fertility treatments to take care of us, that we wait longer to marry and have a family? What age do you think is ideal for women and men to marry and why?
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